StEp PaReNtS discussion

That's maybe the number one question when our parents remarry someone. How can we possibly be happy for them? We all know that we have to let go and let them be happy but how can we do that if we ourselves feel betrayed,lonely, heart broken even? The thing is most parents don't even tell you they are thinking of asking someone to marry them, they just do it and you hear the wedding announcement with everyone else. How could they(your mom or dad) just do that? Not even ask you what you thought? How you would feel with a stranger in the house? Waking up one momment and realize that you have been left with (in our view) an evil person. It's the same in any case, if your parent passed away or your parents divoriced. We all share that pain and want to runaway. We wish our parents could be back together, even if we never met them before. How can we do the right thing and still be happy? We heard of it being done but it's hard. My dad made me do bonding time with my new stepmom and I wanted to scream, I tried not to be mean to my new mom but couldn't help it. So I stayed silent and when she tried to talk to me, I said one worded answers and fake smiled all the way through their marriage. I did all of this for my dad so he could be happy. I felt so lonely after that, he didn't even pay attention to me anymore and I just didn't want to go home anymore. The house where all my memmories of my mother were being swept away by having another woman take her place. Even when my dad did those "She will never replace your mother" talks, I still felt like I lost my mom again since now my dad was being taken away from me too. My step-sister wasn't happy either but since she was a teenager at the time, she did more of a rebellion. We became friends of course, with both of our hatred in the marriage. My dad and her fought over that she wasn't being a good role model for me and I really felt like I was being in the shadows. I love my step-sister more than my step-mother and now I feel so sorry for her. To have my new dad yell at me to act better when I have to deal with leaving everything behind so that my mom could just get married when my dad was still alive must have been hard. Harder than my pain. She left everything, her friends, her school, her boyfriend so that she could find herself in a strange place. She was the one who sacrificed everything, I had the easy end of the marriage. Our parents did that since they knew I would have act terrible if I had to move to their home. My mother's memmory was being forgotten, I didn't want the house she chosen for me to live in, the place she chose to raise me in go away either. Anyway, my dad and step-mom well...it didn't work and now my dad is a single parent again. I know that he's been doing stuff so he won't feel lonely. Why am I not enough for him? Why does he have to look for a new stranger to come into our lives? How can I let that happen again?