I have a problem... discussion

Well... There's this boy- Austin Cooper, kinda fat, red hair, pale skin, freckles- and he likes me(apparantly at lot).
My guy friend Sean hates him to death and I don't want to get on Sean's bad side so I've treated Austin like shit... Calling him names when ever he comes over to me and telling him to leave.
He even tried to date my friend Crispin to get closer to me...

I don't know what to do. He is stalled right now... I told him honestly, "I don't know what to do."
I told him after I got some advice, I'd give him my decision...

Well...u shld never EVER put boy friends before friends Ive learned that. but what is "austin" like?

Here are the FB chat messages:


(random rambling about Sean... Then I start to cock an attitude with him as usual, This is his response:

him: wtf is your problem be glad someone even asked you out

me: I've dated before and I don't see the point in dating when nothing good is going to come out of it anyway!
When you get dumped, your gunna cry over it! I'[m not getting depressed over some dumb-ass boy!!!

him: hey if you think i'm like that i promise if i dated you i wouldn't dump you unless i had to or you want to

me: Listen, we all have plans for when wer're older- college, traveling, whatever. It's not going to work out with all our different plans! I don't date, unless I plan to be with the guy after I graduate.

him: y

me: Because that's just me. If you don't like that, go fuck yourself. I don't care what anyone thinks of me.

him: well y would i think anything bad of u i like you alot.

me: ...as a friend...?

him: no

me: ...

him: what

me: idk...

him: were you asking how i like you

me: yah...

him: I like you more than a friend
alot more

me: o.O

him: what

me: (I had posted a song from Youtube on my profile I said;)
http://www.youtube.com/user/LylaWarri...
Go to my profile and the last thing I posted should be a song by Blue October called "JumpRope" Click on that and listen to that. Please.
and don't be perverted. PLEASE!

him: y

me: because I want you to.

him: but why

me: BECAUSE! JUST LISTEN TO IT!

him: y should i i am going to
i cant I don't have the right down load to listen to it

me: you'll know when you listen to it
look up the song on Youtube then...

him: k

me: thanks

(time skip; about 10 mins later)

him: i am listening to it

me: kk...

him: listened to it

me: what do you think???

him: about what

me: the song!

him: it is a good song

me: thanks...

him: but why did you want me to listen to it

me: your hopeless... Did you pay attencion to the lyrics???

him: yes

me: if you did you'd understand...

him: yeah i did it pretty much says that life gets harder and harder

me: Well... That's like me... I've had my heart broken before and I don't want that to happen again...

him: do you not know me if i dated you i will not break your heart... give me one chance

me: You don't understand!!!

him: you said you don't want your heart broken i respect that but if you think thats the way i am then u r wrong... i don't break girls hearts unless they break mine that's the way i am, ask any girl i have dated

me: (shakes head) I would still be heart broken, even IF we dated throught the end of school. I'm in a diff grade, i'll get out of school sooner. And after school is over i'm packing up and leaving- without my bf... So... It just wouldn't work...

him: yeah but its ok sean j is dating a 11 grader so why wont you date me i mean its one grade come on one chance if you still want to date me after a week then we will break up

me: god... ftw... boys just don't understand the logic...
p.s. Sean Jones is gross! That's disgusting!

him: but why won't you give me a chance we will see each other every day and i really like u i was trying to date cripin to be closer to u

me: idk! :(

him: why do you like me

me: idk...

him: do you or do you not

me: idk...

him: well i like you more than anyone but i guess idk

me: I really... honest to GOD dob't know!

him: udk what?

me: idk that either!!! -_-*

him: what is up i say i like u and u say udk

me: idk...................

him: give me 1 chance at the end of the week if you wnat to date me we will and if you dont okay its ur choice

me: IDK!!!!!!!!!

him: one chance taht is it

me: I. Don't. Know.

him: you are keeping something from me

me: no...

him: then y wont you give me one chance that is all i am asking for

me: I don't know if I should!

him: you think i am going to break your heart dont u... well if you do then i am not that kind of guy i swear i may be struck by lightning if im lying... i would never do that to u

me: God, your gunna kill me!!!! i just don't feel comfortable dating... anyone...
I just don't know yet... let me think...

him: how long
do you need

me: I don't know that either... Just untill I get some advice... I'll tell you my decision when I do...

him: well i am not going to be able to log on over break my parents wont let me

me: well then after... maybe...
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and that's all that was said... >.< HELP ME!!!!

NO!!! NO!!! he sounds like a fricken jerk/faggot

he can be a jerk... sometimes... and, *chuckle* me and my friends have debated on wether or not we thought he was a fag... XD

i thnk he is nd i havent even met himm

wait wat grade u in?

i agree with graystripe he sounds like a jerk....

MEGAN!

GRAYSTRIPE!!!!

Hrm...

Is he in general a "good person"? If he's really a good guy, I guess you might want to give him a chance. If he's not- then dating probably isn't something you need.

After using your friend to get closer to you, it sounds like he's either head-over-heels for you to use your friend like that, or perhaps he's not the type of guy you should be interested in. Honestly, neither sounds like dating material to me (but who knows?).

If you decide to give him a chance, guard your heart. Don't go way too deep into the whole dating thing because you're still young and honestly, it's not like dating is going to make your whole life fall into place.

If you don't want to give him a chance, and it sounds like you have a reasonable stance to reject him, be polite and civil about it. I wouldn't go on about the "broken heart" thing because he's obviously not getting the picture. I would explain that reguardless of what a great guy he might potentially be, you do not wish to date him and he needs to respect that. Firm but polite.

And if I were you, I'd get an answer: why does he like you?

Don't want him to date you for the wrong reasons.

