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“Energy is the currency of the universe. When you 'pay' attention to something, you buy that experience.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Energy of Emotions: The 10 Emotional Environments and How They Shape the World Around Us

“What people think about you has more to do with their habitual thinking than with who you really are. You, as you are right now, are filtered through decades of their life experiences, traumas, disappointments, heartaches, and suffering. It is a reflection of their patterns of thought and stories about life. Their judgment has nothing to do with you as a whole because the experience of you cannot be separated from their experience of life.”
― Emily Maroutian, Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

“Nothing from the past can still exist unless we drag it into the present moment through our minds. Holding onto past pain creates present pain. Holding onto old fears creates new fears. Holding onto former injuries caused by others is an act of current self-injury. What’s done is gone. The only way it can live within us again is through our willingness to revive it in this moment.”
― Emily Maroutian, Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

“If you want to know where to find your contribution to the world, look at your wounds. When you learn how to heal them, teach others.”
― Emily Maroutian, Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

“Pain might make you stronger or smarter for the next time around, but learning to heal that pain makes you wiser for the rest of your life.”
― Emily Maroutian, Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

“The lacks we experienced as adolescents become the driving forces within us as adults. We are pulled to create what we didn’t have or didn’t get to experience. And so we become the adults we needed as children.”
― Emily Maroutian, Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

“The more you try to avoid something, the more you create it. There is no such thing as avoidance in energy because the energy is focused on the fear, not the desire. This is why we create things we don’t want and can’t understand how we did it. It’s usually because we took actions to avoid something we feared instead of taking actions to create the thing we desire.”
― Emily Maroutian, Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

“Energy is the currency of the universe. When you “pay” attention to something, you buy that experience. So when you allow your consciousness to focus on someone or something that annoys you, you feed it your energy, and it reciprocates with the experience of being annoyed. Be selective in your focus because your attention feeds the energy of it and keeps it alive, not just within you, but in the collective consciousness as well.”
― Emily Maroutian, Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

“Most of what we’re afraid of has already happened in some way, shape, or form. What we’re really afraid of is that it’s going to happen again. However, nothing ever repeats itself in life. Only emotion is repetitive. And if you can learn to not fear the emotion behind the event, then you won’t have to fear any event.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Empowered Self: Over 100 Activities and Steps For Creating An Empowered Mind

“Everything we want in life is because we really want the emotion behind the goal. We want to feel accomplished, happy, powerful, and good. So we want the car, the house, the spouse, and the money because we believe they will bring us those emotions. All goals are really emotions disguised as things. And fear is the contrary belief that we either won’t get those things or will lose them once we have them.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Empowered Self: Over 100 Activities and Steps For Creating An Empowered Mind

