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Well if he is your friend, I am sure he wouldn't just abandon you. Why would he do that? And I am sure he will still be goofy and will love watching My Little Pony. I know someone who went through boot camp too and he was still the same person. I am sure he will come back and do all the things ya'll used to do. And if you are worried you aren't going to spend time with him when he gets back, maybe you can ask him to hang out. You are one of his friends too so of course he would want to see you too. Though saying all of this I don't know you or him personally so I can't really say for sure what will happen. I am sure everything will go just fine. If he is really your friend, there shouldn't be a problem at all; he will want to see you again. I hope everything goes well. Have a lovely day.:)
Also if he is writing to you then he must want to talk to you. :) Everything will be okay. :)
Ashley: thanks. I needed that from someone who isn't biased ^.^ I'm just so prone to having things go wrong that I have a hard time accepting that something might actually go right.
Darby wrote: "Ashley: thanks. I needed that from someone who isn't biased ^.^ I'm just so prone to having things go wrong that I have a hard time accepting that something might actually go right."Your welcome :)
Hey Darby! I don't know if I can give any useful advice, but I want you to think about something. A while back I remember you posted that this friend was going away. If I remember correctly, you weren't sure if he was ever coming back to see you again and you were worried that he wasn't going to write to you. Now, after reading what you posted on this thread, I seems to me that things have been going very well so far! He hasn't only written to you but he also mentioned coming home. That's awesome! I think that if he took the time to write to you, he will surely want to spend time with you and hang out with you. Will he be different? Will things be awkward? I don't think there's a way to know that, you'll have to wait and see. Besides that, I agree with everything that Ashley said. Just stay positive, everything will be okay :)
Catalina: thanks. I'm still trying not to get too excited, but at least now I know FOR SURE he wants to come back.
I think that if he took the time to write to you, he will surely want to spend time with you and hang out with you.I agree with Catalina.
My advise is not to worry. Don't overthink it. There's nothing possitive or helpful in worrying and stressing out, so just relax and things will fall together the way they're supposed to.
Eek just a couple days now :D he graduates tomorrow!!
Darby wrote: "Eek just a couple days now :D he graduates tomorrow!!"Yay that is awesome news!!! :)
Hey there! I have just set up a project called Letters of strength. I'm having some problems getting the word out there about it and am wondering can the hopefuls help me. Carrie inspired this project and I am hoping that the rest of the hopefuls out there can help me get it started. Letters of strength, is a project where I want to write to people. I'm offering people to write to me if they need a helping hand or encouragement. I have set a facebook page and am asking ye to go onto it and read the description and see what it's all about. If ye would share the page I would be so grateful. The Facebook page is called "Letters of strength". For some reason I can't link it to ye here but please search it and like it for me. I really want this project to work out so I figured the hopefuls would be the best way to get it out there. Thank you so much! :) xox
He's really really different and I don't know what to do. We hung out and I tried and tried to pretend everything was okay until I couldn't anymore and had to go home. He didn't seem interested in me at all, in fact I think he was trying to pretend I wasn't there, and I hope I was hearing him wrong when he said "yes" as a response to "are you embarrassed about what we did?" (We just kissed nothing DRAMATIC. I'd had my heart set on a wonderful reunion and us going back to doing the things we used to, but now I'm not even sure I want to see him again. He's just so different that its like he died and someone that looks like him has come to see me.
Oh hon :( I'm so sorry. It stinks when people change like that. I hope that things can go back to normal, but if not... Well, we'll all be here for you. *sending hugs*
Suzanne: I don't know what to do I feel so betrayed. I just can't stop crying and there's no one for me to go to talk about this. I don't want to see him again. This was just too painful.
I'm so, so sorry Darby :( I don't know why he would change his tune so much. I don't really have any sort of experience with this sort of thing so I don't know what you should do, but I'm on here a lot so if you need someone to talk to I'm here. Are you going to have to be around him at all soon or do you not see eachother much?
Oh it feels terrible when we're excited about something and then it doesn't go the way we want it to. I'm sorry :( You can always come to us if you need to talk, we'll always be here for you. I hope everything turns out okay, I wish I could be there to give you a big hug <3
Suzanne and Catalina: I've broken things off with him. He didn't even want to try and work things out. What the hell did they do to him? He'd always used to fight to make me happy. I feel so embarrassed. I'd been going around bragging everywhere about up what a lovely person he is and he comes back as this monster.
