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This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-handedly mentioned my period and a bunch of people were shocked and uncomfortable. I literally just said, "Today's the anniversary of when I first got my period", nothing gross or anything. I felt bad for making people uncomfortable though, and I apologized and was embarrassed for mentioning it, but I feel like I shouldn't have been shamed or embarrassed. I think girls should be able to talk about this online and it should be normalized (to an extent, nothing TOO personal). What do you all think?

CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-handedly mentioned my period and a bunch of people were shocked and uncomfortable. I literally just said, "T..."

You have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. I think that it should be fine to talk about in public. I understand that people might get uncomfortable, but I don't understand why.

Ella✨(booktrovert) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-handedly mentioned my period and a bunch of people were shocked and ..."

Thanks 😊

No periods, no existence of humanity

Zahra wrote: "No periods, no existence of humanity"

Exactly.

And it's not like a sexual thing, it happens to every single girl. I do not plan on having kids, and periods don't mean anything sexual to me, it's just my body being its natural self and cleaning itself (though I know it is passing an egg so I could become pregnant but you know what I mean, right?)

I don’t talk about it in front of people I don’t know well, but it’s natural and no one should be grossed out at the mere mention of it

Deborah(semi hiatus) wrote: "I don’t talk about it in front of people I don’t know well, but it’s natural and no one should be grossed out at the mere mention of it"

Right

Like I am comfortable asking my friends for pads, or to tell me if I have a stain

I am a late bloomer and have not yet gotten my first period yet even though I'm already thirteen, and I sometimes want to ask my friends if they've gotten their period yet, but I feel awkward and don't. I'm not grossed out about it or anything, I just don't really want to talk about it to anyone.

I try not to just because im transmasculine and I hate having a period. whenever I talk about it I'm usually joking about how stupid it is or my hormone issues so-

♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "I try not to just because im transmasculine and I hate having a period. whenever I talk about it I'm usually joking about how stupid it is or my hormone issues so-"

Oof, I'm sorry. I get it.

CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-handedly mentioned my period and a bunch of people were shocked and uncomfortable. I literally just said, "T..."

AniVERSERY?!?!?!?!?!?!? Man I really am a late bloomer -_-

Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "I am a late bloomer and have not yet gotten my first period yet even though I'm already thirteen, and I sometimes want to ask my friends if they've gotten their period yet, but I feel awkward and d..."

I totally get it. I used to be really scared about talking about it with my friends, in person or online, but once I just found the courage to ask my bestie and we had a wonderful conversation about it that made me feel really confident

Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-handedly mentioned my period and a bunch of people were shocked and ..."

Sky, not to like- rub it in or anything (I hate it actually-) but I got my first period when I was 9-

♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-handedly mentioned my period and a bu..."

You were NINE?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

I was eight and in third grade.

Liana wrote: "I was eight and in third grade."

Geez. I was 12 (in fact I got my first period exactly a year ago today)

Cool. I got mine when I was 12, on Oct 2 last year, and it was the one week in a year my mom had a business trip, so I had to figure it out on my own 😭

♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "I try not to just because im transmasculine and I hate having a period. whenever I talk about it I'm usually joking about how stupid it is or my hormone issues so-"

oh fair...

Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-handedly mentioned my period and a bunch of people were shocked and ..."

everyone runs on their own timeline.

Sai wrote: "Cool. I got mine when I was 12, on Oct 2 last year, and it was the one week in a year my mom had a business trip, so I had to figure it out on my own 😭"

oh, I'm really sorry you had to do that alone

Liana wrote: "I was eight and in third grade."

OMG that's kind of crazy

I got mine last year at the beginning of a new school year. bro as someone who already has anxiety I DID NOT NEED THAT

Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today, on another forum, I off-hande..."

yes sky, I was NINE
which was terrifying for a little trans boy who had never been told what a period was, even though my parents told me what sex was when I was 6 ^^

♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today..."

OMG that is terrifying. that honestly also goes to show the way that other things are culturally acceptable and the way periods are viewed as... IDK like private?

Ella✨(booktrovert) wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm cu..."

exactly! Like people are ok with children knowing what sex is, but never teach them how to be safe. I didn't learn what a condom was until last year when I saw one in the school bathroom. They don't teach us what we need to know, and things get out of hand when no one will step up and tell me whats happening until I think I'm dying.

Blue "playing dumb while i know everything is fun" wrote: "@kipp I did not know what a condom was until I read it in a book loll"

yeah, I just get pissed when ppl give their kids the talk, but don't explain how to be safe-

e x a c t l y

here in utah its ILLEGAL for contraception to be taught in ANY school classes EVER so we cant even learn from school!

yep.
its the whole seperation of church from state here. the lds church has a LOT of control over stuff over here

I learned the talk from Friends my parent never gave me the talk

I learned what a condom is from the internet lol.