“Whether you feel your absolute best or your absolute worst today, you still deserve comfort, care, and love. You still deserve the kindness of strangers and the compassion of good friends. You still deserve hearty belly laughs and a good night’s sleep. You still deserve warm baths and a night out to your favorite restaurant. You still deserve those little moments that make you feel glad you were there to witness them. Regardless of how you feel, you will always remain a deserving being worthy of the best moment that is possible for you right here and right now.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“The world can be an unforgiving place; this is why you must learn to forgive yourself. This is why you must learn to give yourself permission to want what you want and to go after it with everything you have. This is why you must learn to give yourself the love you crave, the kindness you yearn for, and the compassion you need. This is why you must fill the lacks you discover with something other than criticism, hate, or anger. This is why you must forgive yourself—because that’s how you become whole again.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Maybe it was hard before. Maybe you didn’t know what to do or who to turn to. Maybe you wished and prayed for better days. Maybe it seemed like it would never end. But you survived. You survived. You did what you needed to do, and you made it. You are so much more courageous and stronger and smarter than you give yourself credit for. You are so much kinder and more compassionate than you realize. The fact that you even want to beat yourself up for how you handled your past shows that you believe you could have been a better person. Only good people feel that way. Only good people believe they could have been better. Only good people want to be better. So be good to yourself. Let it go and let yourself be better. It doesn’t start with you hurting yourself; it starts with you being good to yourself. You deserve it.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Just because you’re in the process of bettering yourself doesn’t mean there won’t be times when you make questionable choices, respond out of character, lack proper communication, or let negativity get the best of yourself. That’s all a part of the process of becoming better. How else would you know what needs cleaning up if you don’t stand in your mess every once in a while?”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“You’re not behind in life. There’s no schedule or timetable that we all must follow. It’s all made up. Wherever you are right now is exactly where you need to be. Seven billion people can’t do everything in exactly the same scheduled order. We are all different with a variety of needs and goals. Some get married early, some get married late, while others don’t get married at all. What is early? What is late? Compared with whom? Compared with what? Some want children, others don’t. Some want a career; others enjoy taking care of a house and children. Your life is not on anyone else’s schedule. Don’t beat yourself up for where you are right now. It’s YOUR timeline, not anyone else’s, and nothing is off schedule.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“You’re not a bad person for having negative thoughts or feelings. You’re not getting it wrong or failing in life. You’re not less spiritual, less human, or less evolved for going through an emotional funk or for feeling stuck. At your core, you are a learning and growing being. And you are doing just that.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“You did the best you could with the knowledge you had in that moment. It’s easier to look back at an event and see a better choice or pathway because we already learned from our experience. Hindsight happens after the lesson, so we can’t condemn ourselves for not knowing the lesson before we learned it.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Progression is part regression. Moving forward sometimes involves taking a few steps back during the process. Nothing has gone wrong. This is how we all move forward. Every project has setbacks. Every plan runs into a wall every once in a while. Every relationship has miscommunications and conflicts. Some days you will wake up feeling good; other days you will feel off. You will lose some money; you will gain some money. You will lose some weight; you will gain some weight. All of life is a process of expansion and contraction. This is how life breathes.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Most of life is an ongoing process of learning. We don’t stop learning once we grow out of childhood and we don’t stop learning once we finish school. Learning is not necessarily a painful process but it can be when we internally punish or abuse ourselves for mistakes. We do this when we forget that:
1. We are always learning.
2. Mistakes are a part of the process of learning.
3. If we knew the right answer, we would use the right answer.
4. Sometimes, the right answer is only revealed by choosing the wrong answer.
5. Maybe then, it wasn’t the wrong answer after all.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“When we narrow in on one moment on this long never-ending journey, we mistakenly conclude that something did or didn’t work out for us. We become too specific and rigid in the outcome we desire and don’t realize that it’s an ongoing process that never ends. One outcome is the opening of the path to another. If we can become more flexible in how we get there and what “there” looks like, if we can pull back our perspective a bit and realize it’s always in the process of happening, then we might find that everything has been working out for us all along.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Some things fall apart so that other things can fall together. This is the nature of life. We can view it from our short-term perspective or we can trust the long-term process of creation. Nothing new can come about without including pieces of something that once was. A nebula explodes scattering its debris across the universe. It appears as if something has gone wrong, but this is how new worlds are created.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Often times, we don’t see how brave or strong we are when we are in the midst of struggle. We only see what we can’t do, what our shortcomings are, and how we said the wrong things. The mere fact that you’ve encountered struggles in the past is proof that you are smarter and stronger than before. Every experience teaches us something, even when we aren’t aware of the lesson. Trust that you are stronger. You are smarter. This problem might seem big, but it’s not bigger than you.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“In life, you’ll have moments of uncertainty when you’re just don’t know what to do or what to choose. You’ll be confused and unsure. Those moments are rare opportunities of possibility. Most of the time, we know what we will decide before it’s even presented to us. We’re so sure of what we want or don’t want that we rarely sit in the openness of possibility. But in the moments when we’re uncertain, in the moments of confusion, anything is possible. Instead of letting that paralyze you, let it inspire you and open you up to a new pathway. It just might be exactly what you need right now.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Nothing is worth the damage of self-abuse. It solves no problem, accomplishes no goal, and helps no one. It has no benefit or productive value. It serves only one purpose: to make you feel bad, which doesn’t help you or anyone else. We are more likely to emotionally resign, mentally disengage, or stop trying when we feel bad about ourselves. It does not motivate or inspire us to do better; instead, it disempowers us from moving forward because we stop trusting ourselves to make the right choices. If it can be changed, fixed, or forgiven, then mentally abusing yourself is unnecessary. If it can’t be changed, fixed, or forgiven, then mentally abusing yourself is pointless. Offer yourself some compassion as you move through life. Of course you’re not going to have all the right answers. That’s how we learn. Don’t beat yourself up for a very human and very normal process.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“You are a living, breathing, organic being. Of course you can feel pain, of course you can feel hurt, of course it feels overwhelming sometimes as the jagged, rough, and hard world outside bumps up against your soft skin. You are not a machine that rams through each experience, performing tasks with no emotions. You are alive. You are alive. You are alive. Be kind to this soft creature as it learns its way around a busy and loud world. Be easy with yourself because some days you’ll be the only one who is. But that’s okay because you’re the only one that makes a real difference.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“It’s time to let go of the idea that you somehow deserve pain or punishment for your past choices. You don’t have to keep reliving them and hurting yourself with it. Torturing yourself doesn’t help you or anyone else. It doesn’t change anything that happened before, and it doesn’t teach you anything in the now. True growth is making better choices in the present because you learned from your past behavior. Redemption is not measured by how much you suffer; it’s measured by how much you’ve grown from who you used to be.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“It’s okay if you don’t feel okay. If you feel angry, feel angry. If you feel sad, feel sad. Don’t make yourself wrong for what comes up from within you. If it’s there, it’s there. It won’t just disappear because you don’t want it anymore. It goes away when it’s allowed, when it’s felt, when it’s given permission to pass through. Welcome what you feel, and soon enough it will disappear.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“If you end up doing only one thing from this entire book, let it be this: stop being angry with yourself. That alone is enough to radically alter your health, your relationships, your job, and your life. Don’t be angry with yourself for not saying the right thing. Don’t be angry with yourself for forgetting to do something you said you would do. Don’t be angry with yourself for not finishing that project as fast as everyone else at work. Don’t be angry with yourself for finishing school late, for being unemployed, for being single. Don’t be angry with yourself for not saying what you wanted to say or not doing what you wanted to do. Regardless of what choices you have made, let go of the habit of self-anger. It doesn’t serve you. It never has and it never will.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Every time you get angry with yourself for where you are in your process of growth, it’s the equivalent of chopping off the head of the rose because it hasn’t bloomed yet. Now you have to go through that part of the process again. Anger will set you back every time and slow down your growth. However, self-compassion and self-encouragement are like water and sunshine; they help the growth process happen faster and easier. It’s up to you how you want to proceed, but if you can break the habit of getting angry with yourself and replace it with some compassion and encouragement, then you will bloom like you have never bloomed before.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body

“Tomorrow’s flower is today’s seed. And it’s okay that the seed is not a flower yet. It’s okay that it has a bit of a process to undertake before it blooms. There’s nothing wrong with the seed right now. It’s exactly what it’s supposed to be in this moment. And so are you.”
― Emily Maroutian, The Book of Relief: Passages and Exercises to Relieve Negative Emotion and Create More Ease in The Body