Jennifer > Jennifer's Quotes

“The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can't be cheered out of. You don't need solutions. You don't need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

“There is not a reason for everything. Not every loss can be transformed into something useful. Things happen that do not have a silver lining.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

“We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.”
― Heidi Priebe, This Is Me Letting You Go

“When our intuition isn’t realized consciously, it can communicate to our subconscious through dreams. Countless great minds have credited dreams with giving insight into the waking world. At least one even resided in the White House! Abraham Lincoln had a dream that “strangely annoyed” him. He dreamt of a wooden coffin in the East Wing of the White House, with a Union soldier standing guard. In the dream, Lincoln asked the guard who was in the casket, and he responded, “The President. He has been killed by an assassin.” Only three days after recounting this dream, Lincoln was assassinated and his body laid in the East Wing to await burial.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“When we live authentically, we do not hide from our emotions. We do not project, as there is no need. We are not defensive; we are simply true to who we are.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Instances in which we’re able to lend a helping hand are always remembered when we die. When the opportunity to extend compassion comes our way, no kind deed is meaningless. Our lives provide opportunities for us to extend compassion unique to what our situations allow, and we must strive to take every chance we can to look out for one another. Our life review doesn’t emphasize the times you spent doing mindless work or distracting yourself, it reflects most the moments where fulfillment could have been increased. Just as we’re faced with what we didn’t do and could’ve done, we enjoy seeing the fruits of our compassionate labor. We see how every act of kindness, particularly selflessness, made the collective a better whole. We realize ourselves as part of the bigger picture, a mere extension of a greater unit. Souls on the other side eventually see the true nature of our existence and its entangled, interwoven nature that unites us.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“The idea of living a purposeful life and a successful life are of the same vein. Both emphasize thriving where you’re planted and achieving a sense of fulfillment. I define success as the realization and execution of our purposes. It’s more than material excess or external validation; success is being able to die knowing you lived a life worth having.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“In the afterlife, she was at peace. She remembered holding her daughter’s hand and going for a walk as much as she remembered breaking records. Those little human moments weren’t so little, and gave insight into the human condition. No matter how ordinary or extraordinary our lives, it’s the love that we take with us.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Living authentically makes us happier, healthier, and more capable of seizing the moment. When we’re in alignment with who we are, we make choices that better our future selves. Spirits have lived and died to understand this lesson, and we can glean the insight they’ve gained. If the departed could do it over, they very often acknowledge that they’d have taken more risks in the name of authenticity. At the end of the day, who we are is all there really is. We must live with ourselves and the extent that we’re willing to embrace our true nature. By being true to who you are, you give the world a light it didn’t have before you. The world can only see what you have to offer when you know it yourself. Herein lies the key to authenticity: know yourself.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Dying is an uncomfortable inevitability. Even with my understanding of an afterlife, I’m in no rush to get there. Every one of us is touched by the change death initiates, and it’s never comfortable.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“When it comes to closure, I always emphasize that readings aren’t a cure for grief. They validate that consciousness transcends physical death, but aren’t a cure-all to the natural grief process.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“I view loss as something that forever changes any life it touches, and expecting ourselves to move on entirely can do more harm than good. The grief stages are nice in theory; they provide a beginning, a middle, and an end. But the true nature of grief is carried with us throughout our entire lives. Years may pass, and grief still may flare up or rear its head in a painful way. Grief can be baffling, frustrating, and inconsistent. We can take two steps forward and five steps back. It’s not a clear-cut series of stages that we graduate from.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“In that moment, it was hard to focus. I wished more than anything that I had the power to stop this woman from dying; it was one of the rare moments where I felt true frustration with the Universe. It didn’t seem one bit fair. I knew of the peace that awaited her in death, but that didn’t stop my awareness of the inevitable anguish her family would feel from her physical absence.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“We can’t undo the fact that someone died. But we have power in what we do to honor their life and to create something that helps fill that gap. Think of the person you’ve lost. Though you’ll never be able to introduce them to future friends and family, you can uphold their memory and what they valued. I often emphasize the importance of introducing our departed loved ones to the world through our actions. Take what can be gleaned from your loved one’s life, what they represented, and what they valued. Just because they’re no longer here physically doesn’t mean those qualities can’t be continued and live on. Approaching our grief this way can have incredible effects on our morale and our feeling of connection to them on the other side.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“One client I read recently lost her father when she was nine months pregnant. She took her dad’s favorite plaid shirt and turned it into a teddy bear for her newborn daughter to hold on to. This little gesture acted as a reminder for her and her daughter that his influence lived on. Every time she saw that teddy bear, she thought of him. It was a conversation piece in the family, and they’d often have it out on display during the holidays. This little remembrance made her father’s spirit exceedingly happy. He was still a part of the fun.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“We owe it to those we love to introduce them to those they’ll never meet physically, through our actions. When we can preserve what meant most to them and share it with the world, we keep their lives going in our own way.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“As a medium, I’ve learned that funerals and memorials are more for the living to have an opportunity to grieve, than for the departed. When we die, we don’t care about what happens to our body or where it goes. They view their former bodies like we do vehicles, and death is merely the impound lot. Meanwhile, the passenger of the car is alive and well and, if anything, has upgraded to a new means of transportation.