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۞→When I was in 7/8th grade, I had a teacher who said sharing your story is part of healing. I know I have done it many times, and it still hurts, yet its a little easier every time. Feel free to share it here, and give hope to others going through difficult times.

Note: please add trigger warnings as needed.

So I see nobody else has shared, so I’ll go first, because I think my story will inspire others to share theirs. It helps to talk about what you’ve been through.

Trigger warnings: sexual touching, trust issues, anxiety

So something about me is I’m adopted, and it’s just part of me, who I am. I didn’t really have anything crazy happen to me until 8th grade. In 8th grade, I was accused of sexually touching another girl. She accused me of it, and it was not a true statement. I never did that, or had any intents towards that sort of thing. However, when it came down to it, my parents did not believe me. They believed a girl they had never met over the daughter they had known for 13 years. This hurt me a lot then, and still hurts me to this day. I now have severe social anxiety, and I’m afraid of being touched at all, because I don’t want that to happen again. I also have trust issues, including with my parents. Anyways, I’m sharing this because it’s important people know that there are others who have gone through similar things. This is a safe place to share 💓

I’m so sorry Alana. 🫂 Know that I’m here if you ever need someone to talk to. I’m sure I’ll share sometime soon, but I don’t really have the time at the moment.

Thank you! Don’t worry about having to share, it’s just a place if people need to 💓

Oh my gosh girl, that is awful to hear. I am so sorry, I hope nothing like that ever happens again and that you heal soon.

Okay, a bit of my story, mostly health stuff:
I’ve gone through what most girls have gone through. Friend drama, feeling insecure, gossip about me, boy drama, blah blah blah. The usual. But my physical health isn’t the hottest.
It kinda all started when I was 5. One day I just got a headache, but it wouldn’t go away. I threw up my food, and eventually I couldn’t even keep water down. I had to be hospitalized, and being young, I was scared. Ever since then, I’ve had to live with constant have stomach migraines (migraines that make you throw up) and migraines. It probably doesn’t seem that bad, but let’s say I get these migraines so badly, that I have to roll into a ball just so I don’t faint. Doctors have tried to help, but none of them know what’s wrong with me. It has gotten a bit better over the years, but I still get constant migraine attacks, the most recent one being last night. This has also caused me to be scared about not living as long as most people, and has brought some anxiety out.I’ve also noticed that my body doesn’t allow me to eat sometimes, even though I’m really hungry. I’m starting to think I might have an eating disorder, because I’m also really insecure about my body, like most girls. I’ve tried to stop it, but sometimes I just can’t eat. There’s a piece of my story.

that's horrible, Jilian, im also very insecure about my body and feel like I have an eating disorder sometimes too, because I can't eat food sometimes it makes me feel like I'm going to be sick. glad your getting somewhat better!

Aww Jillian 🫶🏻 I’ll be praying for you, that’s so brave to share!

Thanks girls. And I’m so sorry May. Lots of that sounds so scary and awful. I’m praying for you and your siblings!!

Very brave of you to share those things girl. I am so sorry all of that has happened. I'll be praying for you 🫶

Awww May, I’m so sorry ❤️‍🩹 I’ll be praying, and I can always talk 🫶🏻

Of course 💓it’s it’s. You’ve been through so much and yet you’re still an amazing person.

On the lighter side of things, I almost crashed a boat two days ago!! 🥳 I’m kinda surprised I didn’t. I was about to. Maybe God saved me. I’m terrified to drive it now though. 🫣😬

Umm story time please?? 🤣🤣🤣

Story time (basic update of my life)
Anyways I was walking into my sister's room (Just came back from College) I was going to ask if she wanted to watch a movie together. Since she is leaving for a school trip for the next 8 weeks. Anyways I saw her crying for all of her stress and anxiety. So I prayed over her and tried to make funny stories including her cat.

📚 Alana (professional book nerd) ✝️ wrote: "Umm story time please?? 🤣🤣🤣"
Oh Girl!!! Yeah we need an explanation here lol

Yesss we do!!