Hi Darby! First of all, I hope you're feeling better. You deserve to be happy no matter what happens. You shouldn't feel embarrassed about it, especially since nothing was your fault. He was the one who should feel embarrassed for making you feel this way. However, don't feel ashamed of your feelings, it's perfectly fine to be sad or upset about situations like this one. Just remember that even though he might not be the "lovely person" you thought he was, you are definitely a lovely person and you're going to find someone else lovelier than him. Stay positive, I hope things get better! *hugs*
I absolutely agree with Catalina! We love you Darby :)
I am so sorry that things turned out that way. :( Sending lots of love your way. *hugs*
He's leaving in a few hours. We've made up, but all my feeling for him are goooooooooone. This all could've gone way better, but it might be for the best that its ending.
I'm sorry things didn't go as you hoped. I find it weird how people change so radically so suddenly. At least your feelings for him are gone, so you heart won't be broken. I think it's for the best he's leaving, and only time would tell.
Darby just keep you chin up, If he won't even give you the time of day screw him! He doesn't deserve you! Your such a wonderful person and I hope your ok! I think I speak for all of us here when I say we're here for you, I know it can be hard when someone you were really good friends with changes so much in a short space of time (I went though something similar) but at the end of the day life's to short to hang around with people who drag you down. Maybe in a few years you'll cross paths and you'll both be on the same level again!
Hey Darby! Awfully sorry he wasn't what you hoped by the end, however at least you have made up with him and still have a friend in him hopefully :). In all honesty now you have a chance to move on with your heart, basically enjoy life! I hope your okay! Xxxx
Hey guys! I'm really sorry because I feel like I'm bugging ye but I really need your help. I started a project called letters of strength and am having some trouble getting it off the ground. This is my 2nd attempt at the project and am really struggling to find ways to make it work. I opened an email account lettersofstrength@hotmail.com and am giving people the choice to write letters to me for advice or support or whatever it is they may need. Yes i know it is similar to one million lovely letters but i hope ye will Give me the chance to get this up and running. I have a Facebook page set up called letters of strength and would really appreciate it if ye could go on and maybe like and share it for me. I know this isn't really the right place for this but I don't know who else to turn to for help besides the hopefuls. If anyone has any suggestions on how to get my project to be bigger and better it would really mean to world to me if ye got in touch. Thank you so much, I hope I can count on ye for help :) xo
*back to the original purpose of this thread* after spending over a month completely apart we're now back together as friends. We've been back to texting non stop and it's just like it was before. Well except for the time difference. He now lives in California and I'm stuck back on the east coast. We both agreed that we were acting a little off and he's apologized for coming across as being so awful. We're really working through it which is really nice. I was able to tell 2 of my friends that we're back in contact and now I'm struggling to find a way to tell my parents and therapist. It's been almost 2 weeks and I haven't told my mom. This is actually a record for me. I'm just worried she'll tell me this is a bad idea, but I'm so happy. I haven't been happy like this in months.
Darby wrote: "*back to the original purpose of this thread* after spending over a month completely apart we're now back together as friends. We've been back to texting non stop and it's just like it was before. ..."I am so glad things are working out with the two of you :)
Darby if it makes you happy I'm sure your mum will be fine, I guess she'll just be overprotective but as long as you're happy I'm sure she'll be ok with it =)
Rikki wrote: "Darby if it makes you happy I'm sure your mum will be fine, I guess she'll just be overprotective but as long as you're happy I'm sure she'll be ok with it =)"Exactly! I say if you feel like he deserves a second chance you should give him that second chance Darby :) Follow your heart. I mean people make mistakes right? And he went through a big thing. As long as he has realized that he made a mistake and is going to be kind and treat you with respect and is willing to fix it then I don't see the problem. Just be happy. :)
Rikki: thanks. I think I'll discuss strategies with my therapist before moving on to my mom.
My utterly wonderful friend Z (that's as much as I'll share for privacy reasons) is coming back from boot camp in about a week or so. He's been gone 3 months now. I've been completely in love with him for like a year and he knows it. The day before he left we did a bit of snogging, and he's been writing to me the whole time he's been gone.
BUT I'm a bit worried.
1. Is he really even coming home? I know he wants to, but I'm not sure they'll ACTUALLY let him for some reason.
2. Will he be too different? One of the reasons why I love him so much is because he's goofy and silly. We spend most of our time watching My Little Pony together. I'm just a bit scared he won't like doing stuff like that anymore.
3. Are we even going to spend time together? He has friends outside of me. He and his best friend both dated girls named Maddy at one point, and in one of his letters he mentioned making plans with Maddy BUT I DON'T KNOW WHICH ONE.
4. Will things be awkward? I just don't know if he'll want to do cuddly stuff, or suddenly be all 'just friends'. I mean he friend zoned me about 5 times in the year and a half we've known each other....
I guess I just need a little pep talk here is all.