Nothing is Taboo discussion

Is it ok for your man/woman to cheat if it never gets brougth back to you? Meaning you are happy and haven't got a clue. Or lets say you know what it is that your mate does, yet you do not have any proof. There are no women or men calling you, no lipstick on the collar, but in the back of your mind you just know.

tough one. I've always said what i don't know won't hurt me... but if in the back of my mind i know, Then i'm not really happy. There would be something missing , something that caused that spark to be there. So then it would be wrong because that spark would fester until it destroyed the reletionship. However, if i was madly in love and had the best husband on earth and was satisfied in evry aspect of our reletionship, then found out at his funeral that he had a mistress for all those years.... i'd be like WOW. he's good.