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you said you never get a thank you, so I gave you one. I know that is kind of cheesy, but everyone needs to feel appreciated. so I just want you to know that I'm thankful for you. from what I know, you are really awesome and care and help other people, which is pretty cool.
Ah, well thank you then! And I try my best.
haha, don't we all? Q: what is one thing that makes you happy?
I agree with David and READING IS LIFE
Yea it is. My dog disagrees though. He likes to pop up under whatever book I'm reading and snuggle lol
How are you Jenny? Any better?
Things are hit and miss. My dad is not wanting to drink because we dont have his tea or lemonade. How are you Morph?
Jenny this thread is for you and you only. Let's not get into me right now.
Hit and miss how?
Hit and miss how?
Some days are good and other days not so much. There are days when my dad or I wake up on the wrong side of the bed and just argue all day. There are days when we get along and work together to get something done and then there are days like today where he acts about 5 years old and drives me nuts. Or my back hurts so bad I can't move.
That's life honey. It sucks sometimes but good things can come.
Yea don't I know it. I just wory about my dad cause he is all I have.
I had a dream this past year, right before my dad went in the hospital, and I can't get it out if my head... I dreamed I came home from work and went to check on him and he was dead... I remember that in the dream I got home earlier than usual... Overtime is comeing up, and I leave at three instead of seven... it's really bugging me...
No, he has conjestive heart failure and an electrical abnormality. Its not some distant thing. Most people only live five years with mild chf... and hes had it for 3.
Perce, I'm not the only one whos dreamed it. And within a few nights of each other. I am doing my best to take care of him.
I know, but like I said with all his health problems and what the drs say he does not have much time left
Yea, thats why its been buging me so much. And he does not care about extending his life...
I get so lonely when my dad goes to hed at 7...
I'm sorry that you have to go through this. It's great that you've been so strong all this while. Keep being the amazing girl you are and we'll be here to help you always.
I can be. I try not to be when I talk to those who are younger then me though haha
Finaly, my dad decided he will go to a cardiologist. Thank goodness
Perseus Albus Jackson wrote: "But lemme tell you all something. Mar is totally nuts.
Not to mention, I am too."
*murderously glares*
Not to mention, I am too."
*murderously glares*
Jenny wrote: "Finaly, my dad decided he will go to a cardiologist. Thank goodness"
Yay!! That's great!
Yay!! That's great!
Yep. Now I just gotta get myself to a dr and we will be ok!
So, dad got good news from the cardio so far. Gotta go back the next two weeks for tests. I'm still worried about him, he's still going to bed really early and he wont eat right. Instead of a meal, he had a can of cashews. And then sausage and eggs (not good for heart)...
Well, things are back and forth again... Dad finally went to a kidney dr. They said he has 34% kidney function from the diabetes... And he still wants to say I don't care about him...
Hi Jenny,
My name is Mary, I'm new to this group and yours is the first post I've read from it. While I don't know the fullness of your sad experiences with your dad, I feel your pain and can hear it through your words. How sorry I am that your faththr is being so unkind and ungrateful to you - you don't deserve this so please don't feel that you do.
From my own life experiences and what I've observed about people who are themselves hurting, it's that they tend to lash out and hurt others, for some reason. It's as if they don't want anyone else to feel good or be happy, if they aren't. So it may be that while his words and actions towards you FEEL personal, perhaps they are not.
Perhaps he is struggling with a sense of guilt and remorse over how he's treated you in the past or is trying to push you away because he can't bring himself to apologize, just yet. Or maybe he's unwilling to accept responsibility for not taking better care of himself for many years and is now faced with the consequences through his physical decline.
Jenny, please know that you're an amazing person and loving daughter, to continue to love your dad unconditionally as it's obvious from your posting that you've been after him to see a doctor for some time now.
I hope you have a loving and supportive family and that you don't have to walk this road with your dad on your own. And, actually, you don't. You have me now to talk to and vent with, should you so choose to do so.
In closing, may God give you the peace that surpasses all understanding, continued patience and perseverance, and surround you with unconditional love and support. You are more than welcome to contact me any time, privately, at MaryKaarto@MaryKaarto.com.
My name is Mary, I'm new to this group and yours is the first post I've read from it. While I don't know the fullness of your sad experiences with your dad, I feel your pain and can hear it through your words. How sorry I am that your faththr is being so unkind and ungrateful to you - you don't deserve this so please don't feel that you do.
From my own life experiences and what I've observed about people who are themselves hurting, it's that they tend to lash out and hurt others, for some reason. It's as if they don't want anyone else to feel good or be happy, if they aren't. So it may be that while his words and actions towards you FEEL personal, perhaps they are not.
Perhaps he is struggling with a sense of guilt and remorse over how he's treated you in the past or is trying to push you away because he can't bring himself to apologize, just yet. Or maybe he's unwilling to accept responsibility for not taking better care of himself for many years and is now faced with the consequences through his physical decline.
Jenny, please know that you're an amazing person and loving daughter, to continue to love your dad unconditionally as it's obvious from your posting that you've been after him to see a doctor for some time now.
I hope you have a loving and supportive family and that you don't have to walk this road with your dad on your own. And, actually, you don't. You have me now to talk to and vent with, should you so choose to do so.
In closing, may God give you the peace that surpasses all understanding, continued patience and perseverance, and surround you with unconditional love and support. You are more than welcome to contact me any time, privately, at MaryKaarto@MaryKaarto.com.
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I watched my mother die
I watched my father on a ventalator. Twice.
I watched my stepmother destroy my dads life and mine.
I cant go out because my dad needs me at home to take care of him.
I am his last family.
I have no energy 90% of the time.
I don't get a thank you. Ever.
I dont really care anymore.