Just the Way YOU are! discussion

I know this is a pretty common topic. But do you ever feel like you are wearing a mask. You pretend all day at school or at work to be all happy or to be someone you are not, then you go to an afternoon activity and there you have to put a new mask on. Do you just feel like you are always wearing a mask? Take it off, allow yourself to breathe, be proud of who you are. If someone really wants to be your friend let them be your frien because they love who you are, not who you pretend to be! It is so important that you learn to love yourself, don't let what everyone says bother you. I know from my own life that this is really hard to do. One day I told to myself that I wasn't going to let another person at school change who I was. It is great to take your mask of and feel free. Free yourself from whatever mask you have on.
Who do you pretend to be, Why do you need to be that person?

I used to pretend to my parents that everything was going just fine then one day I decided to tell them and it made everything so much better what's your story?

Its good that you don't let what they say get to you.
When I was in Elementary school people use to bully me, I was so sad I would cry myself to sleep but then I decided not to let what they said bother me. It took some time, but now I am always happy and them bullying me made me a stronger person so jokes on them! Good luck girl!

gossip and rumors can be the worst type of bullying.

I totally agree with Sydney!!

It is true for pretty much everyone

if i heard someone saying bad things to me...he/she needs to be prepared cause i'm no scaredy-cat.
Let's All be STRONG!!

Totally girl! Stand up for yourself! All bullies do is make you a stronger person!

It is hard to be yourself when nobody else is interested in what you enjoy doing. You just have to be yourself Nd maybe not bring up games all the time but your friends will accept you for who you are of they are true friends!

That's great!

I am myself all the time crazy, funny, goofie me unless I am depressed.

im almost always wearing a mask in reality....

Wearing a mask is sometimes the best answer but we don't realize how much it hurts us to keep all of your problems hidden behind a fake smile sometimes it feels really good to talk to someone and that's what I hope you guys can do in this group.

I used to be like that... it got to the point where I was always wearing a mask :/ But it kind of changed because I decided I didn't want to be friends with people who were nothing like me and who I didn't even like anymore so I did "lose" quite a lot of friends but it was my own decision I guess. Before, they were actually my friends I guess but I changed quite a bit cause I had some issues you know... I still often wear a mask but it got a bit better now you know

I always wear a 'Mask' except for when I am on the computer with friends because I am too shy in school, plus I am wayyyy too weird. The only people who know me are also weird :D

I filter most of my weirdness everywhere, even on the computer :/

I'm glad it got better for you, Josi :)

Ya it is sad that we can't be ourselves...

Ya I love my friends I love u guys!!!

I have a few friends who are like me but they still think I am weird...

I don't want to be that kind of normal either

That kinda normal sucks, doesn't help that im a guy xD

ya we are all unique in our own special way!

Um well I'm usually quiet in class and I actually like being by myself there. At my old school I have best friends who are ok with me being me. I feel comfortable with them and can act as weird as I please. Sometimes I think of myself as always wearing a mask to hide how I really feel. I am Amity so even when I'm upset it will seem like I am perfectly fine.

Yeah i feel like i do the same at school lyssa it looks like you are perfectly happy and you have this dream life but inside you are hiding all of the bad and one day you are so upset you just let all of the stuff you were hiding come out...yeah thats me :0

Wow, that's exactly me...Sometimes I can't even tell if I'm wearing my mask or not...like it's become who I am.

sometimes we wear our mask for so long we become who we pretneded to be (if that makes sense)

It does. I completely understand.

Im glad someone does :)

Me too :)

I'm always wearing a mask. Always. I'm smiling or joking or laughing, getting good grades and participating and pretending like I'm happy so no one worries when I really am so sad.

Gabrielle, you can always talk to me if you need to. You don't have to wear your mask around me <3 Nobody does.

gosh you don't know how much i wish you all went to my school i wouldnt worry about being judged

Me either.

That would be nice. everyone, please move to my town.

haha sounds like a plan

Anywhere but Delaware is good with me.

Yeah well my place sucks too but oh well. :P

Yeah if I can get into Liberty I will get to move to Virginia.

Cool.

I Just want to hug you Mary.
I wish that I could make all your pain go away.
My heart goes out to you as my tears run.

Mary if u ever wanna talk about anything we are all here for you I hope u feel like u don't hav to wear a mask here in this group

It feels really good to open up that's why I made this group :) so y'all could open up at ur own pace

Thanks. I am here for you. DFTBA

To my parets im always fine..but inside, im a wreck. There are somedays, too many days, that I just feel like bawling, becsuse I feel so sick inside! But I dont cry, im not a cryer. Not anymore. My mom once said to me...I cannot remember it exactly it was sooo many years ago..but it was something about crying making you weak. I dont think she knew what she had said, but I was little and took everything to the extreme and everything was a big deal. But this was different. I never let anyone see my TRUE emotions, for years, because I didnt want to be seen as weak. Also, because it hurt too much. I have always been extremely insecure and have never truly loved myself, still dont, honestly.
But no I have opened a little more. Used to be quite shy and reserved, but now im more outgoing and fun, and laughable. If somerhing hurts, I try to joke about it. I try. But usually it still hurts. So I still wear my mask. I have one for different classes at school..it depends on those in my class..I wear a mask everyday, because im afraid of what people will think about whats underneath..

Keanna, there is nothing wrong with crying. It's a good way to release your emotions and just let everything out. I'm sorry you have to wear a mask so often, but you don't have to wear it here <3

Wow, I clicked on this thread by accident. What a coincidence that reading these things has me thinking more. Except, I DON'T believe in coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. I am just understanding now why I was lead to this page....

Aww, thanka guys so much! :) I still feel like I cannot cry though..it just feels drilled into me... yeah, Sierra, this is the only place I feel I dont have to wear a mask...I dunno why but it alsmost seems easier to be myself around people who dont know me so well..its weird.
But I have had a lot of trouble with friends lately and I am emotionally unstable right now..today..I was so out of it and stressed out that just one math problem that I didnt understand, almost made me burst into tears...
I had another fight with my mom again today and....I just...I have to hide it all when I go to school, cause I cant let it distract me...

I feel like a bottle of coke that some one keeps shaking up...

Paigetwo *Caitlyn* wrote: "Wow, I clicked on this thread by accident. What a coincidence that reading these things has me thinking more. Except, I DON'T believe in coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. I am just und..."

Why is that Paigetwo???

Keanna wrote: "Paigetwo *Caitlyn* wrote: "Wow, I clicked on this thread by accident. What a coincidence that reading these things has me thinking more. Except, I DON'T believe in coincidences. Everything happens ..."

So that I think twice before practicing my smile in the mirror....

I see...I do the same thing... :/