The Pride Party discussion

For anyone who’s questioning their sexuality or gender!

I’ve really be questioning my sexuality and it’s so confusing 😭 does anyone have any advice? I can explain a bit of what it’s like if you want…

idk… I thought I was straight, mainly because I’ve only had real crushes on guys, (I think), but I’ve just found it confusing, because I’ve been kinda attracted to girls too, but idk if it’s real…like some fictional girls are so so so attracted to me and random girls I see irl… and I might have had a crush on a girl once but idk it could have been an friend crush, like I had a dream where we were dating once and it wasn’t a bad dream 😭 and like if I picture kissing a girl I feel kinda indifferent but not bad at all…

yeah maybe… idk

yeah good idea… i think I’ll try reading a couple wlw books and see how I feel (idk I think that could help)

AVES???

WHAT

TELL ME EVERYTHING I WAS ONCE LIKE YOU BRO

okayyy so like I’ve mainly had crushes on guys and stuff but there was kinda this girl I was friends with and idk I had a dream where we were together once and tbh it wasn’t a bad dream to me… and I just always wanted to spend time with her and she seemed perfect, I thought it was a normal “friend crush” but idk 😭 and yeah I ignored it for a year but I’ve been noticing I find some girls attractive sometimes but I can’t tell if it’s realllll like do I just think they’re pretty and wanna be with them or is it something else? this is a bad example, but tbh (this is gonna sound so stupid) the thing that made me realllly start questioning was the new Taylor swift photoshoot 😭 don’t judge meeee

and yeah like I’ve had a couple, fictional crushes on girls (well mainly Jude from tcp lol) but like imagining being with a girl feels weird to me maybe because I never imagined my future like that though,,, and if I picture kissing a girl I feel weirdly indifferent but also really… curious, ig (I’m still very attracted to guys btw)

THAT WAS ACTUALLY ME OMG. don’t think you’re just ‘admiring’ girls or how they look, are you looking at them the same way you look at boys???

and ava, ml, IMAGINING BEING TOGETHER WITH A GIRL IS NOT STRAIGHT.

I kinda but maybe not I can’t telllll 😭

quynh~vi! ᯓ★ (s.ia) wrote: "and ava, ml, IMAGINING BEING TOGETHER WITH A GIRL IS NOT STRAIGHT."

okayyy…

okokok ik this questions might be odd bc you’re young but do you feel sexually attraction to girls, bc if not you’re probably biromantic not bisexual (if you wanna be technically) but if you do YOURE SO NOT STRAIGHT 😭

but like there’s different labels that include attraction to both men and women, bisexual (probably the most popular term), omnisexual (if you feel like you like all genders, but you prefer like men more than others), pansexual (if you like anyone regardless of gender), and like so many others 😭

yeah idk 😭 i could be biromantic but idk..

quynh~vi! ᯓ★ (s.ia) wrote: "but like there’s different labels that include attraction to both men and women, bisexual (probably the most popular term), omnisexual (if you feel like you like all genders, but you prefer like me..."

yeah ik I’m definitely not pansexual, so either bi with a preference of guys or idk what this is so confusinggg but I’ve been thinking about it a lot

but also could this just be me wanting to be lgbtq in some way to fit in? Like since all my friends are?

Well almost all lol

yeah that’s what i was feeling at first, but you can’t rlly fake being attracted yk?

yeah true…

tbh I wish I could try dating a girl and see if it felt right and if it didn’t I would know but like I have parents who would find out and stuff

Ophelia ˚࿔ wrote: "but also could this just be me wanting to be lgbtq in some way to fit in? Like since all my friends are?"

i've actually experienced that lol, that i want myself to be queer when i'm surrounded by queer people but i want myself to not be queer when i'm surrounded by people who aren't. idk though, if you find that you have to force yourself to believe something about you then it probably isn't true, but idk, you could actually be queer too. sorry if this wasn't helpful 😭

Honestly, I think it’s best to just research different sexualities (and possibly romantic orientations) and just figure yourself out on the way, if that makes sense. Like, it took me probably months of questioning and researching for me to decide/ realize I’m aroace even though I already suspected it. There’s no rush to figure out a label, but if you want to you can use a broader term in the meantime. That being said, if you are sure of a label it’s not “too early to know”. There is no set time for determining your sexuality.

okay, thanks! Yeah I’ll try that

So guys I was Bi until like three days ago when I realised I would never date a boy and never really have liked them, so then I'm lesbian right?
But also, I've never been in a relationship before (😭) and I'm really uncomfortable with thinking about kissing and stuff, but I want a girlfriend who I can just cuddle with and love, so what does that mean? Ig maybe it will get better if I actually kiss someone, but i dunno
This seems so weird but pls help me guys 😭

So I dunno am I like aro or smth? Cuz I'm kinda afraid to be so

I honestly think you can choose to put labels on things when you feel ready, and if you never want to that’s ok too, I’ll support you no matter what <3 and yeah you could be lesbian for sure, or something else, but yeah if calling yourself lesbian feels right than it is, if that makes sense

Yeah okay thank u <33

Ophelia ˚࿔ (semi-hiatus) wrote: "I honestly think you can choose to put labels on things when you feel ready, and if you never want to that’s ok too, I’ll support you no matter what <3 and yeah you could be lesbian for sure, or so..."

Secondeddd

tysm guys <3

Ophelia ˚࿔ (semi-hiatus) wrote: "I honestly think you can choose to put labels on things when you feel ready, and if you never want to that’s ok too, I’ll support you no matter what <3 and yeah you could be lesbian for sure, or so..."

seconded!!

I’m getting kinda confused and questioning things again help😭 how do you know if you’re bi with a preference of girls or something else? because like I’ve noticed, I only ever have celebrities crushes on girls, if I see a list of hear me outs and it has guys I always feel kinda disappointed, and I see girls who are sososo attractive to me literally everywhere I go. and the idea of being with a girl feels so right. But then the way I feel about guys is confusing… I never find make celebrities attractive, and it’s extremely rare for me to see a guy I think is cute. Like it’s a once a year occurrence practically 😭 and then I thought I’ve had crushes on guys, but most were thinking he was cute if just he was nice to me, and then I’ve had one real huge crush on a guy. But the “guy” I had a huge crush on might actually be trans girl (they didn’t tell me but their pronouns and name on instagram changed so I think so), which means I haven’t actually had huge crushes in guys ever 😭 but the thing is, I can picture myself with a guy easily too… so yeah I’m literally so confused rn

thanks <3 ilyt

I understand what you mean and I agree with Fatima, you might be lesbian or sapphic or even Omni, but ofc you don’t have to change your label if you don’t want to, you can still be bisexual even if you have a preference to a certain gender.

thanks, yeah idk

Or you can choose just to not label it and love whoever you do, if that's easiest for you, but seconding the others

yeah, I might just say I’m bi with a preference of girls for now? idk 😭