Q&A with Lacresha Hayes discussion

Welcome to the group. I'm glad you decided to join. I hope that you'll have some good questions for me. I'll answer questions about:
~ Writing
~ Publishing
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~ Abuse
~ Public Speaking
~ Anything else I know a bit about.

thanks, Lacresha. Here's a question for you: How would you deal with a bully at work?

Thanks Lacresha. One question, how much would you charge to publish the Amanda stories? Let me know offlist though please.

Ron

Peggy wrote: "thanks, Lacresha. Here's a question for you: How would you deal with a bully at work? "

Well, first I'd try to reason with them. I'd take another neutral co-worker with me who has a good reputation. If that didn't work, I'd fill out a formal complaint. Hope this helps.

Sometimes I think this person is a bully but sometimes I don't know. When ever I suggest something, this person always says it is a stupid idea. I have the feeling that if this person thought this thing up, it would be a wonderful idea. Or, does this person just have a problem with me? Never met anyone like this before. This person seems to like to make me miserable. Any thing I do that she doesn't like, she tattle tales to a higher authority, whether it is any of her business or not. I really don't care what she is doing, but she seems to have a great interst in trying to catch me in a mistake. Peggy

Ron wrote: "Thanks Lacresha. One question, how much would you charge to publish the Amanda stories? Let me know offlist though please.

Ron"

Will do, Ron. Email me at lacresha@lacreshahayes.com

thanks for the info. Peggy

Peggy wrote: "Sometimes I think this person is a bully but sometimes I don't know. When ever I suggest something, this person always says it is a stupid idea. I have the feeling that if this person thought th..."

Hi, Peggy. I don't know that it would qualify as bullying, but it sounds like this person lives to put other people down and validates her own feelings of inferiority by running to those in higher power and getting their attention.

In regards to your ideas, it might be an idea to schedule a meeting with a higher up saying, "I would like to present an idea to you that so-and-so hasn't been willing to consider."

It doesn't mean you're doing the same thing she's doing. You do deserve to have your voice heard and ideas considered. You're not there to bad mouth her or complain. You are there to present an idea that could help with the business. This person's view is only to help herself and make herself look good. Who's to say she's not going back to the higher ups with your ideas claiming that they're her own.

I think you should stand up for yourself. Don't let her jump on your good ideas, your vitality and imagination. I know she sees these things in you and she really desires them for herself. That's a good thing. But don't let what she does affect your productivity.

There are probably dynamics that we're not aware of so this may not apply at all.

thanks, darlene. These were good suggestions. Peggy

I tried this yesterday. It worked! I feel so much better about myself today. I had a program in mind for the library I work at. The Bully said she didn't want me to do it (probably because she didn't think of it). I stuck to my guns. I told my group that the program was free, the speaker was very enthusiastic and it was a great topic. The nay sayer said no one will come to it. I said: "So what.... we won't know unless we try!" I am making a special effort to prove her wrong. I will personally bring some people to the program if I have to. Peggy

Peggy wrote: "I tried this yesterday. It worked! I feel so much better about myself today. I had a program in mind for the library I work at. The Bully said she didn't want me to do it (probably because she ..."

Good for you, Peggy. Go for it! Tell us how it goes!

My mother once told me that I would never make any money at writing--implying that I would never be successful in it. I'm in the process of proving her wrong and even she is coming around and being very supportive. I love proving people wrong.

Darlene wrote: "Peggy wrote: "I tried this yesterday. It worked! I feel so much better about myself today. I had a program in mind for the library I work at. The Bully said she didn't want me to do it (probabl..."

Darlene wrote: "Peggy wrote: "I tried this yesterday. It worked! I feel so much better about myself today. I had a program in mind for the library I work at. The Bully said she didn't want me to do it (probabl..."

This person said to me "no one made a desk schedule today a little bit ago. Meaning she needed to controll who was going to lunch, etc. I said I thought we didn't need a schedule, that we could surely work out one. That deflated her pretty much. Maybe i am growing a backbone. Peggy

It can be difficult standing up for yourself in a work situation. On theone hand, you deserve to be treated with the same respect and courtesy you extend to others. On the other hand, it can lead to strained working relationships or even a total breakdown of said relationships, and leads to a bad atmosphere in the workplace.

In large institutions, there are always the backstabbers, who seem to delight in spreading false rumours about those who are perceived to be better at their job, or more popular, or both. The difficulty is ferreting them out so that you can confront them. I know!

Well done, Peggy

thanks,, Paul. I am not pushing the issue, but I felt like somebody Friday and the bully had a bad day. It must be awful to have to push your agenda on people and be totally bummed out when it doesn't work. I know this person runs to the administration with false tales and rumors all the time. Peggy

I am sorry you are being bullied and so happy that you stood up. Stick to your guns. Evrything comes out in the wash.

