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“The key to activating maturation is to take care of the attachment needs of the child. To foster independance we must first invite dependance; to promote individuation we must provide a sense of belonging and unity; to help the child separate we must assume the responsibility for keeping the child close. We help a child let go by providing more contact and connection than he himself is seeking. When he asks for a hug, we give him a warmer one than he is giving us. We liberate children not by making them work for our love but by letting them rest in it. We help a child face the separation involved in going to sleep or going to school by satisfying his need for closeness.”
― Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

“Nearly everyone underestimates how powerful the touch of another person's hand can be. The need to be touched is something so primal, so fundamentally a part of our existence as human beings that its true impact upon us can be difficult to put into words. That power doesn't necessarily have anything to do with sex, either. From the time we are infants, we learn to associate the touch of a human hand with safety, with comfort, with love.”
― Jim Butcher, Dead Beat

“I know it is hard for you young mothers to believe that almost before you can turn around the children will be gone and you will be alone with your husband. You had better be sure you are developing the kind of love and friendship that will be delightful and enduring. Let the children learn from your attitude that he is important. Encourage him. Be kind. It is a rough world, and he, like everyone else, is fighting to survive. Be cheerful. Don't be a whiner.”
― Marjorie Pay Hinckley, Small and Simple Things

“You pray. And you allow the Lord to be your strength. Remember the Lord doesn't give you strength. He is your strength.”
― Lynn Austin, Song of Redemption

“Unconditional parental love is the indespensible nutrient for the child's healthy emotional growth. The first task is to create space in the child's heart for the certainty that she is precisely the person the parents want and love. She does not have to do anything or be any different to earn that love - in fact, she cannot do anything, since that love cannot be won or lost...The child can be ornery, unpleasant, whiny, uncooperative, and plain rude, and the parent still lets her feel loved. Ways have to be found to convey the unacceptability of certain behaviors without making the child herself feel unaccepted. She has to be able to bring her unrest, her least likable characteristics to the parent and still receive the parent's absolutely satisfying, security-inducing unconditional love.”
― Gordon Neufeld

“The same view you look at every day, the same life, can become something brand new by focusing on its gifts rather than the negative aspects. Perspective is your own choice and the best way to shift that perspective is through gratitude, by acknowledging and appreciating the positives.”
― Bronnie Ware, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing

“A child needs your love most when he deserves it least”
― Erma Bombeck

“Don't think or judge, just listen.”
― Sarah Dessen, Just Listen

“Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.”
― Charles Dickens

“Love God and He will enable you to love others even when they disappoint you.”
― Francine Rivers, And the Shofar Blew

“Truth without love is brutality, and love without truth is hypocrisy.”
― Warren Wiersbe

“Love chooses to believe the best about people. It gives them the benefit of the doubt. It refuses to fill in the unknowns with negative assumptions. And when our worst hopes are proven to be true, love makes every effort to deal with them and move forward. As much as possible, love focuses on the positive.”
― Stephen Kendrick, The Love Dare

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”
― Corrie Ten Boom, Clippings from My Notebook

“In life, finding a voice is speaking and living the truth. Each of you is an original. Each of you has a distinctive voice. When you find it, your story will be told. You will be heard.”
― John Grisham

“Integrity is doing the right thing, even if nobody is watching.”
― Jim Stovall

“In the end, a person is only known by the impact he or she has on others.”
― Jim Stovall, The Ultimate Gift

“... sometimes in life, you either laugh or you cry. And I prefer to laugh.”
― Jim Stovall

“In the end, a person is only know by the impact he or she has on others.
The Gift of Work: He who loves his work never labors.
The Gift of Money: Money is nothing more than a tool. It can be a force for good, a force for evil, or simple be idle.
The Gift of Friends: It is a wealthy person, indeed, who calculates riches not in gold but in friends.
The Gift of Learning: Education is a lifelong journey whose destination expands as you travel. The desire and hunger for education is the key to real learning.
The Gift of Problems: Problems can only be avoided by exercising good judgment. Good judgment can only be gained by experiencing life's problems.
The Gift of Family: Some people are born into wonderful families. Others have to find or create them. Being a member of a family is a priceless privilege which costs nothing but love.
The Gift of Laughter: Laughter is good medicine for the soul. Our world is desperately in need of more such medicine.
The Gift of Dreams: Faith is all that dreamers need to see into the future.
The Gift of Giving: The only way you can truly get more out of life for yourself is to give part of yourself away. One of the key principles in giving, is that the gift must be yours to give-either something you earned or created or maybe, simply, part of yourself.
The Gift of Gratitude: In those times when we yearn to have more in our lives, we should dwell on the things we already have. In doing so, we will often find that our lives are already full to overflowing.
The Golden List: Every morning before getting up visualize a golden tablet on which is written ten things in your life you are especially thankful for.
The Gift of a Day: Life at its essence boils down to one day at a time. Today is the Day! If we can learn how to live one day to its fullest, our lives will be rich and meaningful.
The Gift of Love: Love is a treasure for which we can never pay. The only way we keep it is to give it away.
The Ultimate Gift: In the end, life lived to its fullest is its own ultimate gift.”
― Jim Stovall, The Ultimate Gift

“the desire and hunger for education is the key to real learning.”
― Jim Stovall, The Ultimate Gift: A Novel

“You will hear your heartbeat again when your life is in rhythm, and there is no doubt that you’re doing what you were made to do. That’s your heartbeat; that’s when you’re truly alive and not just existing” I”
― Jim Stovall, Just Believe

“Anything good, honorable, and desirable in life is based on love. Anything bad or evil is simply life without the love involved.”
― Jim Stovall, The Ultimate Gift: A Novel

“When we can learn from our own problems, we begin to deal with life. When we can learn from other people’s problems, we begin to master life.”
― Jim Stovall, The Ultimate Gift: A Novel

“Frame your world with your words.”
― Caroline Leaf, Who Switched Off My Brain?

“You cannot sit back and wait to be happy and healthy and have a great thought life; you have to make the choice to make this happen. You have to choose to get rid of the toxic and get back in alignment with God. You can be overwhelmed by every small setback in life, or you can be energized by the possibilities they bring.”
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. Peace Pilgrim”
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

“You are not a victim. You can control your reactions. You do have a choice.”
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

“Thoughts are real, physical things that occupy mental real estate. Moment by moment, every day, you are changing the structure of your brain through your thinking. When we hope, it is an activity of the mind that changes the structure of our brain in a positive and normal direction.”
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

“Main Scripture: We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5 ESV Linked Science Concept: When you objectively observe your own thinking with the view to capturing rogue thoughts, you in effect direct your attention to stop the negative impact and rewire healthy new circuits into your brain.”
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

“We are not victims of our biology. We are co-creators of our destiny alongside God. God leads, but we have to choose to let God lead. We have been designed to create thoughts, and from these we live out our lives (Prov. 23:7).”
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

“Romans 12:2: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (NIV).”
― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health