“So pause for a moment to think: what is your real main ambition for your child or children? To help you answer that, consider: What was the last reason for which you nagged them? What was the last commitment you arranged for them? What was the last story of frustration you told about them to a friend? I ask these questions not to make you feel guilty. I ask them to help you lift your eyes out of the mud and mess around your feet and look up to the sky, to the stars, to the mountains,”