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“The avoidants’ defensive self-perception that they are strong and independent is confirmed, as is the belief that others want to pull them into more closeness than they are comfortable with. The anxious types find that their perception of wanting more intimacy than their partner can provide is confirmed, as is their anticipation of ultimately being let down by significant others. So, in a way, each style is drawn to reenact a familiar script over and over again55.”
― Jeb Kinnison, Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

“Perhaps nothing is as disheartening as the discovery—after years of trying to escape from your dysfunctional childhood—that you have actually managed to recreate it. One woman, the daughter of a hypercritical and demanding mother, recently talked with me about her recently-ended, two-decades-long marriage: "I still have issues with feeling capable and doing things right. Unfortunately, I married my mother and was never able to feel competent in my husband’s eyes, either. I also never really felt loved by him, in the same way I didn’t feel loved by my mother.”
― Jeb Kinnison, Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

“it as as if the Dismissive is most comfortable exercising the balance of power in the relationship, holding their struggling partner at a distance and just providing enough attention and reassurance to keep them on the hook.”
― Jeb Kinnison, Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

“It's important to note both partners are capable of adjusting their communication styles to make their relationship more satisfying to both; while it is harder for the Dismissive, who often don't see a reason to change, they can learn to respond reassuringly more often. Discussion of the problem can help, especially if the Anxious-Preoccupied partner learns to rely more on inner assurance and reduce the rate and insistence of messages requesting reassurance.”
― Jeb Kinnison, Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

“An idea can only become a reality once it is broken down into organized, actionable elements.”
― Scott Belsky, Making Ideas Happen: Overcoming the Obstacles Between Vision and Reality

“You can't rely on others—especially your managers and clients—to engage your strengths. In an ideal world, managers would constantly be thinking about how to best utilize their people—and clients would always unearth your greatest potential. Unfortunately, the reality is that bosses and clients are as worried about their own careers as you are about your own. You must take the task of marketing your strengths into your own hands.”
― Scott Belsky, Making Ideas Happen: Overcoming the Obstacles Between Vision and Reality

“Constant motion is the key to execution.”
― Scott Belsky, Making Ideas Happen: Overcoming the Obstacles Between Vision and Reality

“Self-leadership is about awareness, tolerance , and not letting your own natural tendencies limit your potential.”
― Scott Belsky, Making Ideas Happen: Overcoming the Obstacles Between Vision and Reality

“يقول شوبنهاور: لاشيء يبعث فينا الانسجام أكثر من المعرفة الدقيقة، وكلما ازددنا معرفة لعواطفنا كلما قلّت سيطرتها علينا. ولاشيء يحمينا أكثر من السيطرة على نفوسنا، فإذا أردت أن تخضع كل شيء لنفسك أخضع نفسك لعقلك. إن قاهر العالم لا يثير فينا الإعجاب كما يثيره قاهر نفسه”
― Will Durant, The Story of Philosophy: The Lives and Opinions of the World's Greatest Philosophers

“لا شيء يُعلّمُ الإنساان أكثر من الصدمات واهتزاز المشاعر”
― ول ديورانت, قصة الفلسفة

“إن الفلسفة تبدأ عندما يبدأ الإنسان يتعلم الشك، وخصوصاً الشك في المعتقدات التي يحبها، والعقائد والبديهيات أو الحقائق المقررة التي يؤمن بها ويقدسها.”
― Will Durant, The Story of Philosophy: The Lives and Opinions of the World's Greatest Philosophers

“Excellence is an art won by training and habituation: we do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have these because we have acted rightly; "these virtues are formed in man by his doing the actions";[69] we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit;”
― Will Durant, The Story of Philosophy

“Men are not content with a simple life: they are acquisitive, ambitious, competitive, and jealous; they soon tire of what they have, and pine for what they have not; and they seldom desire anything unless it belongs to others.”
― Will Durant, The Story of Philosophy