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November Book of the Month - The Art of Losing Yourself by Katie Ganshert
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I asked my library to order a copy of this book and I got notice a couple of weeks ago that it was in the works, but not sure I'll be able to join in. The book may not arrive in November. :-(

I've been wanting to read this book forever. I love Katie Ganshert's books.

Have you read any of Katie's books prior to this, and if so, do you have a favorite so far?
Of her contemporaries, I've read

I've read Wildflowers from Winter and A Broken Kind of Beautiful. Wildflowers from Winter has been my favorite thus far.
Good news! My library has now ordered The Art of Losing Yourself so maybe it will come in before month end. :-)

Good news! My library has now ordered The Art of Losing Yourself so maybe it will come in before month end. :-)






Oh, my goodness, that totally had me laughing!!! :)
I'm a little past halfway through, and I'm really impressed with how well Katie can transition between Carmen and Gracie. Sometimes two characters blend together, but in this case, their voices are very distinct and clear.

I've read The Gifting, and I just adored that story. I've got to read books 2 and 3 as soon as I can.



Oh, yeah, I totally forgot about An October Bride! That's probably one of the best novellas that I've ever read. It was such a complete story, whereas in a lot of novellas I feel like they are rushed and incomplete.




So true. That's what I like about her novellas as well.

I don't usually like first person, but this book is well written and I agree, great job of creating two strong main characters without confusing the reader. I also think she did a great job of taking me as reader back with Carmen to the time she met Ben, there story is so cute and for adds to the sadness of the state of their marriage now.
Not sure who has read that far yet, but the scene with Carmen and Gracie in the rain were so full of emotion!

So glad you're joining, Susan! :)


I've finished too, such a great read!

1. Whose story did you enjoy more, Carmen's or Gracie's? Why?
2. This novel was inspired by the valley of dry bones in Ezekiel. A couple times throughout the story, Carmen feels like she’s nothing more than dry bones. Have you ever felt this way? Has God ever resuscitated an area of your life you thought was past the point of resuscitation?
3. At the end of the novel, Carmen wonders at what point coincidence stops being coincidence. Do you believe in coincidence? Why or why not?
4. Ben describes a process called wedging, wherein clay must be broken apart and kneaded back together in order to survive the kiln. How might this analogy relate to Carmen and Gracie’s life?
5. Carmen believed that a baby would solve her problems. Do you think this is realistic? Why or why not? Have you ever fallen into this same way of thinking? Please share with the group.
6. Gracie and Carmen cope very differently with their mother’s alcoholism. How did Carmen cope? How did Gracie cope? How did their experience shape who they are as the story opens?
7. Who is your favorite secondary character? Why?
8. The title of this novel is The Art of Losing Yourself. What do you think it means? How do various characters lose themselves throughout this story?


I felt it ended to abruptly - see spoiler for more
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3. At the end of the novel, Carmen wonders at what point coincidence stops being coincidence. Do you believe in coincidence? Why or why not? No, I believe God is in control of my life and like Prov 3:16 says, we can plan make our plans but God directs our path. I know God has a plan with everything, even if I don't see it or understand it now.
4. Ben describes a process called wedging, wherein clay must be broken apart and kneaded back together in order to survive the kiln. How might this analogy relate to Carmen and Gracie’s life? I think it relates to them in 2 ways. 1 - they had to break apart the broken/hurt/pain by dealing with it, acknowledging it and work through it to receive healing. 2 - They needed to give their lives over to God, give him control in order for God to heal the hurt and bring reconciliation and restoration.
5. Carmen believed that a baby would solve her problems. Do you think this is realistic? Why or why not? Have you ever fallen into this same way of thinking? Please share with the group. No it would not have solved the problems, it would only have been a distraction from your problems. I though this way before I was married. I though meeting my husband will make me happy, but God showed me that He should be my happiness, and it was only after this revelation that I met my husband. Like that popular saying - 2 unhappy people will not make a happy marriage. Carmen and Ben ignored their issues and a baby would only have increased the distance and conflict between them.
6. Gracie and Carmen cope very differently with their mother’s alcoholism. How did Carmen cope? How did Gracie cope? How did their experience shape who they are as the story opens? Carmen had her father to protect her from it and when she had to deal with it, she ignored her mother and the problem, was in denial. Because of Carmen's father she still learned to trust and open up to people, but I think because she ignored the issue it added to her ignoring her marriage problems.
Gracie had to deal with it on her own. She was consistently faced with false hope when her mother went for rehab and baptised herself, but then turned to the bottle again. This resulted in her pulling away from people, not trusting them and not opening up.
7. Who is your favorite secondary character? Why? This is a close one between Eli and Ben, but Ben won because of his and Carmen's love story and the scene with the suitcases. He never gave up.
8. The title of this novel is The Art of Losing Yourself. What do you think it means? How do various characters lose themselves throughout this story? For me this means that you give who you are/or who you think you are - your hopes and dreams, hurt and pain - over to God and give him control to change you and help you discover who you are in Him. Carmen had to lose her dream of being a mother and lose the control of your own dreams. Gracie had to lose her idea that she is nothing and realised she is everything to God.

