“It is difficult to discern the difference between a bully and an abuser when he leaves no bruises or broken bones. The distinction is even more blurred when your church and community group unwittingly aid the abuser in his craft by telling you that you are making too big of a deal out of his insensitive personality. Submit more, pray more, and cook him a nice dinner and he will change his ways. The target is, in short, held responsible for her abuser’s actions. I”