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“Never once in my life did I ask God for success or wisdom or power or fame. I asked for wonder, and he gave it to me.”
― Abraham Joshua Heschel

“Whosoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god.”
― Francis Bacon

“When the child was a child, it didn’t know that it was a child, everything was soulful, and all souls were one.”
― Peter Handke, Song of Childhood

“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”
― Blaise Pascal, Pensées

“Those who are nurtured best, survive best.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment And the Developing Social Brain

“The problem is, when you depend on a substitute for love, you can never get enough.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment And the Developing Social Brain

“The things most people need to learn in therapy are related to attachment, abandonment, love, and fear. We are trying to access basic emotional processes that are organized in primitive and early-developing parts of the brain. The language of these emotions is also very basic; it is the language of childhood. The more complex the language and ideas you bring into therapy, the more likely you are to stimulate your clients’ intellectualizing defenses.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Making of a Therapist

“Most therapists grew up struggling to be loved and accepted by others. Because of these early experiences, many of us find it difficult to believe others can be of help to us. We carry this struggle into our adult lives and, inevitably, into our relationships with our clients.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Making of a Therapist

“Those who are nurtured best survive best. It turns out that our emotional resilience and our ability to learn are inextricably interwoven.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Social Neuroscience of Education: Optimizing Attachment and Learning in the Classroom

“Optimal sculpting of key neural networks through healthy early relationships allows us to think well of ourselves, trust others, regulate our emotions, maintain positive expectations, and utilize our intellectual and emotional intelligence in moment-to-moment”
― Louis Cozolino, The Social Neuroscience of Education: Optimizing Attachment and Learning in the Classroom

“Be mindful of your own inner pressure to fill in silences and come up with rapid solutions. Experiment with patience. I’ve found that if I am patient, clients will often arrive at the very same conclusions I wanted to give them minutes before.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Making of a Therapist: A Practical Guide for the Inner Journey

“At its most basic level, psychotherapy is an interpersonal learning environment similar in many ways to proper parenting. In both, we tend to learn best when supported by a nurturing relationship with an empathic other, while being encouraged to confront life’s challenges”
― Louis Cozolino, The Making of a Therapist: A Practical Guide for the Inner Journey

“Clients with painful experiences and frightening symptoms are accustomed to living in a world where others avoid and reject them. Our ability to remain empathically connected to them through the expression of their suffering sets the stage for therapy to be a qualitatively different relationship experience–one where they are accepted, pain and all.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Making of a Therapist: A Practical Guide for the Inner Journey