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“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

“There are three main styles of coping: thinking, feeling, and doing. If someone you love is going through a difficult time, try to understand what their coping style is and then feel with them rather than trying to deal with it from the start.”
― Philippa Perry, The Book You Want Everyone You Love to Read: Sane And Sage Advice to Help You Navigate All of Your Most Important Relationships

“Listening to differences and working through them is about understanding and compromise, not about winning. Rather than damning others with judgments, I think our lives would be better if we remained open with curiosity.”
― Philippa Perry, The Book You Want Everyone You Love to Read: Sane And Sage Advice to Help You Navigate All of Your Most Important Relationships

“Embrace moments of change not as a frightening unknown but as an opportunity to uncover and pursue your desires. At first it will feel like letting go of a rope and not knowing where the ground is. It can be scary. But more often than not, solid ground is only two inches below your feet.”
― Philippa Perry, The Book You Want Everyone You Love to Read: Sane And Sage Advice to Help You Navigate All of Your Most Important Relationships

“Isn’t it strange how we say sorry in Chinese? In every other language it’s some version of “pardon” or distress. But ‘duì bù qǐ…’ We’re saying we don’t match up. Sorry I didn’t do what was expected. Sorry I let you down. Sorry you expected me to save you from harm, and I didn’t—I didn’t.”
― Chloe Gong, Foul Lady Fortune

“To be a boy opened doors that would never open for me, shielded him in a way where my own status as a woman had stripped me naked.”
― June Hur, The Red Palace

“To believe that life is far greater than this one wretched moment.”
― June Hur, A Crane Among Wolves

“Hopefully in the next lifetime, we will meet again,” he said, glancing down at me. “And in kinder circumstances.” I gazed up and offered him a small smile. “I hope so, too.”
― June Hur, A Crane Among Wolves

“Another revelation: how much laughter is a part of grief. Laughter is tightly braided into our family argot, and now we laugh remembering my father, but somewhere in the background there is a haze of disbelief. The laughter trails off. The laughter becomes tears and becomes sadness and becomes rage. I am unprepared”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Notes on Grief

“In truth, at first it is a protective stance, a shrinking from further pain, because I am drained limp from crying, and to speak about it would be to cry again. But later it is because I want to sit alone with my grief. I want to protect—hide? hide from?—these foreign sensations, this bewildering series of hills and valleys.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Notes on Grief

“Death could just come hurtling at you on any day and at any time, as it had with her.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Notes on Grief

“I felt I’d gotten the interaction all wrong. I wanted her to wake up and ask me the right questions. I would have told her that I knew she’d done the best she could, the best anyone could. I would have told her that I felt guilty every day about the hours I spent away from her, about the times I wanted to be away from her and the horrible, stupefying sadness that filled the room where she was slowly losing herself. I would have told her I felt guiltiest of all that part of me wanted this to finally be over, so I could begin to remember her the way she used to be, instead of the way she was now. But her eyes stayed closed.”
― Genevieve Kingston, Did I Ever Tell You?

“My greatest hope is that having known you were so loved as a child that you will be able to choose for your friends and companions people who love you for your own true self. That you will know how to give yourself a happier, kinder, more supportive and loving life than I knew how to give myself. Because I grew up with parents who did not know how to express their love for me, never having been given love themselves when they were children, I didn’t know how to give myself a loving, nurturing life as a grown-up. I pray that though I didn’t get to stay with you nearly long enough that somehow I have been able to help you feel so loved and valued in the time we had together that you will know that you are worthy to be loved and nurtured as an adult and that you, in turn, will be able to freely express your love and caring for others.”
― Genevieve Kingston, Did I Ever Tell You?

“Did I ever tell you” had become my five favorite words. They signaled that I was about to be transported, carried on the magic of someone else’s words, into the past.”
― Genevieve Kingston, Did I Ever Tell You?