“Life can be difficult and no one escapes its challenges. Sooner or later you will find yourself pressed to your limits. It may come in the form of a broken relationship, or unemployment, or a serious illness, or the death of a loved one. When it comes you will be tempted to define your life by that painful experience.
Don't succumb to that temptation.
Refuse to define your life by any single event, whatever it may be. Its a real part of your life, but that is all--just a part.”