The Hopefuls discussion

I basically want to make sure that everyone is okay and having a good day and whatnot, if you haven't had a good day or are not okay tell me your troubles and I'll try to help you c:

I've actually had a nice day: my lecturer was 'unwell' so my lecture was cancelled! The weather is beautiful and I got to read some more of my book :)

Hope you've had a nice day xxx

My day wasn't terrible, but it's not nice to see the guy you really like go out with a good friend and have to see them all over each other everyday. It's like everyone's collectively punching me in the face every time I see them :(

Believe me, Nicole, I know what you're dealing with! My crush had a HUGE thing on my best friend for a long time :P I even had to help give them relationship advice... *ugh* Oh well. Hope it gets less frustrating soon! Xxx

It was really crappy. My dog got diagnosed with liver cancer, by best friend is leaving on her mission of a year and a half and I have been sick for a week. :(

Nicole wrote: "My day wasn't terrible, but it's not nice to see the guy you really like go out with a good friend and have to see them all over each other everyday. It's like everyone's collectively punching me i..."

I know the feeling, Nicole! Keep moving ahead and try not to think about them too much, if he's not the one then you'll find someone you like even more who will like you back!


Leah wrote: "It was really crappy. My dog got diagnosed with liver cancer, by best friend is leaving on her mission of a year and a half and I have been sick for a week. :("

Awwww, I'm so sorry to hear that D: I hope you get better soon<3

I am actually having a pretty great day! I'm on spring break, but I also applied for a job at the bookstore in my town. I hope I get it! Besides that everything has been pretty great! Hope everyone is having an awesome day!

I am good today. I handed in my last Uni assessment for a few weeks. And i don't have to be up at 5 next Tuesday :)

I'm actually doing surprisingly well! If you've read the support group thread, I talked the other day about my best friend (who was a loooooot more than that) leaving for boot camp to follow his dreams as a Marine, but I'm doing much better than I thought I'd be doing. I still havent heard from him, but it still might be a few days. The trick is talking about it, keeping busy, and reading. I started Fangirl monday, and I'm almost done! Read it. Do it. Do ittttttttttt.

I love this page so much!xx Everyone on here is soo nice to eachother, the outside world is full of liers and cheaters and it's just not right!
I hope you all get through whatever you are going through and I'm here to say just stay strong and things will get better, I promise okay? Okay.
See what I did there ;)
Anyway, things so far haven't gone great for me because I've done somethings when I'm upset but for all of you out there it'll be okk xx
Hopefuls<3

I dont honestly know how my day was.. it wasn't bad, it was a normal day. I just don't feel happy today :( and I don't know why. Maybe i have a lot more to handle than normal, i don't know.

Sasha I know how you feel! I have lots of days like those and I know it's the worst thing ever but it'll pass however long it'll take! If you feel normal maybe you can start doing something outside of school that'll hype you up! I'm planning to start French and some sport courses and I'm so excited about that and it always help brighten up my mood! I hope your days get better :) xx

Tiara wrote: "Sasha I know how you feel! I have lots of days like those and I know it's the worst thing ever but it'll pass however long it'll take! If you feel normal maybe you can start doing something outside..."

I don't have school anymore, so I'm just floating around the house everyday.. Thanks for the advise! I do go to a youth group on a friday and drama club on a monday, which are fun :) i just moved here you see and am living with my aunty and uncle, so yea… but thanks!! i appreciate it :)

This thread...you guys are awesome. I love the Hopefuls! Haha. I hope everyone is having a good day though! I've been...busy. And stressed beyond stressed. But I'm getting by :) thank god tomorrow's Saturday!

Started off bad - I've been badly ill recently so my patience was already wearing thin, but one of my art classmates kept taking my bag, getting chalk all over it, offhand insults to try and annoy me so that wasn't a great start, carried on through history where I had to take a few minutes to myself in the loo, but national theatre cheered me right up so all is good now, and going up to London tomorrow which always clears my head :) x

Helen, I know how you feel, I've been quite stressed for the past few days. Try not to let the stress control you! I know it's hard, but it's nice to forget about it for a while :) Hopefully the stress will go away soon; if you need anything you can message me! Xx

If anyone EVER needs anyone to talk or vent to, I'll always be here for you <3
Stay strong beautifuls xx

Having an over all good day, but I have an assignment for school that isn't writing itself... and I'm sort of stuck... Other than that life is pretty good!