Here's another question we might discuss: What is the most unusual job you have ever held? What was the worst? What was the Best? Peggy

My most unusual was working at a funeral home. I answered the phones, was in charge of the front door during funerals, and cleaned a little. My best was working at a museum of history and art. I was the only employee. Worst was working at a Propane Gas Company in the winter time. I was the office manager and I learned all sorts of new expletives when I tried to collect old bills or refused to send fuel to people who owed a bill. Peggy

My most unusual job was not even really a job. I volunteered to be entertainment for the elderly at a nursing home while in my last year of high school. I used to play games with them and one time, one guy thought we were playing pin the tail and poked that tail on me. Everyone enjoyed it except me.

My worst job was working at Pizza Hut while in college. I hated it during the last four months. Low pay and plenty of insults. My best job is the one I have now.

Peggy wrote: "Sometimes I think this person is a bully but sometimes I don't know. When ever I suggest something, this person always says it is a stupid idea. I have the feeling that if this person thought th..."

This person is very miserable, and like they say misery loves company.

Just got back from a week of vacation. Feel rested sort of. Didn't go anywhere much but went to Indianapolis 2 times. Also did a driving tour of Morgan's Raid in Indiana. Have seen 1/2 of southern Indiana by the backroads. Didn't even know that some counties had gravel roads anymore. Also started a new volunteer job at Becks Mill in Washington County Indiana. It is a restored grist mill established in 1807. Neat! Peggy

How has the pass few months influenced your writing, has anybody had any experiences that they are writing about? Peggy are you going write about your work experience?

Ly Syin wrote: "How has the pass few months influenced your writing, has anybody had any experiences that they are writing about? Peggy are you going write about your work experience?"

I might write about my experiences at my volunteer job. The place is amazing. It is out in the middle of nowhere. Since 1807 you could go there, get flour made and cornmeal ground, also the women could send wool for processing. There's a set of machines that does all the work, carding, picking etc. There are only 5 sets still in existance and one set is at the Smithsonian. I am still in the learning process but I am so glad that the Cook family decided to donate money to save Beck's mill. Peggy

I am beginning to enjoy writing again. The former associate director of where I work and my old manager liked to take things I wrote and mark them up with a red pencil like I was a stupid kid in school who could not spell cat. It made me so tramatized that if I had a writing assignment at work, it made me feel physically ill. I have started writing press releases again and wrote a letter to the editor of my local paper.

I am actually liking to write things. I am working on a Pet Information Center for the Library I work at. This invovled doing a lot of research on diverse topics and writing my ideas up and submitting them for approval. I have had a lot of inspiration for my project. The State of Indiana, the local shelter and the Humane Society raided a puppymill locally and that gave me a lot of ideas for my center.

I will be debuting the center on June 26 which is "Take Your Dog to Work Day". I am hoping that our Director will let the employees bring their dogs to work that day and that we can all pose for a picture and ribbon cutting for the center. Told my co-workers I had a few loaner dogs if anyone wanted to have one for the day. Right now I am fostering 11 dogs but the dogs didnot come from the Puppymill although I have 5 who came from another mill in Mooresville, IN. Peggy

Peggy,
It sounds like you have a large task ahead of you with all that work on the center. I hope things work out for you. You can become an advocate for animals by writing for the library and local periodicals. Perhaps they will let you write a column about animals/pets and give advice on what to do with these "homeless" creatures. If it works out, people will think of you as an expert on the subject. After writing articles, you may be inclined to write fictional as well as non-fiction stories from that point. The sky's the limit!
Good luck! It sounds like a noble cause.

Thanks Ester. I guess, being a foster mom to dogs and planning pets fairs for the area that I am an advocate for the unfortunate homeless pets. I try to educate the public about mills, buying pets from pet stores, and the value of rescuing and adopting pets. Just wish I had more time to devote to my causes. To make some extra money so I can do this I also help on the family farm and I go to the farmers market to sell once a week. ( I also take some of my foster dogs with me.) I thought I was getting too inviolved with the pet issues so I started volunteering at a restored grist mill in my area. I am planning to ask if I can do a spring flower and tree walk next year to make use of the hiking trails at the mill.

I don't think I am an expert on anything, but I have lots of experince to draw from. I also tend to get depressed if I don't stay busy, so I have tried to take on a lot of my interests as projects to educate the public. Might as well share the little bit I know.

Peggy

I been reading She Still Calls Me Daddy, by Robert Wolgemuth it made me realize church should do more to workshops to encourage relationships with in-laws. He gives biblical examples of what happens when father-in laws are good and when father- in laws are bad.

When I was married I was blessed to have good godly in-laws. I am still thankful for that.

Hello everyone. I've been away for quite awhile and let the group get a bit dormant. My apologies. Since my departure, I've finished four manuscripts and published one new Amazon Kindle novel, TANGLED, which is getting great reviews.

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