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Please share your favorite quotes with us. :)

Maybe you have a favorite from a book you are currently reading or read in the past? Please share it with us.

Perhaps you have come across a quote that is inspirational. If so share it with the group. :)

Wonderful!!

A reminder from Atomic Habits as we start the new year:

"Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity."

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear

"Action is hope. At the end of each day, when you’ve done your work, you lie there and think, Well, I’ll be damned, I did this today. It doesn’t matter how good it is, or how bad—you did it. At the end of the week you’ll have a certain amount of accumulation. At the end of a year, you look back and say, I’ll be damned, it’s been a good year."

Source: Ray Bradbury, The Art of Fiction No. 203

Thank you, Alias, for those mindful ideas.

I Hear Ya!

madrano wrote: "I Hear Ya!"

Ditto!

Lovely thought. Thanks, AR.

"Leadership begins with your behavior.

What’s more powerful? A manager or coach or teacher who tells you the right thing to do? Or one who shows you how to live and work by example?

People gravitate toward the standard you set, not the standard you request."

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones-James Clear

Let's send this one to members of Congress who seem unable to tell the truth! The example they set!

Alias Reader wrote: ""

I like that saying! One day at a time etc,

Author and poet Maya Angelou on how libraries changed her life:

"All information belongs to everybody all the time. It should be available. It should be accessible to the child, to the woman, to the man, to the old person, to the semiliterate, to the presidents of universities, to everyone. It should be open...

Information helps you to see that you’re not alone. That there’s somebody in Mississippi and somebody in Tokyo who all have wept, who’ve all longed and lost, who’ve all been happy. So the library helps you to see, not only that you are not alone, but that you’re not really any different from everyone else. There may be details that are different, but a human being is a human being."

Source: Interview: Maya Angelou with The New York Public Library

Wonderfully put.

Thank you for sharing her view, Alias.

Alias Reader wrote: ""

How true that is! Thank you.

That's a goodie, Alias.

Nicely put.

Powerfully correct!

Love it!

Most excellent!

The cost of your good habits are in the present.
The cost of your bad habits is in the future.

~~ Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones---James Clear

Ouch! Good one!

Writer and psychoanalyst Marion Milner on seeing clearly:

"There seemed to be endless obstacles preventing me from living with my eyes open, but as I gradually followed up clue after clue it seemed that the root cause of them all was fear."

Source: A Life of One's Own

***GoodReads links are still not working, so I will provide the synopsis for the book.

How often do we ask ourselves, ‘What will make me happy? What do I really want from life?’ In A Life of One’s Own Marion Milner explores these questions and embarks on a seven year personal journey to discover what it is that makes her happy.


On its first publication, W. H. Auden found the book ‘as exciting as a detective story’ and, as Milner searches out clues, the reader quickly becomes involved in the chase. Using her own personal diaries, kept over many years, she analyses moments of everyday life and discovers ways of being, of looking, of moving, that bring surprising joy – ways which can be embraced by anyone.


With a new introduction by Rachel Bowlby this classic remains a great adventure in thinking and living and will be essential reading for all those interested in reflecting on the nature of their own happiness – whether readers from a literary, an artistic, a historical, an educational or a psychoanalytic/psychotherapeutic background.

I've been going at titles through the author links, which still work, for some reason. SO,

A Life of One's Own
Marion Milner

I wondered when it was printed, as Auden's been dead awhile. It's from 1934. Ahead of her time!

Thanks for the links, Deb. I did try just the author's name and then just the title. It seems hit and miss. Of course there is no way to
know if GR is working on this issue.

I'm not sure why the price of this 212 page book seems so out of whack. The kindle is $29 and the paperback $31 and the hardcover $127.

I got the quote by the way from James Clear author of Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

Hey the GR links worked !!!

That price seems quite high. Sometimes i wish sellers would explain the high prices.

Yes, it's good the GR links work. However, it seems quite slow to me. Is it me or my machine? Anyone else having speed issues here?

I just tried a title and it seemed to come right up. However, if the past few days are any indication it's hit or miss.

Thanks.

Alias Reader wrote: ""

Love it! I's so Zen.

The "One Moment at a Time" one.

Ouch! Too close to home.

It’s crazy how often I feel like I need to resolve some big problem in my life when all I really need is one of the following:

1. A glass of water
2. A 10-minute walk outside
3. A good night of sleep

3 simple things that resolve many of the stresses and anxieties of daily life.

