Speaker Geeks! discussion

If you need advice on ANYTHING, post here, and someone will get back to you ASAP. Advice-giving is open to anyone. Just don't be mean.

I'm great at giving advice! Can I add that if you want it to be private then you can also message me if you want to talk privately! I'm always willing to help, or just be an open ear if you need one!!

You can also message me, but I'm not sure I'm great at giving advice.

Oh anyone can message me to talk :) I'm serious when I say I don't judge people. I'm pretty good at advice... even better at just listening. And I liked listening. I've helped a few ppl not be suicidal anymore and stuff... *shrugs*

Lia wrote: "Any advice for the procrastination-junkie trying to go cold turkey?"

Motivation and removal of distraction. Set a goal and focus on striving to reach it. (eg. I am going to work for half an hour without looking at facebook/goodreads/tumblr/twitter/etc.) and that helps. If you set a time (on a timetable) for when you're going to do work [and you stick to it] then that can often help. It's setting up a 'place' in your mind when you know you're going to work. That make sense?

Lia wrote: "Any advice for the procrastination-junkie trying to go cold turkey?"

Negotiate with yourself. Work on whatever you're supposed to be doing for half an hour and then play video games or whatever for half an hour. Repeat. That's how I get things done, Adrian has to bribe Adrian.

Lia wrote: "Any advice for the procrastination-junkie trying to go cold turkey?"

This is going to sound harsh, but as a fellow procrastination-junkie, I have to advise you to just MAKE yourself do it. No distractions. No thinking, "I'll do it later." You just have to MAKE yourself do it.

Advice- So my church has been doing the summer sports camp thing where I volunteer to work as an assistant coach to a group of 5-7 year olds. They are good. But my problem is that every week we get a mission group from somewhere else in the U.S. to come help. So when they Kentucky people came the first week they were so nice & I missed them a lot, but then the Mississippi people came, which was ok, but nothing beat the other group. Till this week. Now there are Georgians & they are the best. I feel like if I get too attached though, it'll be bad because after all, they leave at the end of the week. What should I do?

I think you should just have as much fun as you can :) Then when they leave, exchange info so you can stay in touch :)

Ok. It's weird for me to ask advice because I am usually giving it... lol.

There is this guy, and we were best friends since kindergarten. (I am going into 7th grade.) Last year, he switched schools and I haven't seen him in at least a year. I didn't stay in contact because he has an older brother who would have teased him if he got mail from a girl. He doesn't have a phone, or email, so the only thing I could do was send him a letter. His brother would have teased him forever. Anyway, I am switching schools next year to the one he is at. I really want to restore the friendship we had before, but I'm not sure he will remedy.ber me, let alone want to be best friends. Any advice?

If you've been best friends since kindergarten, I'm guessing that he'll remember you. So, I would just advise saying "hi" and starting a normal conversation next time you see him, just like you would have last year. :)

You could start with saying "Hey (insert name here)!" If you were best friends that long, he should remember you. Maybe you can try bringing up a good memory by saying "Remember when..." That way, maybe you can restore your friendship.

I'm hoping for the best, girl! :D

Sierra wrote: "You could start with saying "Hey (insert name here)!" If you were best friends that long, he should remember you. Maybe you can try bringing up a good memory by saying "Remember when..." That way, ..."

Same! :D

He'll remember you, but as for the friends part, if he acts like he doesn't know you & stuff, then it's not worth it. But you will know true friendship if he wants to continue it with you.


@ Sierra- again with the exchange info? It's weird. Granted, this time the boys aren't 11, but still. I don't know how old they are actually.... Weird. They are probably 13-14.... & no, don't say anything. It's not as bad as last times age difference! Lol ;)

@Paige, maybe your guys' parents could exchange info?

Leah wrote: "If you've been best friends since kindergarten, I'm guessing that he'll remember you. So, I would just advise saying "hi" and starting a normal conversation next time you see him, just like you wo..."

Thanks.... I can try. :) should I approach him, or let him approach me, or just let it happen? I am so scared he won't need me because I'm sure he is popular. Being the new kid, idk. He was really kind, but I am scared he changed. Idk. I am so nervous about everything.

@ Sierra- That would be worse!!! Plus, my mom doesn't even know them really let alone their parents. I don't even know their parents & vice versa. Plus one of them, I know he said his dad is still in Georgia.

@ Kaylee- Good point....

Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "If you've been best friends since kindergarten, I'm guessing that he'll remember you. So, I would just advise saying "hi" and starting a normal conversation next time you see him, jus..."

