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#1

“Perhaps the greatest faculty our minds possess is the ability to cope with pain. Classic thinking teaches us of the four doors of the mind, which everyone moves through according to their need.

First is the door of sleep. Sleep offers us a retreat from the world and all its pain. Sleep marks passing time, giving us distance from the things that have hurt us. When a person is wounded they will often fall unconscious. Similarly, someone who hears traumatic news will often swoon or faint. This is the mind's way of protecting itself from pain by stepping through the first door.

Second is the door of forgetting. Some wounds are too deep to heal, or too deep to heal quickly. In addition, many memories are simply painful, and there is no healing to be done. The saying 'time heals all wounds' is false. Time heals most wounds. The rest are hidden behind this door.

Third is the door of madness. There are times when the mind is dealt such a blow it hides itself in insanity. While this may not seem beneficial, it is. There are times when reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind.

Last is the door of death. The final resort. Nothing can hurt us after we are dead, or so we have been told.”
― Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind

tags: fantasy, psychology

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#2

“As a child I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know.”
― Carl Gustav Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections

tags: childhood, psychology

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#3

“Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.”
― James Baldwin, Giovanni’s Room

tags: anchoring, attachment, belonging, comfort, completion, fulfillment, home, irrevocability, permanence, philosophy, psychology, safety, security, state-of-mind

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#4

“Sometimes people hold a core belief that is very strong. When they are
presented with evidence that works against that belief, the new
evidence cannot be accepted. It would create a feeling that is
extremely uncomfortable, called cognitive dissonance. And because it
is so important to protect the core belief, they will rationalize,
ignore and even deny anything that doesn't fit in with the core belief.”
― Frantz Fanon, Black Skin, White Masks

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#5

“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet "for sale", who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence - briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing - cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his "normal" contemporaries. Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity,his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves.”
― Erich fromm, The Art of Being

tags: humanism, philosophy, psychoanalysis, psychology

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#6

“I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
― Abraham Maslow, Toward a Psychology of Being

tags: assumptions, hammer, instrumentalism, problem-solving, psychology, science, temptation

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#7

“A reliable way to make people believe in falsehoods is frequent repetition, because familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth. Authoritarian institutions and marketers have always known this fact.”
― Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow

tags: psychology, science, social-behavior

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#8

“When a man is penalized for honesty he learns to lie.”
― Criss Jami, Salomé: In Every Inch In Every Mile

tags: consciousness, honesty, human-nature, lying, man, penalize, psychology, punishment, reaction, response, self-defense, unconscious-mind

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#9

“Through others we become ourselves.”
― Lev S. Vygotsky

tags: development, educatin, identity, imitation, psychology, self-awareness

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#10

“...But the human tongue is a beast that few can master. It strains constantly to break out of its cage, and if it is not tamed, it will tun wild and cause you grief.”
― Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

tags: power, power-of-words, psychology

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#11

“Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That's when I will be truly dead - when I exist in no one's memory. I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people. When that person dies, the whole cluster dies, too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?”
― Irvin D. Yalom, Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy

tags: psychology

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#12

“It isn't normal to know what we want. It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.”
― Abraham Harold Maslow

tags: desire, psychology, self-awareness, understanding

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#13

“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”
― Carl R. Rogers

tags: healing, psychology, psychotherapy, self-knowledge, therapy

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#14

“We do not escape into philosophy, psychology, and art--we go there to restore our shattered selves into whole ones.”
― Anaïs Nin, In Favor of the Sensitive Man and Other Essays

tags: art, philosophy, psychology

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#15

“The pain of severe depression is quite unimaginable to those who have not suffered it, and it kills in many instances because its anguish can no longer be borne. The prevention of many suicides will continue to be hindered until there is a general awareness of the nature of this pain.”
― William Styron, Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness

tags: anguish, awareness, depressed, depression, mental-health, mental-illness, pain, prevention, psychology, suffering, suicide

