Debates discussion

Thanks for this request, Gracel!

Okay, so I guess divorce actually has zero anything to do with dating, but it was the closest fit. XD

Is divorce acceptable, and if so, when does it become so?

I think if there's physical abuse in the relationship, then divorce is understandable.

Pianissimo wrote: "I think if there's physical abuse in the relationship, then divorce is understandable."

agreed

Catholics are not allowed to divorce. We believe that marriage is forever. Although I think there might be special instances, I need to look this up. I do have an aunt who fell in love, got married, and then found out that her husband didn't want to have kids. When Catholics get married then you have to try to have kids. Marriage was created to bring children into this world so you can teach them about God. Anyway, my aunt loves kids and really wanted to have some and in the end he left her. I don't really know how everything went down. I think he just up and left one day and didn't come back. They may have gotten a divorce? I don't know. I do know that she got the marriage annulled at some point.

I believe when you get married, it's forever until one of you die. Only then can move on. Just because you're not getting along or whatever is not a real reason for a divorce. Same with "falling out of love" your lovey-dovey feelings don't last forever, getting divorced over how you feel is such a flimsy reason.

I think there are a few exceptions though.
For instance, if there is physical or constant toxic verbal abuse, or if one person has had extensive cheating on you.
Now I don't think all cheating is a cause for divorce, I think what would happen is the couple would have to go to therapy and counseling to work out the root issues and forgiveness would have to be earned over time. I've heard success stories of couples whose relationships improved and they became even closer. The thing is, there is a point when it's a bigger issue than a short-term cheating sin.
For instance, we knew someone, she was/is a Christian, and she didn't know that her husband has an emotional and physical affair with a woman over the course of years, a severe porn addiction, constant flirting with other women, I believe he did drugs and over did it on the alcohol. She never knew about it until she stumbled upon the hotel recepts from the rendezvous with his girlfriend. They got a divorce and I believe she is better off now. He wasn't a good guy, to begin with, and it was bad enough that he refused to go to counseling and I don't think he was ready to heal that relationship. I believe that divorce was justified.

I definitely agree with Rose. I think that divorcing over feelings is a terrible idea. What happens years later when you regret it?

However, if there's abuse and turmoil, or prolonged and unregretted cheating, then yeah. I think divorce is warranted.

So my mom and dad have been married for 37 years, they have had 9 kids. my earliest memory is them being verbally abased by each other. All my brothers and sisters moved out at 18 or sooner. I have been wishing for them to get divorce since I was 10 years old. when I told my Christian friend that and she said that they can't get a divorce because they are christians, I thank that if you aren't willing to change then you should get a divorce, it's better then putting your kids through hell.

Gracel: I agree with you on that. If they're not even trying to change, then divorce is probably the only peaceful option left that shows any mercy whatsoever.

Vee: NOOO THAT'S REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY SAD!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so sorry, Vee. Praying for you!!!

So My thoughts on Divorce:
1 Corinthians says not to marry if it’ll make you unequally yoked (like if ur a Christian and ur spouse isn’t) BUT it also says that if u marry and r unequally yoked don’t leave them because you don’t know if you may lead them to Christ….so there’s that.
I think if your husband is being abusive or wants you to do something that God says is not right then after you talk to them about it, yeah maybe want to divorce them so you aren’t being abused and stuff…but I don’t think if you think someone else is prettier or has more money or earthly stuff hekk no that’s not a good reason to divorce

My parents have been married for I believe 45 or 46 years ❣️

Rose, I agree

Thank you Clara!
Also yeah, praying for you Vee

I’m so sorry. That must be hard :(

~Snow Lily~ ~Deck The Halls~ wrote: "My Parents are getting divorced :("

I'm sorry Vee

Divorce is always acceptable. If both parties agree, then they should. If one is abusive or manipulative. If they just aren't happy. I've seen two sets of people divorce. Both are much happier

why would divorce ever be bad tho-???