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones~~ James Clear

I love walking. Everyday walking, power walking, hiking, even walking on a treadmill. Unfortunately, until my surgery and recovery, I'm sidelined, and I really notice the difference. I also have taken medication for years that causes dry mouth. I've become accustomed to it, and I forget to keep my water intake up to what it should be. I need to be more mindful of that. Now, sleep. I can get to sleep even before my head hits the pillow and sleep straight through till morning. Lately, I've been remembering my bizarre dreams, and I don't like that. There is medication to stop that, but I think if a person is dreaming, no matter how bizarre, the brain needs to release that anxiety.

Alias Reader wrote: ""

I rarely experience anger. I attribute that to my lifelong (so far) daily practice of meditation. I do think I would become angry if someone hurt a person I love or an animal. I hope I never have to find out.

Alias Reader wrote: "It’s crazy how often I feel like I need to resolve some big problem in my life when all I really need is one of the following:

1. A glass of water
2. A 10-minute walk outside
3. A good night of sl..."

Good advice. I cure most of my physical woes with water. It's almost like a doctor telling me the "solution", so helpful is this.

The good night of sleep is elusive for me & has been most of my life. I've become so accustomed to it that i didn't realize how off-kilter i was until this year. Nighttime sleep is always under 5 hours, but for days running it will be 2-3 hours.

And yet, while it bugs me, when the doctor asks if i want medicine for it, i decline. There may come a point when i will take her up but i've lived like this so long, it seems trying to conquer it is a step too far.

Kiki, enjoy that ability to sleep! My husband has been like that but the last month, his chemistry must have changed, as he doesn't fall asleep easily and some nights can't stay asleep. All so new to him!

madrano wrote: "Alias Reader wrote: "It’s crazy how often I feel like I need to resolve some big problem in my life when all I really need is one of the following:

1. A glass of water
2. A 10-minute walk outside
..."

I can fall asleep in seconds and remain asleep for 7-8 hours. I can also nap with a TV on loud next to me. However, as a teen, I, too, had insomnia. Felt awful.

I am not too good with taking medicine when the doctor prescribes it. I've never had to take much, but after being diagnosed with AFib in July (the doctor says it was probably caused by running so many ultra-marathons of more than 100k), I'm not even great at taking my beta blockers, though I do manage to get them down within a few hours of when I'm supposed to take them. The heart is important, and we only get one to a customer! :-O

madrano wrote: "The good night of sleep is elusive for me & has been most of my life. I've become so accustomed to it that i didn't realize how off-kilter i was until this year. Nighttime sleep is always under 5 hours, but for days running it will be 2-3 hours.
..."

Sorry to hear this deb. Sleep really is critical for ones health.

A good book on this is Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams-Matthew Walker

I am grateful, Kiki, that i have been able to take prescribed medicine. Given my long life of not using any, i thought it would be an issue but it hasn't been. Gratefully.

Alias, i skimmed part of that book because i didn't think it was what i wanted. There was no need to persuade me that i needed more, so i really wanted help. I was already doing all of what i saw listed.

However, i disagreed with one, the mid-day nap. I nap & like it but when i went to bed those nights, i tossed & turned more. Presently i'm just giving in to naps since it all appears the same to me.

Oddly, though, while on our trips, i don't fall asleep during the day and generally sleep through the night. I truly believe its because my mind is fully engaged and i'm happy that, at last, i am doing what i've wanted to do my entire life, traveling.

madrano wrote: "I am grateful, Kiki, that i have been able to take prescribed medicine. Given my long life of not using any, i thought it would be an issue but it hasn't been. Gratefully.

Alias, i skimmed part of..."

I can nap for four or five hours in the day, then go right to sleep. I've spoken to my PCP about it, and I've had tests, and nothing appears to be wrong. I've just trained myself to relate lying down and relaxing to sleep, I think. It can be a liability at times if I want to lie down and watch a movie.

Have you tried a sound machine, especially one with brown noise? It's very relaxing and sleep-inducing for some.

Yes, we've been sleeping with those little machines since the 90s. The odd thing, again, is that when we travel overseas, without the machine, i sleep fine. There is no rhyme or reason to my pattern, which is why i generally don't worry about it.

In the US, we actually travel with a box fan. I am self-conscious about it when we bring it in but in the last couple of years we've noticed more people doing the same. No more overheated motel rooms and the noise drowns out the neighbors.

Interesting observation. Thanks, Alias.