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  • #2
    J. Krishnamurti
    “The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence.”
    J. Krishnamurti

  • #3
    Ashly Lorenzana
    “No one truly knows what they will do in a certain situation until they are actually in it. It's very easy to judge someone else's actions by what you assume your own would be, if you were in their shoes. But we only know what we THINK we would do, not what we WOULD do.”
    Ashly Lorenzana

  • #4
    Fulton J. Sheen
    “Criticism of others is thus an oblique form of self-commendation. We think we make the picture hang straight on our wall by telling our neighbors that all his pictures are crooked.”
    Fulton J. Sheen, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary

  • #5
    Sivananda Saraswati
    “An evil man is a saint of the future. See good in everything. Destroy the evil-finding quality. Develop the good-finding quality. Rise above good and evil.”
    Sivananda

  • #6
    Haruki Murakami
    “I think that my job is to observe people and the world, and not to judge them. I always hope to position myself away from so-called conclusions. I would like to leave everything wide open to all the possibilities in the world.”
    Haruki Murakami

  • #7
    Sebastian Barry
    “Because it strikes me there is something greater than judgement. I think it is called mercy.”
    Sebastian Barry, The Secret Scripture

  • #8
    Ethan Hawke
    “Don't you find it odd," she continued, "that when you're a kid, everyone, all the world, encourages you to follow your dreams. But when you're older, somehow they act offended if you even try.”
    Ethan Hawke, The Hottest State

  • #9
    Ashly Lorenzana
    “By judging others, you make yourself easy to judge.”
    Ashly Lorenzana

  • #10
    Michel de Montaigne
    “Excellent memories are often coupled with feeble judgments.”
    Michel de Montaigne, The Essays: A Selection

  • #11
    “That mess about judging people by the content of their character and not the color of their skin—that's some bullshit. Nobody has the right to judge anybody else. Period. If you ain't been in my skin, you ain't never gonna understand my character.”
    Emily Raboteau, The Professor's Daughter

  • #12
    Miguel Ruiz
    “1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
    Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

    2. Don't Take Anything Personally
    Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

    3. Don't Make Assumptions
    Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

    4. Always Do Your Best
    Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”
    Don Miguel Ruiz

  • #13
    Terry Pratchett
    “Elves are wonderful. They provoke wonder.
    Elves are marvellous. They cause marvels.
    Elves are fantastic. They create fantasies.
    Elves are glamorous. They project glamour.
    Elves are enchanting. They weave enchantment.
    Elves are terrific. They beget terror.
    The thing about words is that meanings can twist just like a snake, and if you want to find snakes look for them behind words that have changed their meaning.
    No one ever said elves are nice.
    Elves are bad.”
    Terry Pratchett, Lords and Ladies

  • #14
    Jalal ad-Din Muhammad ar-Rumi
    “Start a huge, foolish project, like Noah…it makes absolutely no difference what people think of you.”
    Rumi

  • #15
    Chuck Palahniuk
    “Maybe the only thing each of us can see is our own shadow.

    Carl Jung called this his shadow work. He said we never see others. Instead we see only aspects of ourselves that fall over them. Shadows. Projections. Our associations.

    The same way old painters would sit in a tiny dark room and trace the image of what stood outside a tiny window, in the bright sunlight.

    The camera obscura.

    Not the exact image, but everything reversed or upside down.”
    Chuck Palahniuk

  • #16
    Marianne Williamson
    “Rather than accepting that we are the loving beings that He created, we have arrogantly thought that we could create ourselves, and then create God. Because we are angry and judgmental, we have projected those characteristics onto Him. We have made up a God in our image. But God remains who He is and always has been: the energy, the thought of unconditional love.”
    Marianne Williamson

  • #17
    Sigmund Freud
    “Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have , so to speak , pawned a part of their narcissism.”
    Sigmund Freud

  • #18
    Jonathan Franzen
    “Nice people don't necessarily fall in love with nice people.”
    Jonathan Franzen, Freedom

  • #19
    George Saunders
    “What I'm primarily saying,' he says, 'is that this is a time for knowledge assimilation, not backstabbing. We learned a lesson, you and I. We personally grew. Gratitude for this growth is an appropriate response. Gratitude, and being careful never to make the same mistake twice.”
    George Saunders, CivilWarLand in Bad Decline

  • #20
    Andre Dubus
    “Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people.”
    Andre Dubus

  • #21
    Jaron Lanier
    “An imaginary circle of empathy is drawn by each person. It circumscribes the person at some distance, and corresponds to those things in the world that deserve empathy. I like the term "empathy" because it has spiritual overtones. A term like "sympathy" or "allegiance" might be more precise, but I want the chosen term to be slightly mystical, to suggest that we might not be able to fully understand what goes on between us and others, that we should leave open the possibility that the relationship can't be represented in a digital database.

    If someone falls within your circle of empathy, you wouldn't want to see him or her killed. Something that is clearly outside the circle is fair game. For instance, most people would place all other people within the circle, but most of us are willing to see bacteria killed when we brush our
    teeth, and certainly don't worry when we see an inanimate rock tossed aside to keep a trail clear.

    The tricky part is that some entities reside close to the edge of the circle. The deepest controversies often involve whether something or someone should lie just inside or just outside the circle. For instance, the idea of slavery depends on the placement of the slave outside the circle, to make some people nonhuman. Widening the circle to include all people and end slavery has been one of the epic strands of the human story - and it isn't quite over yet.

