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“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Yesterday, I Cried

“One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

“If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him your plans.”
― Vanzant

“When you can look a thing dead in the eye, acknowledge that it exists, call it exactly what it is, and decide what role it will take in your life then, my Beloved, you have taken the first step toward your freedom.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

“when you have something to do life will not allow you to move foward until you do it.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

“Before you find out who you are, you have to figure out who you aren't..”
― Iyanla Vanzant

“I'd been taught not to like myself,because the people around me didn't, for whatever reason like me.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

“Act the way you want to be and soon you will be the way you act.”
― Ivanla

“Lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

“When you enter a new experience, all that requires healing rushes to the surface . . . You have to pause.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

“Their issues are not your issues.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, The Value in the Valley: A Black Woman's Guide Through Life's Dilemmas

“Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you. Your fear! Your anger! Your pattern! Your craziness! As long as you insist on pointing the finger out there, at them, you will continue to miss out on the divine opportunity to clear your stuff. Here is a meantime tip—we love in others what we love in ourselves. We despise in others what we cannot see in ourselves.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

“I now realize that lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. Lives fall apart when the foundation upon which they were built needs to be relaid. Lives fall apart, not because God is punishing us for what we have or have not done. Lives fall apart because they need to. They need to because they weren’t built the right way in the first place.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

“Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; But eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, Stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories and make peace with them.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

“Life would be so much easier if, when we hit a snag in a relationship, any relationship, we would stop, address it, and move ahead smoothly. The truth is, in most cases, we could do just that. The reality is, we don’t do it! We keep moving. We allow little insults to become raging angers, little arguments to become festering feuds, little pains to become deep wounds, and we keep moving. In many cases, we keep hurting. When the relationship at issue is an intimate, loving one, the attempt to move forward without addressing the pain only complicates matters, further poisoning the relationship.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

“When two broken people bring their broken pieces together, chances are they will never become a whole anything.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through

“When you feel unprotected, unsupported and unprepared to take care of yourself, your insides will feel if you have been through a train wreck. The best way to describe this experience is that you are having a head on body collision between your wannabe and your can never be.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You're Going Through