My mom is a worker for teens sexual health, so things like periods, sex, and condoms are kind of normalized in my house. I understand that talking about those things is uncomfortable for some people, but its natural and no one should be ashamed about it.

♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "e x a c t l y

here in utah its ILLEGAL for contraception to be taught in ANY school classes EVER so we cant even learn from school!"

wtf?? do they want teen girls to get pregnant or what

Maude wrote: "My mom is a worker for teens sexual health, so things like periods, sex, and condoms are kind of normalized in my house. I understand that talking about those things is uncomfortable for some peopl..."

exactly. like no weird looks when i say the word "period" or "sex" please

Sai wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "e x a c t l y

here in utah its ILLEGAL for contraception to be taught in ANY school classes EVER so we cant even learn from school!"

wtf?? do they want teen girls ..."

well, in a lot of lds communities, its normal for girls to get married and have kids REALLY young, like, 19yrs old young.
its kind of a "tradition" or a myth id say, that because in the lds church you cant have sex till you're married, and self love is a major sin, the bride and groom have sex in the car on the way to the reception immediately after getting married-

Uhhh that's weird like no offense but...

CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "Uhhh that's weird like no offense but..."

oh no ik its weird-
that's why I brought it up-

Ik I meant no offense to people who agree with that lol 😅

Liana wrote: "I was eight and in third grade."

EIGHT???? I got mine 3 years ago (11)
(omg i accidentally hit 2 instead of 1 so if i hadnt fixed it i wouldve said 22 instead of 11)

Ok, so personally i think it depends on who i'm talking to. Anyone female its fine, but i make myself uncomfortable if i talk to a guy about it. (literally the only guy ive talked about it to is my father and he was like "hey you seem upset, are you ok?" and i was in fact upset but my mood was all over that day so i was like "im on my period" and then just moved on).

౨ৎ Chadwick ౨ৎ wrote: "Liana wrote: "I was eight and in third grade."

EIGHT???? I got mine 3 years ago (11)
(omg i accidentally hit 2 instead of 1 so if i hadnt fixed it i wouldve said 22 instead of 11)

Ok, so persona..."

honestly, I agreed. I feel like there are a lot of boys that make it feel uncomfortable

Ella✨(booktrovert) wrote: " ౨ৎ Chadwick ౨ৎ wrote: "Liana wrote: "I was eight and in third grade."

EIGHT???? I got mine 3 years ago (11)
(omg i accidentally hit 2 instead of 1 so if i hadnt fixed it i wouldve said 22 instea..."

Yeah that's true but I think it also might depend on who the person is and if they themselves feel comfortable talking about it.

Blue "playing dumb while i know everything is fun" wrote: "My parents didn’t even give me the talk. I learned all I know from books and 7th grade health. But yea it’s rlly annoying. Like yea we know how it works but how are we supposed to be safe?!"

Same lol imagine asian parents giving the talk XDD

CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "I learned what a condom is from the internet lol."

HAHAH same. i had to slowly piece it together though. I gathered all my information over the years since like 8, onward

♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm curious what ya'll will say. Today..."

TELLING YOUR CHILD WHAT SEX IS AT THE TINY AGE OF 6 IS ABSOLUTELY CRAZY

dude i cant imagine how it must feel if someone never told you about your period. You'd think you're dying and its the end of the line (at least id think that)

Blue "playing dumb while i know everything is fun" wrote: "@kipp I did not know what a condom was until I read it in a book loll"

i forgot how i learned about a condom

Yeah i gathered info myself til now
Im still learning

Blue "playing dumb while i know everything is fun" wrote: "MidnightButterfly ~ 2025 is upon us! wrote: "Yeah i gathered info myself til now
Im still learning"

frfr"

ikr

So the thing yesterday that happened on that forum (mentioned at the beginning of this conversation)... like I knew there were guys and girls on conversation but I felt comfortable around them and considered them online friends. So I just offhandedly mentioned that it was the one-year anniversary of me getting my period, and immediately everyone was like "TMI" and "uhhh weirdo" and one dude literally responded with a screaming GIF. Like I felt awful 😭

౨ৎ Chadwick ౨ৎ wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "♢Kipp♢[FREE ~PALESTINE] wrote: "Skybird (Nickname Sky) wrote: "CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "This is kinda random but I'm cu..."

yeah i thought my intestinew were falling out of my body

CrazyChickenGirl (aka Barnette) wrote: "So the thing yesterday that happened on that forum (mentioned at the beginning of this conversation)... like I knew there were guys and girls on conversation but I felt comfortable around them and ..."

what the heck they're such jerks