    A great many other controversies fit well in the model. The fight over abortion asks whether a fetus or embryo should be in the circle or not, and the animal rights debate asks the same about animals.

    When you change the contents of your circle, you change your conception of yourself. The center of the circle shifts as its perimeter is changed. The liberal impulse is to expand the circle, while conservatives tend to want to restrain or even contract the circle.

    Empathy Inflation and Metaphysical Ambiguity

    Are there any legitimate reasons not to expand the circle as much as possible?

    There are.

    To expand the circle indefinitely can lead to oppression, because the rights of potential entities (as perceived by only some people) can conflict with the rights of indisputably real people. An obvious example of this is found in the abortion debate. If outlawing abortions did not involve commandeering control of the bodies of other people (pregnant women, in this case), then there wouldn't be much controversy. We would find an easy accommodation.

    Empathy inflation can also lead to the lesser, but still substantial, evils of incompetence, trivialization, dishonesty, and narcissism. You cannot live, for example, without killing bacteria. Wouldn't you be projecting your own fantasies on single-cell organisms that would be indifferent to them at best? Doesn't it really become about you instead of the cause at that point?”
    Jaron Lanier, You Are Not a Gadget

  • #22
    “Begin to assess your own parenting. Acknowledging the painful reality that it is impossible to be a child of a narcissist and not be somewhat impaired narcissistically. Anyone raised this way has probably acquired a few traits of narcissism.”
    Karyl McBride, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

  • #23
    “When the healthy pursuit of self-interest and self-realization turns into self-absorption, other people can lose their intrinsic value in our eyes and become mere means to the fulfillment of our needs and desires.”
    P.M. Forni, The Civility Solution: What to Do When People Are Rude

  • #24
    Mother Teresa
    “People are unrealistic, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway.”
    Mother Teresa

  • #25
    Virginia Satir
    “Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.”
    Virginia Satir

  • #26
    Joan Bauer
    “...Difficult relationships come into our lives for a reason. No one would choose them, certainly. But if we let them, they can teach us how to be flexible with others and more forgiving.”
    Joan Bauer

  • #27
    Jeanette Winterson
    “When my husband had an affair with someone else I watched his eyes glaze over when we ate dinner together and I heard him singing to himself without me, and when he tended the garden it was not for me.

    He was courteous and polite; he enjoyed being at home, but in the fantasy of his home I was not the one who sat opposite him and laughed at his jokes. He didn't want to change anything; he liked his life. The only thing he wanted to change was me.

    It would have been better if he had hated me, or if he had abused me, or if he had packed his new suitcases and left.

    As it was he continued to put his arm round me and talk about being a new wall to replace the rotten fence that divided our garden from his vegetable patch. I knew he would never leave our house. He had worked for it.

    Day by day I felt myself disappearing. For my husband I was no longer a reality, I was one of the things around him. I was the fence which needed to be replaced. I watched myself in the mirror and saw that I was mo longer vivid and exciting. I was worn and gray like an old sweater you can't throw out but won't put on.

    He admitted he was in love with her, but he said he loved me.

    Translated, that means, I want everything. Translated, that means, I don't want to hurt you yet. Translated, that means, I don't know what to do, give me time.

    Why, why should I give you time? What time are you giving me? I am in a cell waiting to be called for execution.

    I loved him and I was in love with him. I didn't use language to make a war-zone of my heart.

    'You're so simple and good,' he said, brushing the hair from my face.

    He meant, Your emotions are not complex like mine. My dilemma is poetic.

    But there was no dilemma. He no longer wanted me, but he wanted our life

    Eventually, when he had been away with her for a few days and returned restless and conciliatory, I decided not to wait in my cell any longer. I went to where he was sleeping in another room and I asked him to leave. Very patiently he asked me to remember that the house was his home, that he couldn't be expected to make himself homeless because he was in love.

    'Medea did,' I said, 'and Romeo and Juliet and Cressida, and Ruth in the Bible.'

    He asked me to shut up. He wasn't a hero.

    'Then why should I be a heroine?'

    He didn't answer, he plucked at the blanket.

    I considered my choices.

    I could stay and be unhappy and humiliated.

    I could leave and be unhappy and dignified.

    I could Beg him to touch me again.

    I could live in hope and die of bitterness.

    I took some things and left. It wasn't easy, it was my home too.

    I hear he's replaced the back fence.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Sexing the Cherry
    tags: love

  • #28
    Joyce Meyer
    “God wants you to be delivered from what you have done and from what has been done to you - Both are equally imporant to Him.”
    Joyce Meyer, Beauty for Ashes: Receiving Emotional Healing

  • #29
    Toba Beta
    “Self righteousness belongs to narrow-minded.”
    Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

  • #30
    Shannon L. Alder
    “When you think yours is the only true path you forever chain yourself to judging others and narrow the vision of God. The road to righteousness and arrogance is a parallel road that can intersect each other several times throughout a person's life. It’s often hard to recognize one road from another. What makes them different is the road to righteousness is paved with the love of humanity. The road to arrogance is paved with the love of self.”
    Shannon Alder

  • #31
    Chris Rock
    “You know the world is going crazy when the best rapper is a white guy, the best golfer is a black guy, the tallest guy in the NBA is Chinese, the Swiss hold the America's Cup, France is accusing the U.S. of arrogance, Germany doesn't want to go to war, and the three most powerful men in America are named "Bush", "Dick", and "Colin." Need I say more?”
    Chris Rock



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