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Here is where you can rant, talk crap, and other stuff. And we can try our hardest if you want to help you.

Well you never know unless you try. And pain will only hurt you if you let it. And it sounds like they like you but if you feel comfortable doing it then do it. Go for it. And if they don't accept then they are f*cking messed up.

Same here I always have a hard time trusting people but How I got to over come that when I wanted to tell somebody to let them in. I will give them like little hints. Until they ask you. You give them hints and they should probably catch on

Uhm... I honestly don't know but like personal but not personal questions.

compliments (genuine compliments like "I really like how nice you are to everyone") are always a great way to make people like you. And even if they don't end up liking you, they aren't worth it because you are amazing <3

anything works, but i usually use she/they

np!

awwww i’m so happy for you!!!!

Yeah same!!!!!!!!!

I don't why im even trying anymore. THere doesn't even seem to be a point. nobody would care if I up an vanished. not even my guard. they would be happy.

hell my brother poobally doesn't even miss me

Florian never say that. There is always somebody who cares for you. There is always somebody who wants to be with you. Trust me I have felt like that once I thought the world was better off without me but know in somebody's life you make a difference for them. And plus you have us this group.

I know but holy crap.

What is the point?

Florian wrote: "I know but holy crap.

What is the point?"

Your lovers, your friends, your close family. They care. So do most people on Goodreads. Your surrounded by a lot of people that love you. And they care.

@florian we don’t always see the point when we’re teenagers, and that’s bc we haven’t seen much of life. we haven’t seen the things we’d miss out on if we weren’t here. but i can promise you that there is so much out there, so much good and so much love. someday we’ll look back at these times and be thankful we didn’t give up. as a person who has personally struggled with suicidal thoughts, i can assure you there is a point to our lives, it just takes us awhile to find it sometimes. and i can promise you that people care, even if they don’t show it. if you ever want to talk abt it, feel free to message me :)

also, sorry that was so long 😅

Yeah, Florian.
You can message me anytime as well.

jae (kaz brekker’s version) wrote: "also, sorry that was so long 😅"
That's a lot of good tho :)

thanks guys i really needed that

Florian wrote: "thanks guys i really needed that"

I'm happy to help!

@florian, i’m so sorry that you feel like people don’t care about you. that is one of the biggest lies that anyone could believe. your family and people closest to you, and even us on goodreads, care and love you even if you are struggling to see that right now. it’s impossible to always feel happy and positive, and ik that for me, i always like to keep a positive vibe so when im not feeling great i don’t want people to have to worry about me or be a burden. but most times all you need is someone to rant to, so if you ever need someone, many of us on gr would love to talk and help you if you need us. i feel like teens and young adults aren’t given enough credit for how much we go through, especially in high school. comparing ourselves with others, feeling left out and lonely, being exhausted and drained, etc and yet we always get back up. and i think it’s important to know that when we get back up, we don’t have to do it alone. <3
if you are comfortable with it, look up philippians 4: 6-7 (niv) or psalm 34: 4-5 & 8

@ella we def aren’t given enough credit for what we go through. good thing we’re only teens for a short time bc it feels like years

@jae, yes it feels like such a long time but in the long run it’s only a small bit of our lives

Florian I have been where you have I have 4 siblings so much older than me. I always thought I wasn't enough for them and for my parents. I thought none of my friends cared for me. I thought why the hell am I here. Why am I here when nobody cares for me but they do you just don't realized it. As Teens or kids we have so much expectations to live up to and it can seem like why the hell am i here I am not enough or stuff. But you are. We all have someone that cares for us. Or else we wouldn't be here. We always have someone. So never say that you think nobody cares for you. Cause people do. Your friends on here cares for you.

Florian wrote: "I know but holy crap.

What is the point?"

the point is that you impact somebody's life one way or another. THe point is that you are on Earth for a purpose. The FREAKING POINT IS THAT PEOPLE CARE FOR YOU!!!!!!

@london that’s so true, i never thought anyone cared for me until i met my bsf and now she’s one of my favorite people in the world and ik she truly cares for me

It just the world gives us high expectations when we are young, we gotta be healthy, have that job, have the Finacial credits we need, The right school, good friends, ect.. But under all of that pure pressure we can break so easily we are human after all. We can break so easy and it hurts. It hurts so bad we think my the f are we here. If this is what people want us to be. Especially when I was younger and compared to my 4 amazing older siblings I thought i needed to be better to run with the big dogs to be known in the world to be known to my family, MY FAMILY!!! But no, what I thought was all bs. We are here on Earth for a purpose and we must fulfill it. Our Generation is so blinded by the society pressure we forget that we are just us. So never think you are alone.
Sorry if this was long. And if this helps i am very happy it does.

Sorry if that was too much it is just my love language is giving others encouraging talks. and giving gifts!!!

@london thanks for saying that :) i’ve always felt like i’ve lived in the shadow of my five older siblings, but i’m finally learning that i don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations. everyone is unique and beautiful, and deserves happiness and love.

also, tysm for creating this topic, i love deep convos so it’s rlly nice that there’s a special place on here to have them <3

Yes jae, I always thought what if I can be strong like my older brother, kind like my sister in law, funny like my brother, and responsible like my sister. But no i am enough I am enough I wrote this quote that means so much to me.

