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So, my bf is sick rn, has been for abt 7 days but I text him as much as I can to keep him updated. I js recently broke off a toxic friendship with someone I loved dearly. I also have been feeling quite sluggish as well. With all this being said, I have been feeling depressed lately. I told my bf, and he comforted me.

Then I asked if he even wanted to talk to me cuz he barely texts, even when he wasn't sick. He said he's sick, then i said "obviously not sick enough to not play video games" cuz he was playing video games with my bsf brother, Isiah- we currently hate, who is his bsf and my bsf is like his sister, so his bsf is like his brother.

He said "What does that mean?" and I told him "Exactly what i said." Then we called. otp he said "Im already sick and feel bad that I can't text you and this doesnt help, it just makes it worse. I said "THIS is exactly why i didn't want to tell you."

I could hear him playing his video game while talking to me an he snickered at something in the game. So I said "Are you even taking this seriously?" and he said "yes I am, broooo, it was just something in the game. I am, I am I am." Then I said, "Yk what, I gtg, bye." and hung up cuz i was pissed.

I told him that from now on, if he wants to talk at all, HE texts ME. I have texted him A LOT and get like nothing back.

He tried to call ONE time. No texts. So i texted him and said "One call. No texts. I get it." Cuz i brought this up another time and he tried to call me FIVE times in ONE minute and sent like 4 texts BEGGING me to answer and that he was sorry.

Then he texted back saying "You're the one making the problems" and i said "Correction. You are." And then I said "Yk what, I'll text you in a few days. I need time to think." and haven't texted since then. I texted that on Monday. He texted but i haven't looked. I am pissed.

I brought it up before V-day cuz I wasn't sure if he'd feel better by like Friday and we have plans if he feels better and I didn't want to be stand offish.

It's his first relationship EVER so I'm cutting as much slack as I can.

Am I in the wrong? And, What do I do now?

imo I feel like it also depends on like how sick he is, but if he's well enough to play video games, then idk. I don't know how old you guys are and I don't need to know but it seems as if he's acting a lil bit immature about all of this. I think that you should wait for him to text or call you first especially if you've been the one reaching out first recently and since it's right before valetines, I feel like he should be the one to make the first move. just a question tho, has he asked you to be his valentine yet?

You should dump him. You deserve better than that.

I think your first comment was slightly out of line because sometimes people don’t have the emotional energy to talk and would rather just distract themselves playing video games, BUT he doesn’t seem very invested in the relationship in general. If he rarely texts you first then that is a red flag to me. It may be his first relationship but if it does start to negatively affect you then thats not an excuse imo, and I'd personally break up with him, but you should make the decision thats best for you.

it’s completely valid to feel hurt when the person who is supposed to be your 'go-to' feels like they aren't fully there.The timing right before V-Day definitely adds to the frustration, especially when it feels like you're the only one putting in the effort to keep things updated. Taking a few days to think is a good move—it gives you space to breathe and focus.Just remember that your feelings are 100% valid, and you deserve to feel seen and heard.

rina wrote: "imo I feel like it also depends on like how sick he is, but if he's well enough to play video games, then idk. I don't know how old you guys are and I don't need to know but it seems as if he's act..."
Yeah, Has he asked you to be his valentine, yet ?????

girl dump him bc remember- your husband would NEVERRRR

the only thing i have a problem with is the way youre handling the communication

communication is key in all relationships, and from what i gathered you keep cutting the conversations off and not ACTUALLY trying to talk to him about this. yes, space is good, but at the same time yall will never be able to work through this without having a convo about it ! saying youll text in a few days because youre angry is completely valid and is good to mull over what is going on between you two, but you genuinely need to have a sit down conversation ( that, if possible, isnt over the phone ) and talk about how you feel.

also, i think this can heavily depend on how long you guys have been dating for, because if its been a short time, then i can kind of see how he would rather play video games than talk to you (no offense/not defending him) but guys are really stupid and dont know what theyre doing half the time.

kitcantspell wrote: "the only thing i have a problem with is the way youre handling the communication

communication is key in all relationships, and from what i gathered you keep cutting the conversations off and not ..."

agreed

rina wrote: "imo I feel like it also depends on like how sick he is, but if he's well enough to play video games, then idk. I don't know how old you guys are and I don't need to know but it seems as if he's act..."

he asked like last week and i said yes!

｡.•*¨*•♬✧maeve ✧♬•*¨*•.｡ wrote: "girl dump him bc remember- your husband would NEVERRRR"

be so fr T0T

kitcantspell wrote: "the only thing i have a problem with is the way youre handling the communication

communication is key in all relationships, and from what i gathered you keep cutting the conversations off and not ..."

I did try to talk and wasn't cutting off the convo, I had to hang up and i was being short cuz i was extremely upset, he did this even before he got sick.

kitcantspell wrote: "also, i think this can heavily depend on how long you guys have been dating for, because if its been a short time, then i can kind of see how he would rather play video games than talk to you (no o..."

thats fair lol

🌹Adeline🌹 wrote: "kitcantspell wrote: "the only thing i have a problem with is the way youre handling the communication

communication is key in all relationships, and from what i gathered you keep cutting the conve..."

okay so thats super important info cause i assumed that this was the first time it happened :) if its a constant problem, def try to bring it up to him and if he cant reason/talk it out with you, dump him girl you deserve a man who will listen

that depends... I have no experience with any of this, but i dont think you were in the wrong.
but (and dont get mad) I do think you were a little too harsh on him.
thats just how boys are.
ive learned to except that.
boys are boys are boys.
I also have figured out that boys like calling more than texting, and girls like texting more than calling.
I dont know why....
and boys think differently, too....
so dont be too harsh on him.
thats all im saying
not trying to be mean or anything