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I'm turning 29 and I definitely feel this. Emma spoke about this in her British Vogue interview that there are a lot of subliminal messages that as you're reaching your 30s, you are sort of "expected" to have your life "together" and get married, have that stable set career, etc - I've learned to try to ignore and stop comparing myself to my others (comparison is the thief of joy)...I've switched careers a dozen of times and still trying to find myself and I think that is okay.
It's definitely difficult, I'll give you that. I'm 31 and come from a very traditional, Hispanic household where I've been designated the black sheep of the family because I'm not married nor have I started a family. You really need to work on trying to ignore these expectations that society has set and just think about yourself and what you feel is best and not compare yourself to others. I think that's the most detrimental thing you can do :( everyone has their own separate journey, with destinations that are almost always going to be different from yours and that's ok! That's what makes it all the more exciting. Where you're at right now in your life at 30 is where you're supposed to be (: and don't let anything or anyone try to convince you otherwise.I'm 31 and I'm barely finishing my undergrad. What's next for me is still up in the air and I think that's ok (:
Your comments are helpful Clarissa and Julia. I also watched them Emma Watson interview, it is very clarifying. I also try to not have my self-image be affected by those exceptations but I find it difficult as most people seem to have those exceptations on me.
@Jonathan, its definitely a work in progress for me to understand and accept that everyone reaches different "milestones" at different times - and its especially hard when those close to your like family and friends have that expectation for you to have your life together but I'd rather be single than settle down and marry before I'm ready....I'd rather take the leap to find a job I'm passionate about than a monotonous job I hate
This is of course a feminist bookclub but maybe we can have a discussion for ageist I recently turned 30 and I'm already noticing changes on how people perceive me. As a man I'm expected to have a steady life at this point. How to adjust? Those of you that have turned 30 have you also noticed the change? Thank you in advance for your responses.