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#16

“All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.”
― Asa Don Brown

tags: acceptance, admiration, american, canadian, counseling, encouraging-and-empowering-girls, females, forgiveness, human-rights, love, psychology, therapy, trusting, women

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#17

“Beneath the surface of the protective parts of trauma survivors there exists an undamaged essence, a Self that is confident, curious, and calm, a Self that has been sheltered from destruction by the various protectors that have emerged in their efforts to ensure survival. Once those protectors trust that it is safe to separate, the Self will spontaneously emerge, and the parts can be enlisted in the healing process”
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

tags: complex-ptsd, complex-trauma, dissociative-disorders, neuroscience, psychology, trauma

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#18

“Tantrums are seldom about the thing they appear to be about.”
― Diana Wynne Jones, Howl’s Moving Castle

tags: anger, behavior, psychology, sadness

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#19

“What people don't understand about depression is how much it hurts. It's like your brain is convinced that it's dying and produces an acid that eats away at you from the inside, until all that's less is a scary hollowness. Your mind fills with dark thoughts; you become convinced that your friends secretly hate you, you're worthless, and then there's no hope. I never got so low as to consider ending it all, but I understand how that can happen to some people. Depression simply hurts too much.”
― Tyler Hamilton

tags: acid, depressed, depression, depression-quotes, empathy, emptiness, emptiness-in-heart, hopeless, hurt, mental-disorder, mental-health, mental-illness, mind, misunderstood, pain, poison, psychology, psychotherapy, suicidality, suicide, toxic, worthlessness

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#20

“There were a billion lights out there on the horizon and I knew that all of them put together weren't enough to light the darkness in the hearts of some men.”
― Michael Connelly, The Scarecrow

tags: darkness, evil, hearts, lights, psychology, psychopaths, souls

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#21

“Fiction is one of the few experiences where loneliness can be both confronted and relieved. Drugs, movies where stuff blows up, loud parties -- all these chase away loneliness by making me forget my name's Dave and I live in a one-by-one box of bone no other party can penetrate or know. Fiction, poetry, music, really deep serious sex, and, in various ways, religion -- these are the places (for me) where loneliness is countenanced, stared down, transfigured, treated.”
― David Foster Wallace

tags: fiction, loneliness, on-fiction

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#22

“Fiction is like a spider's web, attached ever so lightly perhaps, but still attached to life at all four corners.”
― Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own

tags: books, fiction, literature, reading, words

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#23

“I was glad my father was an eye-smiler. It meant he never gave me a fake smile because it's impossible to make your eyes twinkle if you aren't feeling twinkly yourself. A mouth-smile is different. You can fake a mouth-smile any time you want, simply by moving your lips. I've also learned that a real mouth-smile always has an eye-smile to go with it. So watch out, I say, when someone smiles at you but his eyes stay the same. It's sure to be a phony.”
― Roald Dahl, Danny the Champion of the World

tags: children-s-literature, dahl, danny-the-champion-of-the-world, fiction

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#24

“The great joy and honour of my life has been to know you. To call you my family. And I am grateful - more than I can possibly say - that I was given this time with you all”
― Sarah J. Maas, A Court of Wings and Ruin

tags: a-court-of-wings-and-ruin, court-of-dreams, fantasy, fiction, new-adult, rhys, rhysand

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#25

“Reading is an intelligent way of not having to think.”
― Walter Moers, The City of Dreaming Books

tags: fiction, on-fiction, reading

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#26

“A good book isn't written, it's rewritten.”
― Phyllis A. Whitney, Guide to Fiction Writing

tags: fiction, on-fiction, on-writing, writing

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#27

“Writing fiction is the act of weaving a series of lies to arrive at a greater truth.”
― Khaled Hosseini

tags: art, books, deception, fiction, lies, novels, on-fiction, plot, truth, weaving, writing

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#28

“When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.”
― Jess C. Scott, The Intern

tags: desire, emotion, friendship, honesty, imagination, individuality, life, love, passion, reality, relationships, romance, truth, wisdom, wise-words

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