To the star who hear my cry
to my pillow who soaked my tears
And to my heart that has been broken for way to long, for I will stop the pain now.
and this one
Love is such a plain way to say how you feel towards someone or something. It has lost the effect on me from now on.

also this one
I may never be like them but I can be and that is enough

those are beautiful, london! tysm for sharing <3

@london, i’m the second oldest of 7 but i completely relate to sometimes feeling overshadowed sometimes. that poem was beautiful <3

Thanks I just always want to lift up people my parents always say i have a big heart so I like to share it to the world

yes i completely relate!!

i’m rly driven and try hard to help and uplift others

KINDA HEAVY BUT YALL R SUPPORTIVE SO WTV

my mom told me I've been "acting autistic" since a conversation where my therapist said i should maybe look into getting a diagnosis.
my mom and dad r the only ppl who closely know me who think I'm neurotypical, n i think its bc they're scared of me being perceived as "weird" so they cant have a successful child, and when I've talked to my mom ab stuff not feeling right in the past its always been "well yr a teenager, things are always gonna feel weird". n ik i never got formally diagnosed, but it makes sense (if u need explanations in here to give them lol). but i started freaking out ab something earlier and after she got me semi-calm she was like "yr not gonna like this, but since the convo w yr therapist you've been acting more autistic", is she just insecure ab having a neurodivergent kid and projecting or what? idk, but there's a high chance I'm just very "high functioning", being autistic isn't nessecarily a bad thing and every time i bring it up to my mom i get mocked and shut down even though it does make a lot of sense to me and its sort of serious, and i j wanna know if that's what it is that's "wrong" w me or not, bc if not then i can move on and try and figure out what it is, but i feel very out of place not in the same teen girl way shes describing, its not an identity crisis i j don't feel normal,

(sry if this doesn't make sense lmao,)

i feel you. and your parents mocking is not okay. i hope things get better <3

what you said totally made sense. i’m sorry your parents are making you feel bad about yourself :(

there is nth wrong with you just bc you function differently from others. do you think finding out for sure if you’re autistic would help? (putting your parents thoughts aside)

ella wrote: "there is nth wrong with you just bc you function differently from others. do you think finding out for sure if you’re autistic would help? (putting your parents thoughts aside)"

yea, j bc i want answers, (also for context, my bio father is on the spectrum and its genetic.) and itd help know how i process and navigate things so i could communicate better w other ppl

Just need to rant.
Hey guys so today I had my first guidance councilor session and it went great. But when I was talking to her I realized how hurt I am and how broken. Like with my family I always try to prove myself and it hurts. Not having my siblings be with me is like a knife twisting at my heart. I am always there for them I am always there when they need help. But it hurts so much. I spend a lot of my time in my room when my whole family is in my house. Because I don't want to just sit there idly and act like I am okay but really I am hurting. I try my hardest to have my armor on to have a mask of calmness for them to make them think I don't have any opinion. Cause if I do have an opinion then I am considered trying to make everything about me or selfish and I hate that. I FREAKING HATE THAT!!!!!! And i know I am bless with a family that loves me and cares for me but it really feels like they rather never have me like my siblings have the perfect family if I am not there. And I am so scared for my birthday cause sometimes one of my siblings can't be there cause of school or work. Last year I was turning a 13 and it was huge for me but my favorite sibling couldn't show cause he promised to drive his friend to the airport, AIRPORT!!!! I just feel like a ghost when I am with them sometimes.

Sorry for my rant it just I need someone to talk to.

omg i totally get that

i think you should tell your siblings how you feel. it shouldn’t be fair that you have to be a strong all the time if they aren’t there for you back.

also don’t be sry about ranting, if you need someone to talk to i’m here💗

This may not help,
but I will say from experience you can be blessed with a family and still wish for a better one
I'm really sorry they take you for granted, and I hope for your sake once you move out and start your own life they realize exactly how much you mean and are worth, and then from there you can start building a better relationship where you get to set the rules
Also, forgiveness is key. Don't set yourself up to be hurt, but trust that they will eventually understand and fix their behaviour. When I was younger my mother was absolutely awful to me, but now we're really connecting and she treats me better. It took years. And believe me, I know how awful that wait is, but if you think of it as though it cannot get worse, and you've made it this far, it may help you.
That's just what worked for me
I really hope this helps you in someway
Whether it is comforting in advice or simply let's you know you are never alone <3333

and my pms are open if you ever need a private chat. Sometimes ranting with a stranger really helps <333

Thank you so much!!! It is mostly with my siblings I can never tell this to my parents I think that is why I am going to see a councilor every week.

Well, good luck!

i hope things go well with your sibling <3

Me too, me too

So remember last week when it snowed? Yeah so I had no school all week right? And the week before I was supposed to preform for theatre but we thought it was going to snow so the show was canceled. Then last week we would've done our show but it was snowing. So we had it planned for Friday and Saturday this week but I promised a friend I'd go to her birthday party on Saturday so I had to tell my director that I couldn't preform that day. And I mentioned this is another discussion I had a dance show today and yesterday and I feel dead inside right now because I would've much rather had my theatre performance then my dance show but no because the dance one is part of my grade and the theatre one isn't we have to cancel the theatre show. Also I want to point out our dance show started a seven (which BTW I opened the show) and school ended at four but they made us stay the whole time and our parents had to bring us dinner. So anyway main point is that the theatre show was canceled so now some of my friends are planning a student led show. In public. I can preform in front of my school but strangers are scary. Yeah IDK what to do anymore. Also like no one in my house knows the definition of leave me alone, they all keep knocking on my door and as an introvert it's like actively killing me. Ok I'm tired I'm going to sleep goodnight (also I still have to go to school tomorrow).