I know how you feel...the same thing happened to me this year. If you see him, I would approach him, but other than that, just let things happen. Don't try to track him down or anything just to work in a hello. My fingers are crossed for you! :)

Leah wrote: "Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "If you've been best friends since kindergarten, I'm guessing that he'll remember you. So, I would just advise saying "hi" and starting a normal conversation next time y..."

Thank you so much! I will try, I must want our friendship back. :')

Did things work out for you?

I need an opinion. This is going to sound like a strange question for me to ask, but I need someone to help me guess at the inner workings of the male mind (No offense to any of the guys in this group...I'm just hopeless with members of the opposite gender. :D).

Now, before I get started, please understand that there is no crushing involved. Also, these guys were seniors, while I was a measly freshman.

Okay, so, here it goes. There are these two guys, who I will refer to as A and B. Like I said, they're about 4 years my senior. I got to know both of them between February and March of this year because of Speech and Debate and a class that we share. I ended up spending between 5 and 7 days with these guys at tournaments, and, to cut to the chase, they have been EXTREMELY nice to me! I got so much advice and help for pieces from them. A helped me with my piece the most. B helped some at the beginning, but A REALLY put some time into helping me get the piece together. A would sometimes tease me, and we actually ended up in a rather heated debate over a rather trivial topic. Once, when I was COMPLETELY freaking out (won't go into that...long story), A tried to calm me down, offered to run lines with me, and checked in with me later to make sure I was okay. He made me his Stage Manager for a play that he wrote later in the year (right along the time of the previously described incident). This is where B comes in. While A has been extremely helpful and extremely nice, B has just been absolutely sweet. He's told me that he thinks that I'm talented, and he made a big deal out of my breaking to Semis at both Districts and States. He also likes to tease me, but in a different way than A.

Both of them hugged me at the end of the year, at which point I almost cried. So, my question is, do you think that these guys thought of me as a friend, or was I just the little sister that needed to be "protected?" Thanks, and sorry that this is so long! :)

Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "If you've been best friends since kindergarten, I'm guessing that he'll remember you. So, I would just advise saying "hi" and starting a normal conversatio..."

Sadly, no. I'd known him for the past 2 years, and then he went to a different school this year. He was kind of rude, but that's another story. Hopefully, it'll go better for you! :D

Long stories make it easier to give advice towards! Don't apologize. :)

1. I think if you truly love something (in this case debate) you practically eat, sleep, and breathe it. It sounds like A and B wanted to help someone with the same interest as them.

2. I don't know if it was brotherly, but they were definately feeling something between you. Whether it was friend or brothers, they really liked you of they were willing to help so much. It kind of sound like a friendly matter, but to them it could have been a little of both. Idk of this helped........ but my answer is a little bit of both, but mostly friends.

Leah wrote: "Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "If you've been best friends since kindergarten, I'm guessing that he'll remember you. So, I would just advise saying "hi" and starting a nor..."

:"( I really hope so. :"(

Thanks!
Edit: In reply to your advice

Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "Hannah wrote: "Leah wrote: "If you've been best friends since kindergarten, I'm guessing that he'll remember you. So, I would just advise saying "hi" and s..."

I didn't mean to put a damper on any excitement. Honestly, every other friendship I've ever had to "catch up" on went perfectly. It was just that one time...

Leah wrote: "I need an opinion. This is going to sound like a strange question for me to ask, but I need someone to help me guess at the inner workings of the male mind (No offense to any of the guys in this g..."

I think little sister kinda feeling Leah....

Thanks, Marie. :) This is so complicated. I can see where both of you are coming from. *bangs head on desk*

As I mentioned, I am switching schools. I am really bervous, and idk.


So I am a really outgoing person. I am constantly cracking jokes and being loud and making strange noises. At the same time, I am a really awkward person. I can get super shy and I don't know what to say. It is really weird but.... yeah. I don't know what to do at the new school. Ahhh!

At my school I was kind of at the top of the food chain. I was popular, and had a lot of friends. People knew me, and trusted me. I felt like I had everything. Now, no one knows me. I am so fricken' nervous...

I have never made friends outside of schooll. I have always had amazing friends, but I met them through school... so I have never needed to walk up to someone and introduce myself, etc. I have no clue what to do. Can anyone help me???

Hannah wrote: "As I mentioned, I am switching schools. I am really bervous, and idk.


So I am a really outgoing person. I am constantly cracking jokes and being loud and making strange noises. At the same time,..."

I would recommend joining some clubs at school, and find people who have similar interests as you. I'm assuming its high school, so there are probably lots of clubs that you could join. Making new friends is never easy, especially when you never really had to. Good luck!