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Funerals allow for us to meet with others, remember someone’s life, and begin processing our own grief. The departed encourage us to mourn, as it’s only natural. But the true nature of the grief process sets in weeks, months, and years after we say goodbye ceremonially.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Ron’s death put me in the same position countless people I’ve read were in. I had regret. I didn’t know the “right” way to grieve, or what to do. I was left wishing I could receive a message of my own to know that wherever he was, he was okay. I felt desperation. In time, my grief ebbed and flowed, and some days were harder than others. Only months after his death did I begin noticing indications that his soul was still with me.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Loss is a universal part of the human experience. When I communicate with the other side, they appear to be very aware of the losses we experience. They refer to divorces, acknowledge job losses, and can sometimes even foretell health struggles. All of these experiences are viewed as important by those in spirit. They acknowledge that difficulties lend an opportunity to rise to the occasion and transform.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Loss initiates change. When we go through discomfort, we grow through it. Like putting a pot of water on a burner, only when heat is applied does change begin. Loss can act as a force of momentum that makes us look at things differently, go inward, and reach new heights.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Through our grief we come to a place where we eventually must rise to the occasion. It may not be right away, but the Universe presents us chances to make up for that deficit. Only through trust, intuition, and self-awareness can we seize the opportunities set before us.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Pets provide unconditional love, but they give us a chance to receive love, too. So many people are more comfortable with animals than humans, in part because some pets can be trusted more than people. Animals don’t judge our character. Dogs yearn for companionship no matter how kindly or cruelly they’re treated. Pets embody a loyalty that we seldom find in people.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Biblical prophets attribute signs as messages from God. Spiritualists often attribute signs as guidance from spirits or spirit guides. My take is that it really doesn’t matter who exactly the sender of the signs is. To me, it’s all an extension of a higher power. The guides, deities, and spirits of time past may all be utilizing a Godly means of communication. I consider a message from a loved one to be God-sent. No matter what your exact views are on the sender of the signs, I encourage you to not let that mystery get in the way of noticing them.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Historically, mankind hasn’t attributed signs to a single source. Biblical prophets attribute signs as messages from God. Spiritualists often attribute signs as guidance from spirits or spirit guides. My take is that it really doesn’t matter who exactly the sender of the signs is. To me, it’s all an extension of a higher power. The guides, deities, and spirits of time past may all be utilizing a Godly means of communication. I consider a message from a loved one to be God-sent. No matter what your exact views are on the sender of the signs, I encourage you to not let that mystery get in the way of noticing them. In all of the readings I’ve done, I’m certain that spirits have the ability to send messages. I also have found that spirit guides are capable of bringing certain signs to our attention.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“This explains, I believe, why many people feel connections with butterflies, doves, or feathers. All three of these things share the same symbolic representation: transcendence, taking flight, and boundless freedom. If you see and attribute these symbols to your loved one, it’s likely that within that sign lies a reminder they want you to have: they’re okay and “above it all.” Our loved ones don’t give us signs unless there’s a message behind that sign, and sometimes people are so desperately searching for a message that they lose sight of the one right in front of them. Even if we don’t fully understand the signs we receive, our loved ones are communicating the importance of feeling their continued presence in our lives.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Many people attribute finding dimes, or seeing certain repeating numbers, as a reminder from a loved one that they’re still around. I don’t believe that our loved ones are following us with rucksacks full of quarters, strategically trying to get our attention with a coin toss. With that said, our departed loved ones are aware of the occurrences we attribute to them and find comfort in. If they know you’ll attribute coins to their presence, they may be responsible for helping you notice certain things at certain times, despite not physically placing them there. They can use this understanding to validate their presence, by helping us notice signs they know we’ll attribute to them.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Very often only certain family members will dream of departed loved ones, while others won’t at all. Sometimes, only one person in a family seems to notice signs from loved ones. I believe that the reason for this is a mixture of our concentration and receptivity, and the spirit’s ability to communicate. I’ve observed that sometimes spirits have a harder time communicating with loved ones who are newly grieving and in a deep state of emotional distress. Sometimes, people only notice signs once they’ve gotten deep into their mourning process.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Many people notice signs at certain times and certain places. Often times people will notice activity before they go to bed at night, or when they’re in a more relaxed state. Most often, people will experience activity in places familiar to them, like their home. It’s easier to tell what’s abnormal activity when you’re in an environment you know like the back of your hand. Countless reports of strange activity exist today, with people keeping their stories quiet out of fear of ridicule. Because I’m a medium, people feel comfortable telling me about their experiences, and they’re abundant! Electrical malfunctions and missing objects happen surprisingly frequently. Reports of bedside visitations or strange experiences while one is in bed are common. Oftentimes people will say that when they’re going through a particularly stressful time, signs and activity seem to increase.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now

“Dreams are an invaluable resource for messages and insight. Equally valuable is the conscious state you enter before you fall asleep. This transitional state can evoke pre-dream imagery that can be remembered later on. Why might one do that, you might be wondering? Well, this state gives us a glimpse into our unconscious minds. The part of ourselves that is usually hidden, even to us, comes out in our restful states. We notice more when we’re still. I suspect this may even be why people tend to notice paranormal happenings at night, versus during the day. When we’re in a relaxed state, unstimulated by our usual beeps and buzzes, we notice more. In the late hours of the evening, we’re a lot more receptive to subtleties that go unnoticed throughout our day. This state of pre-sleep is a resource into our inner worlds.”
― Tyler Henry, Here & Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now