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“Remember that what gets talked about and how it gets talked about determines what will happen. Or won't happen. And that we succeed or fail, gradually then suddenly, one conversation at a time.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“As a leader, you get what you tolerate. People do not repeat behavior unless it is rewarded.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“Our power as individuals is multiplied when we gather together as families, teams, and communities with common goals.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“If you are open, vulnerable, disclosing, more likely than not it will be reciprocated and walls will come down.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“Do you view your relationship as something to be endured for the sake of the kids, or because you don’t want to be alone, or because you don’t think you could do better?  Or do you view your relationship, even with its imperfections, as a worthwhile work in progress?  How would your view influence how you interact with your partner, what you do, what you say?  What results would those interactions produce?”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts---One Conversation at a Time

“Ask yourself, “How did I get here? How is it that I find myself in a company, a role, a relationship, or a life from which I’ve absented my spirit? How did I lose my way?”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“I want us all to stop thinking only in terms of accomplishments, of task and completion, of beating the competition, of gathering income and merchandise, of winning praise, and instead, live our lives forging the deepest relationships we can with ourselves and with one another. i want us to respond to adversity by deepening our engagement in our lives. It isn't complicated.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“Has a sense of humor. (Preferably warped.) We know who we are”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“Once you achieve intimacy and connection, I predict that innovation, partnership, execution and success won't be far behind.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“The first thing the attendees saw when they walked in was a poster with the question “What are our mokitas?”—a Papua New Guinea word for that which everyone knows and no one will speak of: the elephant in the room.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“People feel disrespected when they show up and others don't. The message received is that those who arrive late value their own time more than that of their colleagues.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“Ask yourself . . . What are my goals when I converse with people? What kinds of things do I usually discuss? Are there other topics that would be more important given what’s actually going on? How often do I find myself—just to be polite—saying things I don’t mean? How many meetings have I sat in where I knew the real issues were not being discussed? And what about the conversations in my marriage? What issues are we avoiding? If I were guaranteed honest responses to any three questions, whom would I question and what would I ask? What has been the economical, emotional, and intellectual cost to the company of not identifying and tackling the real issues? What has been the cost to my marriage? What has been the cost to me? When was the last time I said what I really thought and felt? What are the leaders in my organization pretending not to know? What are members of my family pretending not to know? What am I pretending not to know? How certain am I that my team members are deeply committed to the same vision? How certain am I that my life partner is deeply committed to the vision I hold for our future? If nothing changes regarding the outcomes of the conversations within my organization, what are the implications for my own success and career? for my department? for key customers? for the organization’s future? What about my marriage? If nothing changes, what are the implications for us as a couple? for me? What is the conversation I’ve been unable to have with senior executives, with my colleagues, with my direct reports, with my customers, with my life partner, and most important, with myself, with my own aspirations, that, if I were able to have, might make the difference, might change everything? Are”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“The world is changing. No matter what any of us is shopping for, we can find good products, good services, good solutions. We want to enjoy the experience of using those products, those services. This firm doesn't have a lock on brilliance. Your prospective clients can find that elsewhere. They want to enjoy the experience of implementing a brilliant solution in collegial and congenial partnership with teh people who brought it to them.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“A leader’s job is to get it right for the organization, not to be right.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“What is needed now is for leaders to become more open, more flexible, less egoistic and less hypocritical. We must loosen our death grip on whatever we believe to be the truth simply because it is how we want the truth to look. We must be honest with ourselves and invite honesty from others.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“In Henry David Thoreau’s Walden, written during his year in a one-room cabin with few possessions, is this quote: “The cost of a thing is the amount of what I will call life that is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“The problem named is the problem solved.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who he is, believe him the first time.” Or her.  What we do is who we are.  When someone says, “That’s not me,” after doing something or saying something hurtful, they are mistaken.  That is them.  That is exactly them or at least a part of them and it may be a part of them that you do not want in your life.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts---One Conversation at a Time

“What matters anywhere in your organization, matters everywhere in your organization.”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst "Best" Practices of Business Today

“leave this conversation with”
― Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

“Toni's Talk: When you invest in yourself, you have instant credibility with your biggest critic...you! As soon as you let doubt creep in---you lose that investment. Make a daily commitment to assess your worth with positive affirmations and watch your investment grow.”
― C.Toni Graham

“Life’s too short to walk around with your arms crossed and bottom lip poked out. Find a way to smile for yourself even if it’s as simple as licking the spoon clean or putting clean sheets on your bed.”
― C. Toni Graham

“We strive for harmony, but it is not always realized.”
― C. Toni Graham, Crossroads and the Himalayan Crystals

“Time was not on their side, it was the enemy.”
― C. Toni Graham, Crossroads and the Himalayan Crystals

“Inspiration ignites the spark of magic. Creativity is magic.”
― C. Toni Graham

“Get immersed in the beauty that surrounds you. No filters, edits, or adjustments. Experience the colors, sounds, textures and smells within your reach. Live.”
― C. Toni Graham

“Only you can charter the course of your destiny.”
― C. Toni Graham, Crossroads and the Himalayan Crystals

“If reading makes you happy, do it. Whatever makes your heart sing and brings you joy, do that too.”
― C. Toni Graham

“Imagination is not bound by possibilities. The creative mind will always break the shackles—making the impossible, possible.”
― C. Toni Graham

“All living things are sensitive to their surroundings and convey distress and sorrow as well as joy. Trees are no exception as they are most rooted to mother earth and their limbs carry knowledge we can only aspire to obtain.”
― C. Toni Graham, Crossroads and the Himalayan Crystals