Memoir Authors discussion

I just released my memoir, Love That Ruined Me Right, and I don’t know how to describe what I feel right now: relieved, exposed, grateful, terrified.

It’s the story of an affair I had with my best friend, a lesbian, how it shattered everything I’d built, and how it forced me to confront generational trauma, emotional immaturity, and the desperate hunger to be seen. I didn’t write it to justify what I did, I wrote it because I needed to finally face it.

It cost me a lot to tell the truth. But it also helped me start becoming the man I always hoped I could be. And I know some of you have probably written from similar places, grief, collapse, brutal self-examination. I’d love to know:

What did you learn from writing your memoir?
Did it change how you see your past or yourself?

I’m just here to connect with others who get it. And if any of you are curious to read mine, I’d be honored.

Congratulations on publishing, Love That Ruined Me Right. Sharing a story that involves guilt and deep personal connection takes courage. My own memoir, My Stoic Path To Healing, is quite different – it reflects on how Stoicism helped me work through trauma and healing after a serious accident – but I appreciate how powerful it is to put your journey into words. Wishing you success and meaningful conversations with readers.