Suicide, a no go discussion

Well, you do need to find a new way to distract you. Trust me kt'll help if you are doing something. I startws to play video games when i was really down in the dumps. You just need to find an external way to express yourself, that isnt harming yourself.

What helped me stop cutting myself was every time I reached for a knife or razor I grabbed a marker instead. I would draw something on the places I wanted to cut. Maybe that can help you too.

Julia wrote: "So, two years ago, I started cutting myself. It was bad. I used a razor blade to my left wrist. I did my stomach once, and my hip... And my between my thighs. But mostly just my wrist. I was okay w..."

Hey there! So sorry I'm late in replying to this. If you need someone to just talk to you can message me. Everyone else has given you some advice on this and I'd like to say it's all good. The big thing about not cutting when you would normally do so impulsively is finding a solid alternative, like Halie commented keep a marker on you. It gives you an impulsive alternative that can help you get control.

You should talk to people though, and if you are starting to slip in depression that is all the more reason to. As a general rule depression usually takes clinical treatment to heal, but you can get better on your own if it isn't particularly severe and you can find the will. I know you said you can't talk to people, any reason why?

I don't have personal experience with this (like cutting myself), but I have seen more than a couple people through this so I'm here to listen to you and help :)

Julia wrote: "I can't and don't talk to anybody because they don't really understand. I do talk to some people, I just don't blatantly say that I feel like cutting and am depressed."

That's a pretty common reason for not talking to people.

And okay, I'm not saying I understand (because I don't), but I understand the idea of how that brings a release for some people...I have to be careful because if I take a run for stress relief/distraction from life I will run until I literally collapse. It gives this really nice release that makes me feel completely okay, however, it is horrible for my body so I try to avoid doing that.

So I can understand why you do what you do, and I feel that if I didn't have the people I have supporting me that cutting would have been something I would have found relief through when I had somethings happen a while back just because I was so fed up with not feeling "okay" and any sort of release gives you that for a while.

With all that said, if you want to talk to me at any point, i'll listen...I would like to get you to stop eventually but I don't want to make you shut down further into yourself so for now i'm just someone who will listen :)

Julia wrote: "Well, I mean... I guess I didn't make this part make sense.

I haven't cut myself in over a year. I stopped. Just recently, I have wanted to start cutting again.

I don't want to hurt myself. But ..."

Oh! Sorry, that's good, I thought you meant something else (obviously :) ).

It's okay to feel weak, you are strong, but being humans means you have the ability to feel weak but still have that rock solid core that you just have dig down and find.

That could have a lot to do with it.

I understand a lot what your going through. I was diagnosed with depression and was put on some medicine, afterwards I was put on medicine for bipolar disorder as well. I started cutting after my medicines were regulated and couldn't understand what was the matter. It turned out I was having problems with coping with everything. Whenever I feel like cutting I have a list of things to do instead, such as color in a coloring book ( I know it sounds stupid and childish but for me it works) I could also paint or braid bracelets, etc. I hope this helps and I feel comfortable with talking about anything, so feel free to reach out if you want!

Hahah they really aren't! In a weird way they are calming! And I know how hard it can be to not cut so it may take some time before you feel totally strong enough but I hope this helps! I'm here if you want to talk and depression can be such a hard thing to deal with, it really does take up every aspect of your life and is definitely not something you can just turn off!

Ohh definitely! It's also hard to talk about it openly because of the stigma that surrounds mental health! It's really sad because people are really suffering out there and need the help and shouldn't feel afraid to reach out but sadly because of our society they are!

I'm sorry! I know it can be difficult when no one confronts you about it because it may make you think that they don't care, when in reality they just do not know what to say to help! Look at it this way, if you see someone with a broken leg you know exactly what to say, people will react with a "OMG what happened" or " I hope it gets better" and so on... But you can't see depression so people don't know how to react, especially family. Whenever I got hurt my dad was always there to put a band aid on and comfort me but with cutting and depression he had a very hard time understanding. He finally came around as we talked about it more often and openly! I'm sure your friends and family care and love you and may just be confused on how to help!

I do too! I hope things get better for you! Have you ever thought about seeing a psychiatrist? Or do you? I know it can sometimes sound kind of scary and intense but it might be something to consider! Because even though I want things to get better for you sadly depression doesn't just come and go as you probably know. It's always there, some days are worse than others but I just hope you find something that will help you because even though you may feel better now you may not feel the same tomorrow or in a few days!

I do too! I hope things get better for you! Have you ever thought about seeing a psychiatrist? Or do you? I know it can sometimes sound kind of scary and intense but it might be something to consider! Because even though I want things to get better for you sadly depression doesn't just come and go as you probably know. It's always there, some days are worse than others but I just hope you find something that will help you because even though you may feel better now you may not feel the same tomorrow or in a few days!

Hahah the brain is complicated! Which kind of makes all of this even harder to deal with! If I were you, I would try to push to see my counselor or psychiatrist and try to be vulnerable with them and tell them what's going on! They will be able to hopefully help you in a way that can make you feel more solid! I have bipolar disorder and know how it feels! It's definitely not something easy to overcome and usually meds are involved to help! I know meds can be kind of scary to think about but depending on what your going through they could help!

Hahah the brain is complicated! Which kind of makes all of this even harder to deal with! If I were you, I would try to push to see my counselor or psychiatrist and try to be vulnerable with them and tell them what's going on! They will be able to hopefully help you in a way that can make you feel more solid! I have bipolar disorder and know how it feels! It's definitely not something easy to overcome and usually meds are involved to help! I know meds can be kind of scary to think about but depending on what your going through they could help!

Ok gotcha! Do you mind if I ask what kind? I'm just curious

That's weird, why can't they? Where do you live

That's weird, why can't they? Where do you live

Yeah! Seriously! Do you think the meds are working?

Yeah! Seriously! Do you think the meds are working?

That's great! I'm glad it's helping, I know medicine can be a tricky thing! It was really nice talking to you!

That's great! I'm glad it's helping, I know medicine can be a tricky thing! It was really nice talking to you!

Amanda wrote: "That's weird, why can't they? Where do you live"

Not to randomly drop in, but it's because 90% of the medication in the US for depression is not well tested in minors and it can actually make things worse. Also, there is a policy that is out there to try and keep doctors from just loading people (especially adolescents) up with medication; however, it tends to back-fire.

Other countries are better about using CBT (regular therapy that has been tailored to your case along with other treatments, usually medications) where as the US tends to be "medications can fix anything so lets get you started on some" because it is not only easier, gets quicker (but not necessarily better) results so the patient is satisfied more readily, but the medical staff/pharmaceutical companies will make more money. In a way it's sad, meds should be used in combination with therapy for long term solutions but in the US they aren't.

Same I tried many alternatives before medication, but my diagnosis is a lifetime illness supposedly so I will never get off of it either