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Is there a right time to say the “L” word? When? Should you wait a certain amount of time? What are your thoughts on the matter?

That moment when you’re so gay and thought the L word that this is referring to is lesbian... lmao.

But no, I don’t think there’s a right time to say it. I mean.. saying it during the first month is probably not a good idea. I would probably say it when I know for a fact that what I feel is love. That could be during the third month or the sixth. I think you should say it when you feel ready, which speaking from experience is hard to tell, and it’s important you shouldn’t feel pressured to say it if the other person says it.

There are some exceptions. Maybe you’ve known this person all your life and you’ve been best friends for years. You already love this person, so it makes sense that you’ll start to feel in love earlier on in the relationship.

In conclusion, I think it’s important to say it when you’re ready but if it’s too early (like in the first month) because it could freak the other person out, even if they do really like you.

Wow, you just summed up all of my thoughts! Thank you for you opinion! <3

There is no correct timing other than the time that you KNOW you love someone. Its super cliche, but very true.. when you know, you know. My husband and I said it after only 2 weeks of dating and 3 weeks of knowing each other. There’s no proper timeline for anything and don’t let anyone tell you differently!!!

if a partner ever says "i love you" and you aren't comfortable with it yet, let them know. my ex said i love you very quickly...it started with just "ily" and then moved to the full word and i felt very awkward and was just forcing it out. it's better to just tell them to wait a bit longer instead of pretending.

The “l word” has definitely lost its meaning over time, which I find truly heartbreaking. Only say the l word to someone if you are so overcome with feelings for them that that is the only word you can think of to sum up your feelings for them. Those are my personal opinions. I hate it when people lead someone on by saying things they don’t actually mean.

not me thinking the l word was referring to lesbian....
honestly, the word is thrown around so much its lost its beauty, so like a lot of the people have said here, only say it when you feel like you cant wait any longer <3

*My dumb brain* What do you mean by the L word?

Kaarin Valdez Cinder Lightwood Potter wrote: "*My dumb brain* What do you mean by the L word?"

love i think

Oh okay.

i felt odd saying "i love you" to my ex because my feelings toward them were very subdued compared to my first love which i was yandere for. it can be confusing if you've had obsessed love and can't tell whether a normal love is real or not...i've struggled with that and am still struggling. it's kinda hard to describe what "obsessed love" means but yeah.

this "L" word in my mind could mean two things...love or lesbian? which one is it?

for the word love: this word has lost its meaning, and to be honest, i have no clue what it even means anymore.

for the word lesbian: if you are one, share it with the world! ( or not, its really up to you lol )

kenadie ♔ wrote: "this "L" word in my mind could mean two things...love or lesbian? which one is it?

for the word love: this word has lost its meaning, and to be honest, i have no clue what it even means anymore.

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It's love, haha. I do agree that the word itself has lost meaning. Love, to me, is the butterflies you get around the person you're with. It's knowing they have your back, no matter what. It's feeling like you don't want to live without them, but know if it was best for them, you'd let them go.

i'm worried about falling deep in love..i don't think it would end well for me

alice仙境 wrote: "i'm worried about falling deep in love..i don't think it would end well for me"

Why's that? If you don't mind sharing.

with my old girlfriend i loved her so much that it felt like being stabbed to death with love. like idk it was so overwhelming and just like i didn't even care about myself and i would let her use me just because i loved her so much. i would daydream about just how much i loved her...it was insane. i've never felt that much love since then and i probably had a mild case (well...not mild for me but i wasn't like a stalker) of Obsessive Love Disorder but idk that's just a guess because i was literally SO in love

I can't say I've ever felt that way about anyone.

yeah i don't think many have...which is why it's so hard to explain it. luckily i don't love her anymore...it's like looking at a distant memory. it's hard to remember the feeling other than *love* like just so much of it

Honestly, it depends on you and your partner, it's true the word has lost its meaning over time. Personally, I feel like I am in love with you works better than I love you but that's just me. Because you wouldn't say I am in love with you dad. That does not work but you would say I love you. But I guess you just know it's this happy feeling you get whenever they are around, the urge to protect them from harm, thinking of them constantly, smiling at the little small things they do there are way more points but I only wanted to mention a few. You get to decide when your ready and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you find that you know and you would like to say it, then you should. Love is a funny thing it changes people for the better or for the worst. It can bring happiness or heartbreak. Actually, the saying all is fair in love and war is really accurate here. Overall, I think it's your choice about it there really is no certain time period although I don't think it's relevant if you literally just met a few hours ago. In order to really be in love you have to know the person, understand them, feel them its like idk when you upset I feel it though this may not be the case for you. That is my thought on the matter but I am not a professional love doctor so I don't know.

Lilly & Zay (=0w0=) wrote: "When I met Zay, he was dating a girl whom hated my guts. For a month I had thought we were friends than she kinda got sick of my enthusiasm. Anyway, so this boy comes on and the first thing he says..."

Good job!

I thought you meant Lazy o. o'

I've had people say "I love you" the moment we "got together" god I felt so pressured to say it. The words never roll of my tongue the right way unless I really really like them or it's my family. I say I love you to my best-friends but that's different, we're really good friends and I mean it platonically. It's different for everyone but my past partners always said it too much and they never meant it. The one time I said "I love you" to someone who wasn't family, and meant it, was with one of my best-friends. I love him more than anything. It's the one time it felt right. But we aren't dating or anything, we're still just best-friends (with benefits)

friends with benefits are fun cuz u can flirt with them without it getting weird

yea! we both really like being BFB

rosie wrote: "That moment when you’re so gay and thought the L word that this is referring to is lesbian... lmao.

But no, I don’t think there’s a right time to say it. I mean.. saying it during the first month ..."

I agree! [also with the first part lmao]