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“Love your body because you only have one.”

Trust me, I know, there are sooo many different beauty standards women are supposed to meet. Guys rate us, and talk about our bodies. EVERY body is perfect; tall, skinny, short, healthy. Here's where you can talk about all things relating to "body positivity"! <3

Hi! Yeah, so many girls have body positively problems.
I’m personally not built skinny. I have wide shoulders and huge, muscular swimmer legs. It’s especially annoying that I’m very strong, but of course muscle weights more. So, that stupid scale says that I’m apparently overweight, but that’s just because I’m muscular. I check my weight so constantly my parents have to hide the scale so I don’t get even more depressed. I’ve been dieting since I was nine and have been begging my mom to let me fast, although I’m very active; on the swim team, skiing, white water rafting, working out, etc.
So, yeah, body positivity is a hard point of mine.

Kaarin Valdez Cinder Lightwood Potter wrote: "Hi! Yeah, so many girls have body positively problems.
I’m personally not built skinny. I have wide shoulders and huge, muscular swimmer legs. It’s especially annoying that I’m very strong, but of..."

I know exactly how you feel! My ex best friend was incredibly underweight, so I always felt huge next to her. My family had to hide the scale too, so I know exactly what you're going through!

Recently (maybe in the past few months or so) I've been having a big problem with body positivity. I secretly know down deep that I'm not overweight at all by any means, in fact everyone says I'm slender. But I've been getting into this habit of skipping at least one meal a day, sometimes two, and during meals drinking water so I don't eat as much. I go running (which is healthy so I won't stop that) for 2.5 miles every other day. For some reason I feel scared if I eat normal meals like a regular person because I somehow imagine myself inflating more and more. But I've lost around 10 pounds and I'm thinner (still not underweight) and I get scared that the scale will say I've gained weight again.
At the same time of being scared of that, I'm also scared to get too far one way and I'm trying hard to go back to eating 3 meals a day for the most part, or at least 2.
My mom has commented that I haven't been eating very much and she's said she's a bit concerned I'm not eating enough and I don't know what to say because I don't want to be overweight. I guess not eating breakfast and sometimes lunch feels like an accomplishment and something I can control since I can't control other parts of myself. I don't know.
I know I'm messed up with this, and I hope it doesn't affect anyone else, but I hate it and I have no clue what to do because no matter what I'll always feel like I'm the wrong size.

Sorry for my huge ranting post.

Mary Kathryn wrote: "I have always struggled with my body image. For one thing, I am very short for my age, which has been the cause of a lot of depression for me. I can not even begin to tell you how many hateful comm..."

How tall are you? If you don't mind me asking? I'm rather short, 5'1, so I get comments as well. There is NOTHING wrong with thick eyebrows, I wish mine weren't so damn thin. Please send some butt my way, I am the flattest human on this planet. I know it's hard not looking like a supermodel, but from what you're describing, you sound beautiful to me. Everyone's body is different, and everyone's body is beautiful. <333

I think I am also somewhere around five foot one. Yes, sending you some butt right now! Thank you, that is very sweet of you to say!

Ari wrote: "I'm about average height for my age.I really like my hair because it has natural highlights.I also like my eyes because of the color.I started............developing,I guess you could say,in 3rd gra..."
Acne sucks. Just wondering, have you ever heard of or tried Differin? I use it for my acne and it has worked pretty well for me.

Okay, just a recommendation!

i always hate it when my stomach sticks out even a smidge. i know it's not overweight and it's like not a big deal but i want it totally flat and i'm so insecure about how every time i eat it just starts to stick out.. and not even like a lot just like the tiniest eensie weensie bit and i feel fat

and it's not like i would care that much about that if i didn't want to be a social outcast. so many get shamed for literally existing and society has taught me to be ashamed of myself

Kaarin Valdez Cinder Lightwood Potter wrote: "Hi! Yeah, so many girls have body positively problems.
I’m personally not built skinny. I have wide shoulders and huge, muscular swimmer legs. It’s especially annoying that I’m very strong, but of..."

Im a dancer so @Kaarin I get what you mean, I guess that i am built kinda skinny, but with me working out every day while at dance, i have muscle and it is really annoying when your PE teacher says you need to lose weight.

I actually ran cross country for three years, so my leg muscles are my biggest muscle. I have 0 upper body strength, so imagine my surprise when I wore a sleeveless, red dress to homecoming last year, and my grandmother told me my shoulders looked "manly."

iris :) wrote: "I actually ran cross country for three years, so my leg muscles are my biggest muscle. I have 0 upper body strength, so imagine my surprise when I wore a sleeveless, red dress to homecoming last ye..."

its so funny, i haven't seen my grandparents for a whole year and when they seen me for the first time over spring break they were so confused on how much muscle i had XD and it is actually very noticeable because of my thin, tall figure.

kenadie ♔ wrote: "iris :) wrote: "I actually ran cross country for three years, so my leg muscles are my biggest muscle. I have 0 upper body strength, so imagine my surprise when I wore a sleeveless, red dress to ho..."