Good advice =)

Billy wrote: "Hannah wrote: "As I mentioned, I am switching schools. I am really bervous, and idk.


So I am a really outgoing person. I am constantly cracking jokes and being loud and making strange noises. At..."

Thanks! I will try to join some clubs! That is a good idea. :)

Hannah wrote: "As I mentioned, I am switching schools. I am really bervous, and idk.


So I am a really outgoing person. I am constantly cracking jokes and being loud and making strange noises. At the same time,..."

Same as Billy's advice. I've made some of my best friends in clubs! You meet tons of new people and grow closer to the ones you already know. :)

Leah wrote: "Hannah wrote: "As I mentioned, I am switching schools. I am really bervous, and idk.


So I am a really outgoing person. I am constantly cracking jokes and being loud and making strange noises. At..."

Ok! Especially since two people said that, I will definately join some clubs! Are there any clubs that you fell in love with?

SPEECH AND DEBATE (even though at my school it is not a CLUB it is a TEAM)

I LOVE thoae two things! I was planning on doing debate, if I can get in. And I do love being on stage, and acting/monologues, and things like that, so I will look into speech. Thanks a billion!

Yaaaaaayyyy!!!!

Ok so I have a big problem. I haven't lived a very easy life. In other words, I am no cub scout. I've been around town a little too much, and I have done things I'm not proud of. Like alot of teens, I started with weed. However I didnt stop there, things just escalated, but downhill. I'm about 25 now, with a ruined life, and I don't know what to do.

Whats wrong with me? Heroin. This heavy drug which used to give me the high of a lifetime has ruined my entire life. My girlfriend of a year died next to me because of a heroin overdose. She was right next to me, and she died. If I wasn't in such a drugged out state, I could have helped her and ultimately saved her life. We had plans for our life, we were going to move to New Zealand, have a family. My world ended because of stupid decisions, in minutes.

This was years ago, and I am still recovering. I am clean, but I dont know how to emotionally get past this misstep in my life. I can't keep steady relationships, I can't keep friends, I can't keep jobs...I dont know what to do anymore.

Lia wrote: "Any advice for the procrastination-junkie trying to go cold turkey?"

We generally procrastinate to avoid things that bother us. If we understand that some deeds are boring but necessary we can put an end to it. Try to stay 2 days without cleaning your teeth and see what happens.

Marie wrote: "SPEECH AND DEBATE (even though at my school it is not a CLUB it is a TEAM)"

YUP! :D

Hannah wrote: "Ok. It's weird for me to ask advice because I am usually giving it... lol.

There is this guy, and we were best friends since kindergarten. (I am going into 7th grade.) Last year, he switched schoo..."

I haven't seen my best friend in over a year too (He lives in Hong Kong while I in England) but no matter what I could tell my best friend out in a crowd of two hundred. You never forget them, its not even looks I could tell if he is near by his presence.
He will remember you it just takes one of you to talk to the other.

Leah wrote: "I need an opinion. This is going to sound like a strange question for me to ask, but I need someone to help me guess at the inner workings of the male mind (No offense to any of the guys in this g..."

It sounds like a "Little sister" situation to me. Don't take offense, it doesn't mean you're seen as a damsel in distress. They sound like good guys.

Evan wrote: "Hannah wrote: "Ok. It's weird for me to ask advice because I am usually giving it... lol.

There is this guy, and we were best friends since kindergarten. (I am going into 7th grade.) Last year, he..."

I'm really sorry about your friend. :( But I know what you mean. He just has a unique Aura. As weird as it sounds, it's true. Thanks! I will try to talk to him. :)

Adrian wrote: "Leah wrote: "I need an opinion. This is going to sound like a strange question for me to ask, but I need someone to help me guess at the inner workings of the male mind (No offense to any of the g..."

Thanks! That last sentence of my...story, shall we say, probably wasn't worded very well....

This isn't exactly something I need advice on, but I didn't know where else to put it...

Fellow NFL members: Are we allowed to double enter in one Speech event and one Debate? Is it even possible?

@ Leah It depends based on your league, but you can double enter within the same pattern in my league. However, triple-entering or above is not allowed in my league. Some leagues or tournaments don't allow double entering or have a limit on how many events one individual can enter. My league allows you to do four events competitively per tournament. Hope that helped! =)

Thanks! I think it's about the same for us. I'd like to TRY debate, but I don't want to leave HI! :D

Lots of people at my school do four events. It's tricky, but they manage it. A lot of them do debate and interp.

Wow! Four events...I'm having trouble thinking about 2! :D

Yeah it's a little crazy!!!!!

I'd have to say Little Women. Though I have yet to finish it, it's one of those types that draws you in.