Hey guys just got these random thoughts on my life.
Triggers: Adoption, bullying, abandonment, assult
Soooo i am adopted. Yep I am 100% Chines. And born in China. I was born during the law where families were only allowed to have 1 child. And so anyways all I remember is my mother leaving me at the orphanage. I got adopted when I was 2 1/2 by my now family and I couldn't be more bless! I am in a Fully Christian God Loving family and I have 4 amazing siblings and parents. But I just remembered when I was about 8 y/o. I remember something from China. I remembered it was a cold night and raining (perfect scene right) Anyways I remembered my birth mother leaving me and dumping me in someone's arms. Probably a helper in the orphanage. I have a cleft lip and palate it isn't really bad. But I needed at least 10 surgeries. I got 2 in China and 8 in the States. Anyways my biggest insecurity is my nose since it is crooked. I been made fun of a lot about how nobody could ever want me, or that I am ugly. Or that I should go back to China. I went to a Lutheran school since 3rd grade cause my previous and amazing christian school closed down. I just left my Lutheran School cause of the bullying and racist comments I got. The School is basic white people who don't know how to talk to people who isn't white. Anyways, I been going to therapy and all. But all my life I been told I wasn't pretty, or not enough, or that my birth parents didn't want me. I dealt with so much frustration in my life and anger. And just so recently I been assaulted by an guy who is the son of this family, (we are piratically cousins not by blood or law) He just turned 18 this year and he hit me and push me on the ground cause I made him upset. Anyways his parents are actually the pastor and pastor's wife of my church (My dad is also a pastor at the church). So we were going to press charges but decided not to. Anyways, my church is basically filled with only old White people (No hate on White people). And they say the worst things to me. They come up with the most uncomfortable subjects to talk about with me, told me racist comments about ME, and have asked me about my past a lot. So I been sorta moving away from God. Cause My Church isn't a mentally safe place for me and the school I use to be was not a safe place to be. Anyways I been trying to deal with everything and I am trying to go back to the Lord but my church is sorta scaring me with how one sided they are sorta. And I just recently celebrated my Gotcha Day. (My sister is also adopted and is Kazak) And I was thinking I could never truly embrace my heritage or who I truly am without being attacked by people or bringing bad memories. And I been trying so hard embracing it. Anyways now I am doing okayish. My family is still a little shaken after I got assaulted. and all. My brothers are being more protective and my parents are checking in on me more often when the family is around. I am still trying to embrace my culture and coming closer to God after drifting away from him!

Wow Ava that’s so incredible and sad! I’m also adopted, although my story isn’t nearly as interesting as yours :) I’ll be praying that people will accept you, and you’ll grow closer to God despite the challenges! We as a community are here for you 🫶🏻 even if only on gr ❤️

Thanks Al! Yeah my life is weird tbh but in a good way! I accepted that I can't please everybody and I don't need to change who I am to make others like me. I am Happily fine with not having any friends instead of having fake friends.

Honestly you sound beautiful and from what I know of you you are such an amazing and kind person and friend ❤️‍🩹

awww thanks Al, that is really sweet! And from what I know is that you are an amazing woman who will do great things for the Lord!

💓🥹🤧 thank you, that means so much to me

Ofc!! I just know it!!

oh Ava! i’m so sorry for that!

i’m so sorry for everything on here 😭🫂🫶🏻☹️

lol Ari it is totally fine! I guess. I am still sorta working on the assault part also... The guy who did it to me is on the spectrum. So please prey for him!! He needs it since he is going to college next school year!

Okay! If you ever need anything, a virtual hug, to vent, or to commiserate about being adopted, I’m here girlie!

ilysm Al!!!!

You can talk to me anytime Ava! ILY🩷🩷

Love you too bb ❤️

I’m so sorry Ava. I don’t know what some people are doing nowadays. So unjust and ungodly. Don’t listen to them, you’re beautiful. God made you, in his image in likeness. So I know for a fact that you’re very beautiful, don’t tell me otherwise. ❤️🫶🫂

Trigger Warnings: wow I forgot to do these last time, my bad. Crashing, panicking, boats

Some context for the random thing I shared. My family has a lake house with a pontoon (A type of boat). I have a boating permit and I have for a year. (You can get one when you’re 13, but the test is VERY hard) I’ve driven the boat before but I panicked and almost crashed it. I was driving my family around the lake, we were just relaxing. Then, it was time to go, so I was parking the boat on the dock. (Which is VERY hard) I was pulling in, but I didn’t quite align the boat right with the boat lift. So I backed up so I could realign. As I was backing up, a boats waves came and pushed me the wrong direction and I almost crashed into my neighbors dock. 😭 That sent me into pull on panic and I didn’t know what to do. But my family grabbed the edges of their dock and pushed so we wouldn’t crash. Yayyyyy 🥳

@Ava
Aww I’m so sorry these things have been happening to you. God’s reward for you will be great in heaven if you trust Him and accept Him ♥️
Also, my cousin is adopted from China and she’s awesome, so I’m sure you are too, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise 🫶🏼

@Ava
you are amazing inside and out, glad you are still a Christian, wlysm!

@Jillian
I've almost crashed my go-cart before because I just completely blanked out of my mind for a few seconds luckily I was with my dad

Hehehhehe- I almost crashed into a school bus today 😂

Oh girl! What happened, are you okay?

Are you ok Jillian?

It was my first time driving on like an actual road. I was driving to school yesterday. There was a school bus in front of me and it stopped pretty fast and I almost hit it, but I didn’t! I also aced two roundabouts!! ✨🤩

I kinda laugh my mistakes off if you haven’t noticed. 😅

Yay!!! We love driving fails! 🤪😂

Wow, girl your so strong! God loves you and just lean on him through these trying times 🫶🏻

Awww, I’m so sorry. I’ll be praying for you!! Know that I love you and so does God!! ❤️❤️🫂

Same. 😖 It’s like they’re a different person with you one on one, but when they’re around others, they become really toxic towards you. 😤