Towe, what's the assignment about?x

Been a bit meh recently but I'm clean for 15 days which I'm extremely proud of. Sounds a bit silly but on 31st May I'm seeing Carrie in Les Mis (asdfghjkl) and I'm trying to stay clean until then and I'm doing good so far :) Also you can message me too, if you need to talk or vent please send me a message xx

Leeza wrote: "Been a bit meh recently but I'm clean for 15 days which I'm extremely proud of. Sounds a bit silly but on 31st May I'm seeing Carrie in Les Mis (asdfghjkl) and I'm trying to stay clean until then a..."
Wow! go you!!!!!!! Keep it up!!! :D

I'm so disappointed :( there was a production of Peter Pan at one of my local theatres on 22nd & 23rd April which I was going to as the lovely Dani (my ultimate role model also Tracy Beaker) is in the production as Wendy. On Friday afternoon, there was a huge* fire on the top floor of the car park (*the flames reached 40ft and there were 75 firefighters with 16 fire engines), as a result of that the venue itself has been shut until 11th May as the fire started in the plant room and completely wrecked the heating and air conditioning units and the venue is structurally unsafe.

There is only one venue in the tour that is close(ish) to where I live and that's York but the problem is that its only there for one day so there are only two showings. I'm on my course the next day so if I get stranded in York I'll miss a day but if I don't get to see Peter Pan, I'll feel like I've let Dani down as I never got to see her in the Christmas Panto as it was too far from me (I travel to see her quite a bit but I have boundaries) as I've not seen her since the closing night of Rocky Horror which was in November.

Sorry for the rant, I needed somewhere to get it out :(

My best friend is moving away :'(

I'm not okay right now

What's wrong Lisa? Hope you feel better soon xx

I will try to keep this short and not give too many details. Since, I think, 1.5 month me and four other people have been talking. Now, two of them have decided to leave the group, because (as confessed earlier) they self harm, even have suicidal thoughts and are really depressed. For multiple reasons they just can't talk to us anymore, so they want to break the contact.
Even though I didn't know them for long (and I won't be able to meet them in real life, because they live in England and I live in the Netherlands), it feels like I've known them for an eternity and they really are one of the best friends I've had in life.
I am really sad that I have to miss talking to them, because they mean a lot to me. Luckily I still have the two others, but it isn't the group as before. And I'm so scared they will do something stupid! I also just can't stand that they struggle so much with their lives and that people have made them feel so horrible.
This was still a little long, sorry. And thanks xx

Things have been going wrong since the last time I posted and I've somehow managed to stay positive but it's getting harder and harder. My friend who left still hasn't contacted me and its been a week. I'm starting to worry that he's broken up with me as a friend. And we did kiss last week (it was awesome I'd been wanting to do that for a whole year) but I'm starting to think he was being manipulative (he's a bit of a slut but I love him anyway) and thinks I'm just a dumb kid. I'm just a rotten sea of emotions right now :(

Cheer up Darby! I'm sure things will turn out for the best! Maybe he's busy getting adjusted to his new environment so that's why he hasn't contacted with you yet. As for me, I've just gotten out of the crush phase with one of my friends because he had this crush on another girl and you could tell they really liked each other so I wanted the best for them. But I'm thinking I have another crush on my other friend who I used to have a crush but gotten out of. So it's really confusing for me since there's so many feelings going on.

Bex: he just pulled me out of a really bad place that I'm worried about falling into again. I really think I'm past self harming (9 months clean woo!) and suicidal thoughts, but I'm definitely not past chronic mopeyness and mood swings.

Ooh, I know how you feel Darby. I, myself, have been suicidal before for about 2 years but have managed to get better so I know the hardships that go along with it. Just remember that if you need to talk about anything, the Hopefuls are here to listen

Bex: I actually found this the day he left. You guys have been here the whole time ^.^

I am getting better, which is good thank you!:) I can't remember the last time someone said "how are you?" to me haha! :3

Sasha wrote: "I dont honestly know how my day was.. it wasn't bad, it was a normal day. I just don't feel happy today :( and I don't know why. Maybe i have a lot more to handle than normal, i don't know." I feel u :( Even though today was a good day for me

Lil wrote: "Hi, i'm feeling absolutely gutted today after getting rejected from all the universities i applied to. Now i feel like i'm not cut out for the course i want to do as i do have good enough grades to..."

Hey Lil! Since I'm still at school I don't have much experience to give you advice. But what I know is that you should try and stay positive, and everything is going to go well in the end :)
I'm kind of struggling too, because I'm changing school and I still don't know where to go to and whether or not I'm going to be accepted, but I'm doing my best not to get too stressed over it. I'm hoping for the best!
I hope everything turns out great for you (and it will!). Good luck!

What was the degree you've applied for?

It could be your personal statement, perhaps it's not what they are looking for at this time. Are you still in education?

