christian support network discussion

Ask. The doctor is IN.

Yeah!

You can ask or give, either way it doesn't matter

I need help, I really like this guy at my school and have for a while now. He asked me out a couple years ago, but I didn't want a relationship. Now I really like him, but he told me he loves another girl and when he asked me out before, it was a test to see if he would be able to ask the other girl out. It killed me a little on the inside to hear that. This guy even asked me to tell the other girl that he likes her. I don't want to risk their happiness, but I want to be happy to. Help please...

First of all is he a friend or Aquitaine? If he's a friend this could impact your friendship a LOT. But if you just know him than it won't hurt as much. You seem to know him well and when competing with another it can be very difficult to stand your ground. Does she like him, though?

Being his friend would help, and if their relationship, if they choose each other, may even not work out. I know what it's like to love someone who doesn't love you back, and to have to hold back is hard. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship?

First of all: Do you like him, is he a crush or do you love him. Take this seriously. If it's love then you shouldn't ignore it.

I would consider you options a lot before you make a move on him. It's a lot to know that the person you like loves another, but hang in there girl, you'll find the right guy whoever that may be.

I'd say that you deserve better, he practically just used you to get to that other girl.

This close to....

Can I ask for some advice?

Yea shoot

Thanks. Im not sure if there's any advice to be given, but here it goes.

Well, there are a few facts that are important, but I just don't know where to fit them. So first off, I am a junior in high school, I live ten miles from school, I have no cell phone service at home and I am in my school's drama program.
So I think the best place to start would be my sophomore year. I was dating my best guy friend and everything was great. But then he broke up with me in a text, which hurt, and then a little while later, he was dating my "best friend".
Since I live far from town and I can't get texts at home, no one would ever invite me to do things with them. Then when I got back to school the next day, they would talk about the fun things they did and then tell me that I should have been there. I tried explaining to them that I would go if I was invited to, but they were like "yeah but no one knows when you're in town." so I just dropped it. That summer came, and I didn't see one of my friends. The year started and nothing seemed to be better. Then my new best guy friend and I started talking and I really liked him and I think that he really like me because he would always ask who I like and he would text me and we'd just talk. Then recently, I asked him to go with me to the Sadie Hawkins dance with me as friends, but after that, we never talked. I tried, but he would be busy and would have to go. Then a few days ago, I saw him flirting with the girl who he used to like who I helped him get over because she rejected him. I was just like "wow, I help you to get over her and you still go back." And now Im in the drama club and they seem to be the only friends I have anymore because all of my "friends" always replace me with other people.
Im not sure what to do. I pray and pray. I mean, I'm not desperate for anything. It's not like I'm even remotely interested in drinking, doing drugs, cutting, or anything else self destructive.

I'm not sure if it's advice I need or if I just needed to vent. thanks anyway

Well, you are definitely not alone. I have also had some of those experiences myself. I've had a boyfriend break up through a text. I've had friends just disappear from my life or show no interest when I try to talk to them, that's something I've dealt with my whole life. And it's sad that in today's world, if you don't have a Facebook or texting, you may as well not exist because people won't bother trying to communicate any other way. Plus, high school just sucks. Period. There's a saying that you make your real friends after high school and in my experience, that has shown to be true. I'm not sure what advice would help you here but there is always the option of getting a different cell phone provider that has service where you live. There's also an app called Kik which is free messaging. Aside from that, above all else just remember to trust God and know that he has a plan and will work everything out for good. :)

Thanks. At least someone else has gone through something similar. It's nice to know I'm not alone. :)