My Adventures Through Theology and Beyond discussion

Is it okay is it completely wrong, do you think it should even be legal...

Of course it should be legal!!! o.o I, personally, don't want people to be stuck in a loveless marriage.... :P

I don't believe in divorce, but there should be exceotions. If they were chosen to be married by their parents or something, then they should just have divorce. But if they really loved each other and married, then they should stick together. Families don't give up on each other.

♥ Rachel♥ wrote: "Of course it should be legal!!! o.o I, personally, don't want people to be stuck in a loveless marriage.... :P"

lol I don't think it should be illegal it was just something to say.



Now my mom has been in 2 divorces since I was born, one with my dad and one with my step dad and I can personally say that it is really a lot on the kids, Always listening to your parents arguing, Having to constantly go back and forth between parents, ect. But then she gets married again and divorces again I really liked my stepdad he did a lot for me so it hurt worse mostly because I was older and understood....



(Sorry if it seemed like I was complaining or something I was just trying to show what its like)

That's sad to hear. I wish my parents would break up >.< but I don't see that happening, unfortunately.

This shouldn't be illegal...

....Why what?

Oh! Because I dislike my stepdad. I think most of my family does. I want my mother to get with my real dad..So, I dislike my mom for letting the guy down. Honestly wish my stepdad would die so my mom can move on. My mom is SUPER strict with him around now. But my stepdad does have a positive side to him...

I'm starting to think I just want my mom to be single.

I don't think it is right, but it should still be legal

ok maybe we should get rid of the legal part..... I was tired when I wrote that lol....

Girl4beluga wrote: "why is it not right?"

It's not right because you...shouldn't get...I'll think about it some more.

well one reason it is not right is because what it does to the kids, then there is child support and the system for that (at least in my state) is sooo corrupt.

I don't know much about child support /: and I hope I'll never have to worry about it.

*Mrs.Brightside* wrote: "I don't know much about child support /: and I hope I'll never have to worry about it."

My dad talked to me about it recently it is a really messed up system

Girl4beluga wrote: "so divorcing an abusive husband is wrong?"

that is when it becomes okay if one person in the relationship is abusive in any way there should be counseling at the beginning and if all else fales divorce

They should've known the person was abusive when they started dating. Unless the person was hiding it of course.

things like that develop also they may be a great person at first but over the years they may eventually become abusive.

Haha, some people probably do..if they're good at reading people, or if they notice the person having...issues maybe? I don't really know.

Cody wrote: "things like that develop also they may be a great person at first but over the years they may eventually become abusive."

..How does that work?

*Mrs.Brightside* wrote: "Cody wrote: "things like that develop also they may be a great person at first but over the years they may eventually become abusive."

..How does that work?"

anger, annoyance, maybe a mental disorder develops, there is really quite a few things that could cause it.

And it could start super gradually, too...like just starting to yell more and more, then hit things...then people. :/

I didn't mean to ask that. Ended up answering myself /: but okay.

Sorry, I'm lost.

Of course you are.

Then..... what should I say?

I say NO ONE SHOULD EVER DIVORCE unless they were married against their will.

Even so. I would run away but Catholically I would still be married.

Excuse me?

What if you meet someone else and fall in love? You could get an annulment. Someone who is physically or emotionally abused by the person who claimed to love them should not be expected to remained bound to that person until death.

Ouch. I would never consider one, but I would spend whatever money or time to help him.

Thank you. I actually enjoy being told that.

Girl4beluga wrote: "Who the pedophile or the gay guy"

Yes. I would not abandon him for something happening to his body that he can't help.

Either. Some people are true gays, that cannot help themselves. Some are just pretending. I would never marry a pretender. A true gay, maybe, because it is not his fault. Then I'd help him, doesn't matter how much money or time. I would always help him. As for the pedophile, I would only marry him if he coouldn't help it. Then I would help him. I would pray for him. Yes, it is possible. Saint Monica got her criminal husband and atheist son to go to heaven just for praying.

...How would you "help" a gay...?

Saint Monica got her criminal husband and atheist son to go to heaven just for praying.

How do you know that?

*Mrs.Brightside* wrote: "Saint Monica got her criminal husband and atheist son to go to heaven just for praying.

How do you know that?"

How do you know if someone is in heaven, I mean really?

searches St. Monica on Wikipedia

Cody wrote: "*Mrs.Brightside* wrote: "Saint Monica got her criminal husband and atheist son to go to heaven just for praying.

How do you know that?"

How do you know if someone is in heaven, I mean really?"

...Are you talking to me?

wait, St. Moncia's son wasn't atheist he was St. Augustine a theologian St. Monica converted him while he was still alive

*Mrs.Brightside* wrote: "Cody wrote: "*Mrs.Brightside* wrote: "Saint Monica got her criminal husband and atheist son to go to heaven just for praying.

How do you know that?"

How do you know if someone is in heaven, I me..."

are you talking to me, if so then no I don't think I was.

I'm astonished. How can you believe that a person should stick to a marriage where he or she was being beaten? How does that even make sense? Clearly, you know nothing of divorces and what having unhappy parents can do to a child.

It's not even about being beaten. It's about whether or not you're happy. And while I personally think that people in a relationship, especially people with kids, should at least give it another chance, it is really not up to me to decide. My parents tried for 4 years before they got a divorce. They just didn't love each other anymore, simple as that. And don't give me that bull that they didn't really love each other, or they should've tried harder or should've known before they married 18 years earlier. People who "don't believe in divorces" tend to do that. The thing is, love fades.

Cody,

Haha, okay(: I was talking to you. Juuuust making sure.

lol okay then

i don't like it how conservatives say that couple should have a short engagement, I know that they just say this to prevent the couple from having pre marital sex however I believe it leads to divorce

I think that the engagements should be long and that you should at least live the person at least a year before getting married

I think that the engagements should be long and that you should at least live the person at least a year before getting married

I think that people should decide for them self. If they decide to marry after two months, some might say it's rushed, but it sure is their own choice. Dosen't necessarily mean that they'll get a divorce. And if they want to stay engaged for five years before marrying, some might say it's too long, but it's still their own business.

Yes, I agree. It doesn't really matter how long you wait, it's more about if you feel that you're ready for marriage.

Cody wrote: "Is it okay is it completely wrong, do you think it should even be legal..."

I think if a divorce would be less of a disruption to the family then what they are going through now, then they probably should if they feel the need.
Does that even make any sense?
And when it comes to abuse, I think there should be a divorce ASAP after the first signs of it. I know a few adults who had abusive parents, and they have some issues.... Poor people. :(

I'm not against divorce, however I do think some people are childish when it comes to marrige, my great aunt was married 8 times

Ha. That's...wow. So what makes marriage childish to some people?

my great aunt was childish when it came to marraige because she married for money

Eight times?

^yepp