I have a problem. I have a friend that I've known since forever and I see her as my best friend. Though I know that she doesn't see me as her best friend.. but anyway, recently she has been feeling down and stuff, so she googled the symptoms for depression and decided that it was what she had. I know she might have it, but she hasn't spoken to like a doctor or something about it and got it confirmed. Since I'm not very well informed I just accepted that she was down and I try to be there for her. But lately she has started to be really mean to me. Like if we are with other friends she always use me as a way to look cool, like stating that I'm stupid or making others laugh at me. She takes me for granted, and I feel really upset about it all. I've tried talking to her, but she only uses her depression and that she was "moody" at the time it happened. I really don't know what to do anymore...

Hi Emma! I totally agree with Lil. I think that depression is not a excuse to treat you bad. Someone who is mean to you it´s not a real friend.
So in my opinion,you should go out witth other friends and tell them what´s is going on with this girl.

I suppose you are right, and it feels good that you don't think I'm silly! I think I'll try being a bit less with her to see what happens. Besides, I'm graduating in June so after that I don't really have to meet her on a regular basis so that's good :)
Thank you for being here for me! <3

Absolutely, I will! :)

Lil wrote: "Hi, i'm feeling absolutely gutted today after getting rejected from all the universities i applied to. Now i feel like i'm not cut out for the course i want to do as i do have good enough grades to..."

Whatever you do, don't give up! Midwifery sounds like such an amazing and important course! Clearly it's something you're passionate about, you have the grades and you already made it to interview- you're so nearly there!! And the interview(s) you attended will have given you invaluable practice which most people applying won't have had. I did UCAS a few years ago but I don't really know how it works in this situation. There's definitely things you can do to apply again though (UCAS Extra, Clearing, next year? Not sure).
If you think it was the interview that let you down, nerves may have been a big part of it. Try to prepare answers for the type of questions they asked this time, and think how you can improve. You could maybe try to get some (more) experience, even if it's not directly related to midwifery- any voluntary work etc. that you can talk about and use to show you have the necessary transferable skills. You can do extra reading around the subject- books, journals, news articles. You probably did all of this for your last interviews, so just do more, and maybe practise interview questions with teachers or family. If you have more interviews, try to keep calm, think everything through, and remember that you have a right to be there- why shouldn't you be as good as everyone else in the room? You could also look over your personal statement again too, since they take that into consideration even after interview.
I didn't get into my first choice uni after being interviewed there but I'm so glad because I was really happy at the uni I went to. I definitely think you should reapply, and it'll all work out!! Good luck :D xxx (sorry, written you an essay here)

Aww it's okay- it only took a minute, I just rambled (sorry hehe). Yes definitely, and everything happens for a reason- you might be happier at another uni or after a bit of a break. You wouldn't be applying for a course like this if you weren't extremely passionate about it... And they wouldn't have selected you for interview if they didn't believe you'd do well at it and ultimately make a good midwife. The more work and practice you do, the more confident you'll be next time. It's always difficult with competitive courses like this, but I'm sure you'll be amazing :) xxx

I know I'm on here like every day but today was really nice for me. We had a practice band competition at another school. I've felt really inspired with my music lately so I've been practicing and I just felt like I played so well that my heart was soaring (trombone). Then a bunch of my friends and I went out to dinner. I also got some news about a friend that actually explains a lot. My neighbor and one of my best friends is a lesbian. And sexual preference will NEVER be a problem for me, but I just feel like a bad friend because she kept dropping hints and I didn't pick up on any of them XD

Hi Lil - I know three people at my sixth form that applied for midwifery and one of them got one offer, that's fourteen rejections! So I guess I'm saying, don't worry IT'S NOT YOU! I don't know why the course is like that but I'm sure you'll work out how to get around this :)

My friend said midwifery courses take mainly mature students, which is ridiculous but I suppose there's not much you can do.

Hello everyone! Right now I feel very good, all because of the Hopeful love you are spreading around here. It's so nice to see all of you helping and supporting each other! I wish all of you the very best, you amazing people. I hope you have a great day. Just add me and send me a message if you feel like you need to talk to someone :)Keep smiling! xxx

Hullo again everyone, I'm sorry for not really talking much on this thread but for the past week I've been feeling really, really down and lonely which really sucks. But I hope all of you are smiling and having a good day today <3

Ciara, chin up flower :) Remember to post on here if you want to talk. I hope you have a better day tomorrow and something makes you smile xxx

For all of you who saw my comment earlier about my friend, it's going allright. I think she has noticed that I don't really hang out with her anymore, at least not as before. I mean we still talk and stuff, but I'm much more with my other friends than her.
It really boosts my confidence to know that I have you standing behind me! Thank you!! XX

Emma that's great :) just stand tall and stay positive, we are here for you xx