Clanza > Clanza's Quotes

“The hopeless wishes that won’t quit stalking you: some perfect words you think you could say to somebody to make them see you, and love you, and stay. Or could say to your mirror, same reason.”
― Barbara Kingsolver, Demon Copperhead

“It’s easy to glamorize the path you didn’t take.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“Be cautiously reckless.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“Instead of constantly asking ourselves the question of why we're here, maybe we should be savoring the simpler truth: We are here.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“Don’t let the best parts of life pass you by because you’re too scared of the unknown.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“The truth is, grief neve really goes away. Someone told me once that it's like a bag that you always carry - it starts out as large as a suitcase, and as the years go by, it might reduce to the size of a purse, but you carry it forever. I know it probably sounds cliched, but it helped me realize that I didn't need to ever get over it completely.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“It frustrated me that society. was so determined to quantify grief, as if time could erase the potency of love.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“while a mother who miscarries might not have ever had the chance to hold that child, they had plenty. of time to love them, to dream and hope for them. And that means their grief is twofold - they're not just grieving the child, but the life they never got to experience. Who are we to tell anyone their pain isn't worthy?”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“If you want something you don’t have,” he’d said, “you have to do something you’ve never done.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“Intelligence will only get you so far in life... And the same can be said for wit and charm. But two things will serve you better than any others."...

"What are they?"

"Infinite curiosity and sense of observation.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“Your grief is yours to process in your own time, in whatever way works for you. No one can tell you how to do that.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“What most people don’t consider is that death is often random and cruel. It doesn’t care if you’ve been kind all your life. Or if you’ve eaten healthily, exercised often, and always worn a seat belt or a helmet. It doesn’t care that a loved one left behind might spend the rest of their lives replaying events in their head, tormented by the words “if only.” People tell themselves they’ve got plenty of time, until they’re at the mercy of a careless action—a driver on their cellphone, a neighbor who left a candle burning. And by then, it’s too late.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“I didn’t need to live forever to know what loneliness felt like.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“It’s so easy to see your parental figure through that lens alone, to think that their existence has always revolved around yours. But before they were parents, they were simply human beings trying to navigate life as best they could, dealing with their own disappointments, chasing after their own dreams. And yet we often expect them to be infallible.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“Observing the world, rather than engaging with it, meant I didn't have to invest emotionally. If I never got close to anyone, they couldn't leave me. Or it wouldn't hurt if they did. Better to be alone by choice - that was one thing I always had control over.

But now I realized I wasn't fooling anyone. The truth was, I wasn't trying my best - I was only living a shell of the life I knew was possible.

And I regretted it.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover