Somewhere to Nowhere discussion

I've seen many things in my life. Things that you just can't change. In 2015 I lost my Grandfather. I'm still not over it. Each person that I've lost made me who I am today, him, for instance, taught me many things. From respect to happiness.

When you lose someone, remember, the time you spent with them was so amazing. I was so happy that God let me spend great times with my Grandfather and that, at some point, he made it home safely from fighting in Vietnam so I was able to meet him.

Never throw away memories because they make you sad to think about. They're there for a reason.

Wow, Anna. That's sad. You did nothing wrong. Don't blame yourself for it. Do you feel comfortable enough telling us what she said that made you upset?

Okay, well you can PM me if you need anything or want to tell me. We are all here for you.

I'm terribly sorry to hear that, Anna! Things like that are a terrible thing to go through and I am sorry you had to have gone through it. Please know that you didn't do anything wrong, you did the best you can. We're here for you Anna.

i have seen too much death i lost my great grandparents and i promised them i would take care of their dog jeana and my parents put her down then i lost my step-grandfather and then i lost two of my closest best friends on died in a car wreck and one died by commiting suicide idk how many times i have wanted to hurt myself and have done it it hurts too much and people say im strong? HA idk where i would be right now if i had given up a long time ago i have seen too much and lost too much most would be asking where i got the strength even when i got bullied and i would tell them....... i would tell them i was fighting as hard as i could to hold on even though it hurts im not gonna stop. not now. not ever. im never gonna stop fighting it seems like things get worse everytime i turn around shit turns to hell so i decided to walk straight through hell with a smile it keeps getting harder but im growing stronger but this also makes me weaker but im gonna keep fighting and tbh i would have given up a long time ago if it werent for you all and my girlfriend keesha so in all honesty i should thank you

Leon, I am terribly sorry to hear what you've gone through. I'm glad you continue to fight the good fight and not let it drag you down. Keep going in that direction and never let anything take away your character and personality. Hey, I want you to listen to this song. It's been one of my favorites and it was one of my Grandfather's (whom I lost) favorite songs. https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=...

thanks kaitie

Anytime.

My father passed away over two years ago in September. I didn't even begin to grieve for the following year. myself and my two younger brothers buried his ashes a year to the day after he passed. We also received a bronze foot plate for his grave with his service insignia from the Army on it. It was a perfect way to put him to rest. My Dad had the most dry sense of humor that I ever knew. He could set people to howling with laughter while he just sat there with a small grin on his face, but inside I know he was barely keeping himself from roaring with laughter. He always told me, as I am the oldest of the boys, "I will come back to haunt you if you let me die in a nursing home". He said this with a smile of course. My Dad passed away on a Thursday night, found by my Mom and he was smiling. All in all, not a bad way to go. I hope I may go as peaceful, knowing I am loved and thought of fondly by those around me.

*hugs*

Daniel wrote: "My father passed away over two years ago in September. I didn't even begin to grieve for the following year. myself and my two younger brothers buried his ashes a year to the day after he passed. W..."

I am terribly sorry for your loss, Daniel. He sounded like a good man with a good life, and I'm thankful he gave us the capability to become your friend, which s great of itself. He fought the good fight and I'm sure you were a blessing for him! God bless.

I hope I was a blessing to him. We talked a lot, as he was a "go to church every time the door was open" strong Christian and I am not the biggest fan of organized religion. We found common ground in laughter and sports, and he is half of the equation (Mom's the other half) for my love of reading. My Dad read westerns and war books, historical novels and textbooks. My Mom read Robert Heinlein and Issac Asimov, and Tolkien. All together a pretty good pair of parents to get reading guidelines from. Their music tastes shaped my musical life also. LOL!

Sorry for all of the sadness in the world, it’s not like I want to add to it but my dog died in February

SHINE wrote: "In 2016, my Grandpa died from cancer. He was my only close Grandpa I had. Camping and 4-Wheeling is a reminder on how much I miss him.

On Feb 22nd 2018, my female Bichon dog died. We all knew she..."

I get it
My doggo Doonie was 9 years old and he died from cancer, they never knew it was there and it was totally unexpected, that morning he wouldn’t move so my mom took him to the vet and my brother and I went to our ski mountain for a slalom race, and then my dad told us in the car on the way home . . . and I had him like my entire life (discounting a few years) and it felt like he died too early

I would say passed away but death is ugly and it doesn’t need to be disguised by pretty words

Thing is, people who lose pets are losing family when they die. if you are a pet owner at all, you don't own the pet, rather they own your heart. It's a pain that is hard to get past. I myself lost my two dogs a year after my divorce and that's been 13 years. I still haven't got another dog. Just too painful. Not ready yet.

I just looked in my tank and my pet fish is dead... *sigh*

This is kinda depressing

Yeah...

Depression and sadness are normal ups and downs in life. I know when I speak to someone or know someone has heard me, it allows me to grieve easier and get centered again. Life and death are things in all existences. Knowing someone listens and has been on the same path allows us to create what this world is lacking greatly in: community.

I'm terribly sorry to everyone of whom has lost a loved one and yes, Daniel, I could not agree with you more. Life wouldn't be life if it was always like Kindergarten. But when a loved one passes, it's important to let their memory live on. Since losing my Grandfather... things haven't been the same. Every time I look at something he and I both loved, my eyes start to burn. I miss him so badly. And although I don't want to dwell on his absence, I need to think of the good times we've had. I wish that I could have stopped the pain he went through before passing. But at least the night before he passed he was himself and we got to say our signature saying to each other. "My people call your people," and well, that saying rings in my head. He even told the female officer to tell me the saying the night before he died. She walked in with a startled expression and asked my Mom, "Should I tell her what he said?" He he. But I'll never forget him and our last moments of seeing each other will not be our goodbyes. But to everyone going through the hurt of losing someone, remember, please, they'd like to see you smile. And the least you can do is make them smile by showing them your happiness, right?

Exactly! Kaitlyn's right!

Aly "A Reader Lives A Thousand Times Before They Die. Someone Who Doesn't Read Only Lives Once." wrote: "Exactly! Kaitlyn's right!"

I appreciate it!

SHINE wrote: "I'll never forget when I said "I love you, Grandpa" when he was in a deep sleep from the cancer. When we received a phone call from Grandma (or someone in the house) saying that Grandpa passed away..."

I'm sorry.

SHINE wrote: "I'll never forget when I said "I love you, Grandpa" when he was in a deep sleep from the cancer. When we received a phone call from Grandma (or someone in the house) saying that Grandpa passed away..."

I'm so terribly sorry to hear that, Shine. I absolutely send my deepest sympathy and hugs are sent your way.

Can someone change this thread’s title to Losing a Loved One

Nova wrote: "Can someone change this thread’s title to Losing a Loved One"

I just did and apologies for the mishap.

Thanks and it’s good :)

I miss my doggo really bad :(