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Having friendship problems? Or do you have a perfect friendship? Talk about it here!

I have a really good friendship :D u gets on a lot of people's nerves at first, how we're inseparable and always together, and how we finish each other's sentences and literally have the same brain. And we ca never shut up when we're around each other haha

LOL same here:)

yep got problems. My best friend and I are both 14. We both are entering 9th grade. And well, she and I in my mind used to be like "SISTERS". Well lately she and I hardly talk anymore. She and I were at the 9th grade orientation but I didn't talk to her. We used to play twister together and do almost everything together. What should I do? I don't know. I wanna tell her about me having a crush on the 8th grader Carlos, but I'm not sure what Blair's reaction would be to that. I could tell her secrets in the past if I wanted to and she could've told me her secrets too. I trusted her 110%, no make that 1000%.

It takes trust. If you don't trust her then whose to say she should trust you?


Just try it:)

She dyed her hair I think. It looked pink partially. She changed so much since I first met her and I don't remember when I met her.

Well that doesn't matter. Sometimes change is good. Just talk to her, don't make up excuses... cause if you wait too long it may be too late for y'all to become friends again. :)

talk about what? I doubt she'll remember playing twister or anything we did in the past.

I doubt she'll forget something like that. You have everything to talk about! What she's been up to, how she's doing, how y'all should hang out sometimes, etc.

Then again we did just graduate 8th grade, so I doubt she'd forget some things or forget something at all

See? :)

@Lucky Ducky: Ok that is just messed up.

ᒪᑌᑕKY ᗪᑌᑕKY ᗰ! wrote: "I have a best friend and we don't hang out...like at all together.i've been to her house like 3 times and she's been to my house 2 times.we've known each other for 3 years."

Really? Dang, why don't y'all hang out?

Well maybe you should ask her if she wants to come over sometime:) or like, if you could come over!

Ahhh lol so maybe that's why? Lol ^_^

Hehe :) well that's understandable!

Awh :( im sorry!!!!

Hmm, well you'll always have us!
Although that's not necessarily the same.

Lol I know what you mean:)

@Lucky Ducky: "Day by day, nothing seems to change, but pretty soon, everything is different." Maybe it's time that you and your best friend just accept the fact that a friendship can no longer work between you. You had your friendship before, but you probably just need time and to go your separate ways for now.

I am sad :'( my best friend is not attending my school anymore. I have a bunch of friends at school, but all of them have another friend that they like more than me.

Aw I'm sorry Raven..-

:/ why isn't she attending school??

She is attending a another school. She really doesn't like the school I go to. She complained about it all year.

Ohh, well maybe you could go with her?

What????? Go with her to another school? I go to a Catholic school with the nicest people and teachers! I was in public school my whole life and depised it. I finally get to change schools and I absolutely love my new school. The school she is going to is a prestigious all girls school that is wicked expensive, and you have to have a high intellect to get in. She may be my best friend, but it's not worth it. I would never leave the school I'm in. But thanks anyway.

Ohh alright:)

I just don't trust in friendship that easily anymore because of my previous friendships. :(

I used to think I had a good friendship...good friends..but well who knew it'd come to this?
FRIENDS?

I'm sick of everyone right now.
Have trust issues too

I usually don't trust anyone by nature, so that does prevent me from having a good friendship.

I used to have a friendship, it lasted I think around 5 years, but it was always a rocky relationship from the start. When things were good, they were good, but when things were bad, it was horrid. I do believe that opposites and different people can be friends, but she and I were way to different and on top of that, we both couldn't truly accept said differences nor our personality traits. It was to difficult and it got to the point that I stopped trying and 2013 was the year that truly showed that she and I shouldn't be friends anymore. I actually ended up just pushing her away, which doesn't work out especially if you have a story project/RP with them. A few months ago our friendship finally came down in flames. And I say finally 'cause it was bound to happen and ... I do believe it should have happened a long time ago.

It still kind of hurts not being friends with her and I still do miss her, but now that time has passed I can clearly see that it was best that we stopped being friends. I'll go a step further and say that she and I should have stopped being friends years ago. I always had the instincts that it was best she go her way and I go mine, - and I'm sure she had that instinct as well - but I ignored those instincts. I never truly trusted her, and she didn't me. A relationship with no trust is never good.

With a clear view of how our friendship was, I believe that I was mainly in the friendship because of the story she and I were creating. Because of the couples and our OCs that we created. The characters were happy and I didn't want to lose that. Our friendship wasn't strong enough and that sucks. I put the story and characters above the friendship and that definitely affected the way I reacted.
I actually believe that she and I didn't truly get to know each other before we became story partners/RP partners. And for some people getting to know them as you are working on a project can work, but it didn't work for us. When we had friendship problems it affected the story partnership, when we had problems with story partnership it affected our friendship. We were to different and we 100% truly couldn't accept that.

This is not to say I didn't care for her or that I regret being friends with her. Not one bit, she's a cool person definitely and all in all she was a good friend, but we didn't have good communication and as said above we had to many differences, and differences that we just could never truly accept from each other.

So yeah, we aren't friends anymore.

I still do believe in friendships, but only if there's trust in it, acceptance in differences, acceptance in different personality traits, and great communication. No relationship can truly last if any of these aspects aren't truly there.

I do understand compromising in any relationship, sure that's how one grows and develops, but trying to change who they are because you can't deal with most of their personality traits, it's not healthy at all.

So that's my experience with that one friendship. I've had other friendships that were good, so I learned that just because two people are good people it doesn't necessarily mean that they would mesh well together.

I rambled to much ... sowwy!! =[

aww I'm sorry Melissa!
But if you think it was for the best-then so be it! No one knows you like you :)

that's ookkaay :D

Naura wrote: "aww I'm sorry Melissa!
But if you think it was for the best-then so be it! No one knows you like you :)

that's ookkaay :D"

This is true! SOme peeps just don't mix well, no matter how good of a person they are. And yes, now this day we are in, I do completely believe that it was best she went her way and I went mine. I KNOW we are BOTH happier this way!! =]

Exactly! :)

Then you did the right thing ^^

Naura wrote: "Exactly! :)

Then you did the right thing ^^"

Yep-yep!! =]