The Words We Couldn't Speak: Finding the Path Back to Ourselves
By Dotty Wise, Author of The Word He Couldn't Speak
Hello, fellow seekers and readers,
Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle you couldn’t name? A habit that started as an escape but slowly became a cage? For years, I studied what I call the “architecture of invisible cages”—the patterns of addiction that lock us away from our own lives, our relationships, and our deepest selves.
This book didn’t begin as a book. It began with a confession.
It began with a man named Yonas, a leather-bound notebook, and ten years of silence.
Yonas was, by all accounts, the person everyone knew: reliable, kind, quick to laugh. But in the quiet hours, he was fighting a private war with a compulsion that drained his joy, muted his passions, and left him feeling hollow. For 3,650 days, he told himself “tomorrow” would be different. Until one Tuesday night, he opened a notebook and began to write the words he could never speak aloud.
His journal wasn’t just a record of failure. It was a raw, painful, and profoundly human map of the battlefield of addiction. As I turned those pages, I didn’t just see one man’s struggle—I saw the universal patterns of the addicted brain and, more importantly, the undeniable blueprint for liberation.
That blueprint became The Word He Couldn't ’t Speak.
This book is more than a guide to overcoming porn addiction. It’s a lifeline for anyone who feels isolated by their struggles, ashamed of their habits, or disconnected from the person they want to be. It’s built on a simple, powerful truth: what can be wired can be rewired.
Inside, you’ll find:
· The science, simplified: Understand how addiction hijacks your brain’s reward system (and how to take it back). · Real stories of real people: Meet Yonas, Sarah, Mike, Helen, and others who’ve walked this path from despair to reclaimed lives. · Actionable, step-by-step plans: From creating your Habit Replacement Plan and managing triggers to building mindfulness and rebuilding broken trust. · Compassion, not judgment: This journey isn’t about shame. It’s about understanding, self-compassion, and the courage to change.
Whether you’re just starting to question the role of addiction in your life or you’ve been fighting this battle for years, this book meets you where you are. It’s the map Yonas desperately needed, born from the truth he dared to write down.
Freedom isn’t just about where you’re going—it’s about what you’re leaving behind.
If you’re ready to leave behind the shame, the isolation, and the cycle that’s holding you back, I invite you to turn the first page. Your journey back to yourself starts now.
I’m so grateful to share this work with the thoughtful, compassionate community here on Goodreads. I’d be honored to hear your stories, your thoughts, and your journeys.
By Dotty Wise, Author of The Word He Couldn't Speak
Hello, fellow seekers and readers,
Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle you couldn’t name? A habit that started as an escape but slowly became a cage? For years, I studied what I call the “architecture of invisible cages”—the patterns of addiction that lock us away from our own lives, our relationships, and our deepest selves.
This book didn’t begin as a book. It began with a confession.
It began with a man named Yonas, a leather-bound notebook, and ten years of silence.
Yonas was, by all accounts, the person everyone knew: reliable, kind, quick to laugh. But in the quiet hours, he was fighting a private war with a compulsion that drained his joy, muted his passions, and left him feeling hollow. For 3,650 days, he told himself “tomorrow” would be different. Until one Tuesday night, he opened a notebook and began to write the words he could never speak aloud.
His journal wasn’t just a record of failure. It was a raw, painful, and profoundly human map of the battlefield of addiction. As I turned those pages, I didn’t just see one man’s struggle—I saw the universal patterns of the addicted brain and, more importantly, the undeniable blueprint for liberation.
That blueprint became The Word He Couldn't ’t Speak.
This book is more than a guide to overcoming porn addiction. It’s a lifeline for anyone who feels isolated by their struggles, ashamed of their habits, or disconnected from the person they want to be. It’s built on a simple, powerful truth: what can be wired can be rewired.
Inside, you’ll find:
· The science, simplified: Understand how addiction hijacks your brain’s reward system (and how to take it back).
· Real stories of real people: Meet Yonas, Sarah, Mike, Helen, and others who’ve walked this path from despair to reclaimed lives.
· Actionable, step-by-step plans: From creating your Habit Replacement Plan and managing triggers to building mindfulness and rebuilding broken trust.
· Compassion, not judgment: This journey isn’t about shame. It’s about understanding, self-compassion, and the courage to change.
Whether you’re just starting to question the role of addiction in your life or you’ve been fighting this battle for years, this book meets you where you are. It’s the map Yonas desperately needed, born from the truth he dared to write down.
Freedom isn’t just about where you’re going—it’s about what you’re leaving behind.
If you’re ready to leave behind the shame, the isolation, and the cycle that’s holding you back, I invite you to turn the first page. Your journey back to yourself starts now.
I’m so grateful to share this work with the thoughtful, compassionate community here on Goodreads. I’d be honored to hear your stories, your thoughts, and your journeys.
With hope and solidarity,
Dotty Wise