I felt it ended to abruptly - se..."
My feelings exactly. I desired more finality between the unresolved issues. The author was true to real life, however, in that not all conflict is resolved in that manner.

I think he felt helpless. Most men want to fix any given situation and his inability to do so and the accompanied behavior was so genuine. Thankfully, he carried Christ in his heart, otherwise, he might have been tempted to fulfill his needs with the teacher who was making herself available.

I'd be happy to answer any questions you have! Not sure how to hide spoilers, but if you're wondering why I chose to end it the way I ended it, I'd be happy to answer. :-)
So glad to hear some of you are enjoying my young adult trilogy! OH! And the novellas! Those are incredibly fun to write.
Thanks for reading!


LOL! Love your enthusiasm, LeeAnn! The ending for me was a very personal one. At the time I wrote that story, my husband and I were in the wait of our lives, fighting for over two years to bring our adopted daughter home. We had no idea if she would ever come home, and honestly, it wasn't looking at all good. Well-meaning people would say, "Don't lose hope! God is good! She will come home!" And you know? I know those people were SO well-intentioned. But God really started digging deep into my heart, asking me, "What is hope, Katie? Where do I tell you to place your hope?" I started looking for the word in the Bible, and as far as I could tell, the only hope Jesus promises us is hope in salvation, hope in His goodness, hope in eternity with Him. It's never in a circumstance or an outcome. He never promised to bring my daughter home, and I had to get to a place where I realized, "God is GOOD, no matter what. He's good because that is who He is." It was during all of this that I wrote The Art of Losing Yourself. I didn't want to give Carmen and Ben a baby at the end because that wasn't what The Art of Losing Yourself was about. It wasn't about a circumstance being fulfilled. A baby wouldn't have been Carmen's hope fulfilled. Just like having our daughter home (praise the LORD, as blessed and thankful as we are to have her here in our home), isn't my hope fulfilled. Jesus is my hope fulfilled, and Jesus never disappoints.
Anyway! That got wordy! I find it super intriguing, as the author, to hear how differently people react to the ending. Some readers LOVE it. Others aren't so thrilled. But alas. That is the ending I felt God putting on my heart to write. It's an ending that is really just the beginning. God was breathing Carmen's marriage and faith back to life.

I think sometimes we are so used to happy endings so that when we read a story which doesn't finish as expected we get thrown.
I finished this book a few weeks ago and thought the ending to be abrupt. But after I let the book sink it, even though I would have enjoyed an epilogue, real life is not always an easy fix.
Thanks again for sharing and so happy with you that your daughter is home!
Be blessed.

Happy Thanksgiving!


I, too, had my reservations about the ending. But for me, it was realistic and not all tied up nice and neatly, and therefore, true to life. I applaud you Katie for choosing to end the book the way your felt God had imparted on your heart.



Who knows, maybe Gracie has more story left! ;)
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Goodreads Summary:
Just like in my dream, I was drowning and nobody even noticed.
Every morning, Carmen Hart pastes on her made-for-TV smile and broadcasts the weather. She’s the Florida panhandle’s favorite meteorologist, married to everyone’s favorite high school football coach. They’re the perfect-looking couple, live in a nice house, and attend church on Sundays. From the outside, she’s a woman who has it all together. But on the inside, Carmen Hart struggles with doubt. She wonders if she made a mistake when she married her husband. She wonders if God is as powerful as she once believed. Sometimes she wonders if He exists at all. After years of secret losses and empty arms, she’s not so sure anymore.
Until Carmen’s sister—seventeen year old runaway, Gracie Fisher—steps in and changes everything. Gracie is caught squatting at a boarded-up motel that belongs to Carmen’s aunt, and their mother is off on another one of her benders, which means Carmen has no other option but to take Gracie in. Is it possible for God to use a broken teenager and an abandoned motel to bring a woman’s faith and marriage back to life? Can two half-sisters make each other whole?
I have had my copy of this for far too long, so I am really excited to read and discuss this month! Chime in if you plan on joining in the discussion.