^^^^^^ BEST advice i have ever seen!

i second that!

Lol, thank you. I still want Alyssa's opinion too.

hmm...i shld make a top cause i have an issue but its kinda stupid..

I'd love to try and help.

lolllll thank u:)

i just post my prob.

Yeah, good advice, taking that into my mind. But I as well, want Alyssa's oppinion. ;)
Right now, it's not very urgent as he has granted me as much time as I need to think about it.

I am almost a year older than him. He is 13 and I will be 14 in January. I'm in 8th grade he is in 7th.
As for an all around "good person" i'm not so sure... :/ He starts LOTS of fights with Sean(My guy friend I talked about earlier). They just don't get along.
Austin gets beat up, A LOT.

OMG! I forgot a huge part of the prob... -_-*
He has a girlfrtiend currently. He asked me out while he was dating her... >.< He still is...

Okay using your friend + two-timing + fighting = red flag.

NOPE! sorry ... he wldnt be my boyfriend

-_-* It just makes me feel bad though... Just... Sorry for him...

*sigh* Sean is a bad cookie to... Cutting, threatning to kill himself, he cusses every 2-or-3 words! He goes to counciling for his probs but cusses out his counciler... His 'parents' have split... His real parents were abusive(his lil' sis was taken away. He never saw her again) Not to mention he has SERIOUS anger issues... *rolls eyes* Gosh that kid's got more problems then you would think at first glance.
He doesn't have many friends... I'm one of them though... He isn't mean to me unless I say something to tick him off... or even MENTION Austin's name around him...

Oh dang.

But still, Why the H#ll would he ask you out when he was dating someone else?
I'd probably tell him "Screw off! You're already dating someone, aren't you?"

haha... I told him I couldn't date him.

GO YOU!

xD and if he persists I will get violent... ^^ I'm not the kidding around like that type!

Lol! I attack my guy friend daily.

lol my friends say i am the most aggresive person in my school...i can bea up almost all the guys in my grade

I'd say "NO I'm not dating you. You already have a girlfriend, you're not my type, you're not my age, and I'm not compromising my friendship with Sean. You need to respect that I'm not dating you."

Go you~!

i like that one ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^6

It's better than what I said.
I'm the mean one X3

Graystripe16( Mrs.Edwards:)) wrote: "i like that one ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^6"

:)

XD haha I will! I'm at school right NOW!!! ^^

Personally, I think if you're not interested in a guy - DON'T DATE HIM. But I think you still should give him a chance to be friends. He sounds kinda annoying and stubborn, but since he does seem to like you a lot, you need to respect that and be nice to him. Imagine how bad you would feel if you asked out your crush and he responded by "calling you names when ever you com over to him and telling you to leave." I mean, you don't have to be BFF's because he does sound like a... not nice word. But still, you should be nice and try to let him down gently. Of course, it you've told him you're not interested in dating and he STILL won't back off, so you do need to be assertive and keep rejecting him. He knows by now that you don't want to date him but he still won't let it go, which is very annoying and rude, and it sucks that he won't listen to you. You've tried to explain why you don't want to date him, so my only advice is... be nice to him but maybe don't respond to his attempts to ask you out. Keep telling him no until he leaves you alone. I'm really sorry about your situation because it sounds suckish. :P

Oh wow, I didn't read comment 19. Yeah, if he's that much younger I wouldn't date him because I think the difference in maturity shows. Also, he already has a girlfriend?! He should not be asking you out then. Maybe remind him of that.

And he used her best friend- he dated her best friend just to get closer to her.

yeah... He won't leave me alone now... >.<

creep. Try firmer but polite

I did. I said, "I. Am. Not. Ready. and you should respect that." after he messaged me like 5 times...

Sheesh. If the creep won't leave you alone, try saying something like "NO I'm not dating you! You already have a girlfriend, you're not my age, and I'm not compromising my friendship with Sean. Reguardless of what a good guy you may potentially be, I don't want to date right now and you need to respect that." (How is pestering you suposed to make you like him anyhow?)

She dumped him btw! ^^
He is exactly 1month and 1day younger than me.

One month is nothing! But it sounds like he's still immature anyways (pestering you!).

"You said you don't want your heart broken. I respect that but if you think thats the way I am then you are wrong... I don't break girls' hearts unless they wreak mine. That's the way I am, ask any girl I have dated."

He claims he would never break your heart, and that he's such a good guy, all while cheating on your best friend? I don't think so. He's manipulative!

At this point, with him still bothering you, I think I'd skip the diplomacy and say, "You promised that you never break a girl's heart while you cheated on my best friend? You're manipulative."

(I just told you he was grade younger.)
He won't understand what manipulative means! xD haha! I'll use it!!!

I said "You promised that you never break a girl's heart while you tried using Crispin! You're manipulative!"

Lol, if he doesn't understand "manipulative", try inserting "jerk", "liar", "user", ect. XD

Jk- try to be at least a little nice

Hehe, i'll see where I go from where I am now. I'll post what we've said.

Me December21
Austin! leave me alone okay!? I already told you no. Please respect my desision like you said you would! i made up my mind and I told you.

Austin December21
u still didnt trust me what ever

Me December21
(rolls eyes) Austin...

Austin December21
no u dont trust me you think im going to break your heart then u think a lie (sobbing)

Me December22
You promised that you never break a girl's heart while you tried using Crispin! You're manipulative!

"No, you don't trust me. If you think I'm going to break your heart then you think a lie. (sobbing)"

Lol, he lied.

"Austin! leave me alone okay!? I already told you no. Please respect my desision like you said you would! i made up my mind and I told you."

Another point- he promised to respect it and he didn't. Seems to me that he makes many promises/claims that he doesn't keep.