“When we attempt to predict the future in an unpredictable world, not only are we deluding ourselves, but worse we are actually inhibiting our ability to sense and respond to reality in the present moment. When you impose a “should”—as in “I should be X in five years’ time”—you create an attachment to that outcome; the attachment limits your ability to sense when reality is not going in that direction, or when other possible opportunities arise that might conflict with what you first set out to achieve.”