I live with my grandparents, so I get the criticism every day, haha.

iris :) wrote: "kenadie ♔ wrote: "iris :) wrote: "I actually ran cross country for three years, so my leg muscles are my biggest muscle. I have 0 upper body strength, so imagine my surprise when I wore a sleeveles..."

XD lucky you!

when my dads mother came she said she thought i'd be chubby so i can see how grandparents are pretty judgmental sometimes

I already am insecure about my weight bc I’ve gained a lot over quarantine and I’ve slowly been gaining confidence back and getting into a routine of being healthy. But, when I had my physicals Friday they were talking about weight and one of them was like “I sure hope I don’t look like I weigh 127” because the scale was broken and I would love to be that weight and another girl was like “I am NOT 146 pounds I don’t want to be that way” and yea 😀✌️

iris :) wrote: "I actually ran cross country for three years, so my leg muscles are my biggest muscle. I have 0 upper body strength, so imagine my surprise when I wore a sleeveless, red dress to homecoming last ye..."

I feel you. I can’t wear tank tops without feeling like a elephant.

Mary Kathryn wrote: "Ari wrote: "I'm about average height for my age.I really like my hair because it has natural highlights.I also like my eyes because of the color.I started............developing,I guess you could sa..."

Oh yes Differin is a life saver! It works miracles on my gross pimple-y skin!

My biggest tip for anyone struggling with their weight is to follow people, especially celebrities, who post body positivity things on social media. So many celebrities are all about trying to look thin and dieting and seeing those posts nonstop can really get to your head. If you surround yourself with messages that your body is normal and perfect as it is it will really help <3

I actually weight 110 lbs right now. I had covid, which made me lose about 8 lbs.

Annabeth wrote: "I'm about average height for my age.I really like my hair because it has natural highlights.I also like my eyes because of the color.I started............developing,I guess you could say,in 3rd gra..."

personally, i love acne, it makes you even more unique than you already are! I also think it's just me, but popping pimples is a hobby, sport and stress reliever for me!

I both love and hate my body at the same time!

I'm severely underweight, as my BMI (body mass index) is 13.7 and I am a five-foot-six female. I still think i'm fat though. Sometimes I can look at myself and go, Oh damn! I look good, and other days I turn the slightest and I hate it instantly. I often go a couple days without eating and I have sports on top of that. When I do eat, if I feel full I get very guilty because I feel out of control. I once scared myself because one day I had been 126 lbs and the moment I saw that, I went three and a half days without eating and when I saw how much weight I had lost (after those three days I weighted 81 lbs) and i tried to keep myself there. Though it scared me that i might gain weight as fast as I lose it. My mother calls me pretty, the guy I like says he loves my body AND my personality. it doesn't make me feel very good though. The one time I felt very confident in the way I looked is when some random stranger said I was "rocking my outfit" and it made me swell up with pride.

I like my face sometimes too. I have a button nose and bright blue eyes, but I have a large forehead and a wide face. I'm on the masculine side and more often than not, I hate it. Sometimes I feel like I have a big head and i'm always in the way. Sometimes I think I look beautiful. For me, it's all about the way I feel that day and the angle of which I see myself. I have long, thick and easily-tangled hair. It makes me pretty self-conscious too. It's easily frizzed and I always have horrible knots underneath my hair. My mom sometimes says, "You have to have good hygiene or you'll look like the homeless man down the corner" and it makes me a little over-conscious of the way I look.

I also have a huge problem with my legs, right at the top of my thighs, they rub together and it makes me feel very obese, though people say i'm not. So I usually wear pants or leggings if I can because the feeling is upsetting and uncomfortable. My thighs also jiggle when I run so i'm always monitoring that. Occasionally i'll shave until I rip my skin and bleed because I want to be baby bum soft.

I've changed a lot about myself, from the way I walk (i've made a habit of straightening my back so now it's just muscle memory) to the way I eat (i take small bites and chew with my food tucked into my cheek) so i'm getting more and more confident in myself, but not by much

yeah, that's really relatable. i'm glad but also very sad that i'm not alone. i have a lot of thoughts like "you could just chop off the excess fat" when it comes to my thighs. i hate the way they squash when i sit down . . . anyone else?

HOLY-

YES I hate that so SO much

lol and i'm looking at my very skinny classmates and they don't look that thick compared to mine >.<

but like damn imagine just chopping off the excess fat ik i think about that too much but like what would happen

i always think about sucking it away with a tube-

drinking it??????!!?

oh god no-

like i heard of something a long while ago that if it's serious enough, a doctor can turn the fat into jelly with some machine and then suck it all away

ewwwww

ikr? but sometimes it crosses my mind that maybe i should do that

but itd still leave leftover skin