Marie Duthoo > Marie's Quotes

“I think I’m always so much more happy with books and movies and stuff. I think I get more excited about well-done representations of life than life itself.
- Celine”
― Richard Linklater, Before Sunrise & Before Sunset: Two Screenplays

“So often in my life I've been with people and shared beautiful moments like travelling or staying up all night and watching the sunrise, and I knew it was a special moment, but something was always wrong. I wished I'd been with someone else. I knew that what I was feeling - exactly what was so important to me - they didn't understand.”
― Julie Delpy, Before Sunrise & Before Sunset: Two Screenplays

“no one really
knows anyone. That’s the thing
about relationships - people are
always saying, “I want to know you,
I want to know who you are.” But
it is so hard for anyone to even
know themselves. Who I am is
always changing, so how can anyone
else share in that?”
― Richard Linklater, Before Sunrise & Before Sunset: Two Screenplays

“The moon is a loyal companion.
It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light. The moon understands what it means to be human.
Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.”
― Tahereh Mafi, Shatter Me

“I would always rather be happy than dignified.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“I can live alone, if self-respect, and circumstances require me so to do. I need not sell my soul to buy bliss. I have an inward treasure born with me, which can keep me alive if all extraneous delights should be withheld, or offered only at a price I cannot afford to give.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“Reader, I married him.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilised by education: they grow there, firm as weeds among stones.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“Gentle reader, may you never feel what I then felt! May your eyes never shed such stormy, scalding, heart-wrung tears as poured from mine. May you never appeal to Heaven in prayers so hopeless and so agised as in that hour left my lips: for never may you, like me, dread to be the instrument of evil to what you wholly love.”
― Charlotte Brontë , Jane Eyre

“Laws and principles are not for the times when there is no temptation: they are for such moments as this, when body and soul rise in mutiny against their rigour ... If at my convenience I might break them, what would be their worth?”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“Forever is composed of nows.”
― Emily Dickinson

“That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.”
― Emily Dickinson

“This is my letter to the world
That never wrote to me”
― Emily Dickinson

“How happy is the little stone
That rambles in the road alone,
And doesn't care about careers,
And exigencies never fears;
Whose coat of elemental brown
A passing universe put on;
And independent as the sun,
Associates or glows alone,
Fulfilling absolute decree
In casual simplicity.”
― Emily Dickinson

“Er was een speciale soort eenzaamheid dat ze bewaarde voor de nacht, omdat de gedachten dan donker zijn als de wereld daarbuiten, omdat er niemand is om ze tegen te spreken, omdat een bang hoofd zichzelf maar moeilijk kan kalmeren. En soms waren er nachtgedachten die weigerden te verdwijnen in de ochtend.”
― Griet Op de Beeck, Let op mijn woorden

“Ze wou dat hij opnieuw de slappe lach zou krijgen. Maar in zijn ogen zat alleen maar verte, en afgronden, en nacht.”
― Griet Op de Beeck, Let op mijn woorden

“Lise vroeg zich af waarom mensen dat deden, terugdenken aan vroeger, en of het ergens tegen hielp. Zij deed het bijna nooit. Misschien omdat vroeger voor haar nog niet zo lang geleden was. Of omdat ze zich zo weinig herinnerde, zelfs de momenten vastgelegd op foto leken haar eigenlijk een ander te zijn overkomen. Of omdat ze toen een kutkind was, dat kon ook.”
― Griet Op de Beeck, Let op mijn woorden

“Unrelenting criticism, especially when it is ground in with parental rage and scorn, is so injurious that it changes the structure of the child’s brain.
Repeated messages of disdain are internalized and adopted by the child, who eventually repeats them over and over to himself. Incessant repetitions result in the construction of thick neural pathways of self-hate and self-disgust. Over time a self-hate response attaches to more and more of the child’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
Eventually, any inclination toward authentic or vulnerable self-expression activates internal neural networks of self-loathing. The child is forced to exist in a crippling state of self-attack, which eventually becomes the equivalent of full-fledged self-abandonment. The ability to support himself or take his own side in any way is decimated.
With ongoing parental reinforcement, these neural pathways expand into a large complex network that becomes an Inner Critic that dominates mental activity. The inner critic’s negative perspective creates many programs of self-rejecting perfectionism. At the same time, it obsesses about danger and catastrophizes incessantly.”
― Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

“Reparenting Affirmations I am so glad you were born. You are a good person. I love who you are and am doing my best to always be on your side. You can come to me whenever you’re feeling hurt or bad. You do not have to be perfect to get my love and protection. All of your feelings are okay with me. I am always glad to see you. It is okay for you to be angry and I won’t let you hurt yourself or others when you are. You can make mistakes - they are your teachers. You can know what you need and ask for help. You can have your own preferences and tastes. You are a delight to my eyes. You can choose your own values. You can pick your own friends, and you don’t have to like everyone. You can sometimes feel confused and ambivalent, and not know all the answers. I am very proud of you.”
― Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

“But remember that anyone who tells you you’re “too” anything is using the word because they are threatened by your capacity to grow, evolve and express your emotions.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“Choosing yourself will always disappoint some people. The sooner we accept this and make peace with it, the better.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“Temporary discomfort is an investment in your future self. Accept a small and uncomfortable transition now, for a lifetime of growth and self-development.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“You are not a source of energy for others to take. This is your table, you set the standards and you choose who gets a seat. Start turning away people who have the audacity to show up in your life with crumbs, because crumbs can’t feed you. Find someone who brings you a whole cake.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“Promise yourself to stop buying into people’s potential.
You’re not a start-up investor.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“Does this person value your time? Time is another important boundary and a real eye-opener when it comes to how people value their relationship with you. If they always show up late, cancel last minute, and only drop in your life when they need you, they do not respect your time. This is not a reciprocal relationship. You are being used for your energy! Don’t give any time to people who don’t have time for you.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“uncomfortable and liberating – exactly what growth is supposed to feel like.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“Imagine all of the past versions of yourself, standing right in front of you. They are all smiling, looking back at you. They are so proud of you.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“Growth can feel isolating. Everything you thought you knew about yourself and the world shifts right before your eyes.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty

“No one’s approval is ever worth compromising your own boundaries and abandoning your own beliefs for.”
― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty