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so, idk what I want rn, I just found out that I'm asexual 4 days ago, and I want kids but at the same time I don't want kids, I want to be in a romantic relationship, but at the same time I don't want to be in a romantic relationship, I want to adopt but at the same time I want kids of my own blood

dude same.....I feel yah

❄️Ƙανу тнє Ƒαℓℓєη Aηgєℓ❄️ (Ɓνвαяму) wrote: "so, idk what I want rn, I just found out that I'm asexual 4 days ago, and I want kids but at the same time I don't want kids, I want to be in a romantic relationship, but at the same time I don't w..."

Late to the thread here, but it's okay to not be sure what you want right now, Kavy. There's no law saying you've got to know exactly what you want by any certain point in time, and if people try to tell you you've got to have it figured out, that's putting unnecessary pressure on you to conform to social normative. And trying to do that just to please others can be damaging.

So please don't feel like you've got to have it all figured out; if you don't know what you want, it's okay. I think you're in pretty good company here, you know?

Yoru wrote: "❄️Ƙανу тнє Ƒαℓℓєη Aηgєℓ❄️ (Ɓνвαяму) wrote: "so, idk what I want rn, I just found out that I'm asexual 4 days ago, and I want kids but at the same time I don't want kids, I want to be in a romantic ..."

You are so right Yoru!! I have not exactly figured myself out yet at all, and I can tell you, for one thing, I am not straight as a pencil! I am still experimenting.

i've always been confused since i'm into guys but i don't quite like the thought of sleeping with them...so i never knew if i was into guys or not. I guess i'm romantically into them, but not sexually... i dont even know.

so what bothers me, is i am not sexually attracted to my boyfriend. I love him, and i am romantically attatched and attracted to him, but not sexually, and if we get married how is that gonna work? i dont know if any of you have anything to say about that...

If you guys get married, there's always other options than sex to have kids, and be intimate. Cuddling is one thing. You can always look into that.

@Gabby: Every relationship is different. It is possible to not be sexually attracted and still be with him.

You can also travel and focus on work and such.

I would add if you don't want kids, don't feel like you're obligated to have them, Gabby. Plus you have plenty of time to figure out want you want out of a potential married life.

That being said, in the event your boyfriend is unaware of your uncertainy regarding sexual attraction or lack thereof to him, I do strongly urge you to talk to him about it. It's critical that you both are on the same page regarding anything concerning sex. It currently sounds like you're not 100% sure where you might fall on the ace spectrum (sounds pretty ace to me, but sometimes we can be graysexual or demisexual without realizing it) apart from the knowledge that so far you've felt no sexual attraction to him or any other guy.
And you know what? That is okay. There's nothing wrong with not feeling those things. But it is very important to the health of your relationship that you discuss these things with him, no matter how frightening it may feel to have to discuss that with him.

I agree with Yoru, you should talk to your boyfriend about these things.

I agree with you Yoru as well, 100 percent. As long as both of you are on the same page with everything aka what you want and you are focusing on staying healthy, then you are good.

This not necessarily a rant but it is more of a question and I was wondering if anyone had an answer to this.

So earlier today I was talking to one of my friends about LGBT terms and I am still experimenting but I like people for their personality and I don't mind being in a relationship (female, male, transgender, binary ect...). So my question is,s it possible to have a sex drive more towards the same gender than the opposite gender even though I am willing to date anyone? (This is saying that I have a higher percent of attraction to anyone but males? But the thing is that I half don't care for what is between people's legs, but if it is a guy, I do care? Help, please!

Hey J!

So, my guess is at this point a good way to sort of go about describing yourself might be panromantic-pansexual, perhaps with the addendum you have a somewhat slight male preference? (I might not be making sense and I apologize. Please correct me if anyone thinks I'm off course here, it's about 6:20 a.m. my time and I do not function well when I first wake up. )

Yoru wrote: "Hey J!

So, my guess is at this point a good way to sort of go about describing yourself might be panromantic-pansexual, perhaps with the addendum you have a somewhat slight male preference? (I mig..."

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Okay, thanks, Yoru. You are making sense.

And I know that everyone is different when it comes to being bi, pan ect.... that is why i am asking. Thank you for your answer.

Im sick of my little brother asking if my boyfriend is bi because Im gender fluid

hi guys. My life is filled with stress right now because my fiance and his mom are trying to figure out how to break news to his grandpa about something. We aren't going to say it face to face because if we did say this secret to his face all three of us would be dead.

Jack Frost (Jaquelyn, Jackie)) The empress of winter The lonely white wolf {Semi Hiatus] wrote: "This not necessarily a rant but it is more of a question and I was wondering if anyone had an answer to this.

So earlier today I was talking to one of my friends about LGBT terms and I am still e..."

I kinda feel like I would learn towards girls more then guys TBH

Sylveon-Raven- wrote: "Jack Frost (Jaquelyn, Jackie)) The empress of winter The lonely white wolf {Semi Hiatus] wrote: "This not necessarily a rant but it is more of a question and I was wondering if anyone had an answer..."

Actually right now I am dating my best friend (Who is a girl).

Cool

yeah, and it was just a question since I was still experimenting.

I'm annoyed because apparently some ppl are trying to make pedosexuality a thing >.<

https://www.instagram.com/p/BcsQjGbAHg9/

https://www.instagram.com/p/Bcp33x2A14e/

https://www.instagram.com/p/BcpmPQIg63u/

like, WTF NO!! WE DON'T WANT THE PEDOS HERE!!! THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY IS ABOUT LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE!! PEDOS ARE NOT ALLOWED HERE!!

im pansexual and my parents are homophobes and i just want to die. they tell me i am loved and killing myself would break their hearts, but then they smother me in their fricken bubble. i want to come out but that would just make it so much worse, and i just can't anymore!
the only thing that keeps me going it thinking that one day i will leave them forever and find a community like you guys who will get me and love me and accept me.

Gabby wrote: "im pansexual and my parents are homophobes and i just want to die. they tell me i am loved and killing myself would break their hearts, but then they smother me in their fricken bubble. i want to c..."

Gabby, you are loved. I am also pansexual and have a family who is homophobic (mostly my dad's side), but you don't need to kill yourself! Everyone in the community is loved.

When you do, just let them know that they should understand because when you do bring someone home, (If you plan on dating anyone), they need to understand who you are. I can totally relate to you on about 80% of what you typed.

❄️Ƙανу тнє Ƒαℓℓєη Aηgєℓ❄️ (Ɓνвαяму) (Aelonian) (AA family) wrote: "I'm annoyed because apparently some ppl are trying to make pedosexuality a thing >.<

https://www.instagram.com/p/BcsQjGbAHg9/

https://www.instagram.com/p/Bcp33x2A14e/

https://www.instagram.com/p..."




i would like to argue that we should accept them. Please don't kick me out, I love you guys and that would break my heart. But listen, our community only wants to be accepted by others, right?
we want them to treat us like equals even though we are different from them. we dont want to be bullied, and humiliated and ostracized because of who we love. so why would we do that to someone else? when you are young, you love other children your age. then what if you grew up and discovered that you'r sexuality didn't mature with you; that you still loved people from that same age group. It was acceptable when you were their age, but now that you are older, you are ostracized and cast out, called a pedophile, and aweful things. you turn to the one group where you think you will find refuge; the group of people with alternate sexual preferences, and they reject you too. what then? even if you dont understand it, and you dont agree with it, you should accept them. LGBT+ teaches love, not hate. Love is Love is Love, and it doesnt mater who or what you love, it only matters that u remain true to yourself. So if someone loves children, and they meet a child that they love and the child loves them back, then they should be allowed to go for it. They are just like gays and bis and pans, only they are pedos. what is so wrong about that? what is so horrible about that?

Gabby wrote: "❄️Ƙανу тнє Ƒαℓℓєη Aηgєℓ❄️ (Ɓνвαяму) (Aelonian) (AA family) wrote: "I'm annoyed because apparently some ppl are trying to make pedosexuality a thing >.<

https://www.instagram.com/p/BcsQjGbAHg9/

ht..."

Well, children can be easily manipulated and do not have developed reasoning. Even if it's consensual, the adult has a lot more power and influence and early relationships and stuff can mess up children big time.

It's one thing to accept pedosexuality as something that, if you're attracted to children it's just your nature, you're not an evil person. But, if you go and abuse children OR manipulate children to have a relationship with you of any sorts, that is wrong. You can have an attraction and not do anything about it. I don't go out with every guy I like - especially if they don't want to or are in a vulnerable state.

Gabby wrote: "im pansexual and my parents are homophobes and i just want to die. they tell me i am loved and killing myself would break their hearts, but then they smother me in their fricken bubble. i want to c..."

I'm so sorry Gabby

Jeremy wrote: "Gabby wrote: "❄️Ƙανу тнє Ƒαℓℓєη Aηgєℓ❄️ (Ɓνвαяму) (Aelonian) (AA family) wrote: "I'm annoyed because apparently some ppl are trying to make pedosexuality a thing >.<

https://www.instagram.com/p/Bc..."

that is true

so some things happened and i ended up having to come out to my parents. it went so incredible different than i could have ever imagined. It turns out that they are'nt homophobes; they dont support lgbt+ but they also do not hate it. my dad was so kind and loving about it and so understanding.

so i just wanted to tell you guys that, and also say that if there is anyone out there who was like me; unwilling to come out for fear of their parents, their parents might not be all that bad :)

i mean, of course they could be all that bad and i dont want to put anyone in danger, but thats just something to think about :)

Gabby wrote: "so some things happened and i ended up having to come out to my parents. it went so incredible different than i could have ever imagined. It turns out that they are'nt homophobes; they dont support..."

THAT'S AMAZING!!

Yup :|

such is the way of many a conservative. Including my dad :|

Valentine Ransom (call me Val) ~Phantom of the Library~ ~Mr Flirt~ wrote: "I hate Mike Pence so much!!! He's hating on one of our American skaters because… *sarcastic to the max* dare I say it…
he's gay? Yep, he's gay, and no one's gonna stop him. Not stupid Mike Pence no..."

same here!!! I hate the president too

gays are awesome.

homophobes and transphobes and acephobes don't get any good food.

or powers

Valentine Ransom (call me Val) ~Phantom of the Library~ ~Mr Flirt~ ~Sunflower's marido~ wrote: "But if he does… we will not miss him."

same and the president too

Hello, I'm back with an update on my confusing ass sexuality.
I'm still as queer as a rainbow so let me live.

so, I saw some ppl on twitter saying that asexuals aren't apart of the lgbt+ because "they don't experience same gender attraction and they are cis" and "straight aces are still straight" -_- that doesn't even make any sense

Not all asexuals are cis as well

I'm asexual and I like both genders. Personality or whatever

I'm panromantic asexual

What is aceflux?

And what do you mean by asexual spectrum? I am pansexual/ panromantic, so I only know about that. I apologize if I am asking these questions.

You are thank you, Valentine.

Sylveon~Raven wrote: "Not all asexuals are cis as well"

agreed

Sylveon~Raven wrote: "I'm panromantic asexual"

SAME

Jack Frost, Jaquelyn, Jackie: {The empress of winter; The lonely white wolf } wrote: "And what do you mean by asexual spectrum? I am pansexual/ panromantic, so I only know about that. I apologize if I am asking these questions."

on the asexual spectrum there is 3 sexualities:

asexual: you lack sexual attractions
Demisexual: you only feel sexual attraction when you connected a deep emotional bond with someone
Graysexual: you rarely feel sexual attractions

it's the same with romantic orientation

Shadow of Alex ~They/them~ (The Phoenix Reincarnated) (Shadow of Whales) (Bvbarmy) (Aelonian) (aa family) (Royal council) wrote: "so, I saw some ppl on twitter saying that asexuals aren't apart of the lgbt+ because "they don't experience same gender attraction and they are cis" and "straight aces are still straight" -_- that ..."

also, I argued with that person earlier and they said that asexuals aren't oppressed?

Shadow of Alex ~They/them~ (The Phoenix Reincarnated) (Shadow of Whales) (Bvbarmy) (Aelonian) (aa family) (Royal council) wrote: "Jack Frost, Jaquelyn, Jackie: {The empress of winter; The lonely white wolf } wrote: "And what do you mean by asexual spectrum? I am pansexual/ panromantic, so I only know about that. I apologize i..."

Valentine aready answered my question.

yeah, asexuals don't go through the same things that gays or trans go through but they still go through stuff. And they deserve a safe place too!!

Shadow of Alex ~They/them~ (The Phoenix Reincarnated) (Shadow of Whales) (Bvbarmy) (Aelonian) (aa family) (Royal council) wrote: "so, I saw some ppl on twitter saying that asexuals aren't apart of the lgbt+ because "they don't experience same gender attraction and they are cis" and "straight aces are still straight" -_- that ..."

also that person is also ace -_-