“Before you talk (or before you continue to talk) about someone who is not present, ask yourself the following: • Would I say this if he were here? (Really? Be honest now.) • Would I receive this bad news about her in the same way if she were present? • Am I hiding this conversation from someone? • Would I want someone else to talk this way about me if I were out of the room? Yeah, But What About . . .? Let”