Interracial and African American Paranormal discussion

I think it's hard for Black couples until they play the reverse-race card: White people adopt Black babies. Why can't we adopt "other" babies? What, are you being racist? What happened to "color-blindness"?, etc. Then I think we'd see progress.

But I gotta say, I just don't get it. Why would Black folks want a kid that's not black or Black mixed-race? Maybe if there was some personal connection- godparents, or whatever. It's the other side of the card; like should stick with like, where possible.Otherwise, unless the kid is very strong, or totally identified with the parent's group, they will always feel like an outsider in their own race.

I think there are additional issues involved, but for me I think that they have what it takes to be a good parent: a desire to love and care and rear a child in a supportive environment. It doesn't take being the same race to do that. I'm all for it!

If I adopted, I'd probably adopt a variety of children.

My husband is white and we're considering adoption (via foster parenting.) I would definitely prefer a black or biracial child but if a child but if another child came into our lives and was a good fit for our family, I would take him or her. I guess since we plan on adopting an older child the issue of him or her knowing that s/he was adopted wouldn't be an issue.

My aunt has fostered two young white males (she cannot adopt because she is gay) the one that is currently still her foster son and who will soon be graduating high school is like a part of our family. She didn't consciously choose the race of who she fostered and has in fact fostered many black children, but it was who was given to her.

I am currently thinking about adding to my family via adoption. My friend (white) always says I should adopt a white child (I think she's joking), but I personally wouldn't choose to do so. Also, I think the likelyhood of a black family being able to adopt a white child is SLIM, esp. a white infant. They are the "holy grail" of adoptees. Personally I am looking to adopt from Ethiopia.

My husband I just completed our home study and are waiting for a placement. We decided to go the foster-to-adopt route.

I can tell you that all children deserve a loving home and all their basic needs met. With that said, when going through the placement classes it appears that in an optimal situation adopted children want to fit in and look like their family. They didn't want to feel and look different, to stick out.

This was the general impression I got and I was so surprised!

My husand is white and I'm an AA and we have a biological daughter that is 5 yrs old. We are looking for a child under 3 yrs. There are quite a few reasons for that. Some of the adoptive parents indicated its best not to interupt the birth order. We also want to minimize any potential exposure to negative behaviorsa to our existing child. Finally, the waiting period for adoption is 12 mons when the child is under 3yrs instead of 18 mons or more. Note the timeframe is trigger by the some court date, which I'm still trying to understand. Given all of this, we are hoping for a AA or biracial child.

Deva, another option while you're thinking things out, is a lot of states have a program where you can take a foster child(ren) for the weekend in order to give their foster parents a break because it can be exhaustive.

Yep. It's called respite care.

First of all, I believe that a loving family is better than the system in all cases. I believe in adoption and anybody can love and anybody can be family.

Now, having said that, I hate to see people ignore the kids in their own backyard to adopt abroad and I think some white couples collect black and brown kids like trophies. I don't know why I doubt the sincerity of some, but it's just a feeling I get.
I can't speak on how easy it is for black people to adopt, I know nothing about it. But I guess my question to a black couple living in the United States would be: Did you ignore the black children in your zip code in order to adopt another child and if so, why?

Bottom line: Children need a loving home, period!

My sister is looking into adoption. There are a lot of hoops to jump through. I wonder if there is more red tape to adopt American children than there is overseas. I think that this might be a factor. Not that I am advocating adopting overseas over native.

If I were to ever adopt, I'd adopt hard-to-place children such as teenagers. They're the ones who tend to fall through the cracks in the system and are desperate for love and attention. They'd be harder to raise after having spent so much time in the system, but it would be worth it to see them shine. As far as cross-racial adoptions, why not? Having a white family adopt a black child would be a crash course in having one's privilege checked, especially when they see first hand what so many black parents face when it comes to educstion and other issues black children face in this society.

I've seen what happens when black couples adopt white children or fair-skinned bi-racial children. The first thing they often hear from strangers is "you're so good with the kids". One time a little white girl told a white woman, "are you stupid, she's my mommy", pointing to the black woman standing next to her. It was hilarious to say the least.

Y'know, I'm a horrible African-American. Kinda helps that I'm bi-racial to begin with (French Black bloodline and Heinz 57 Eurotrash/Mostly Irish White), but my dad raised both myself and my sibling mostly on his own.

Didn't help that he was a womanizer of sorts, so there was THAT. Eventually we got a stepmother who was more or less loving, but the issue of race never came up though since he himself was raised in a mostly-Mexican neighborhood back in California and speaks horribly slangy street-Spanish with a New York accent.

I don't even know how the hell he got that since he's never been to New York.

Still, due to such an upbringing (and a TON of fighting) I tend to have a slanted view of race and racism. That and being raised watching Mel Brooks movies.

So when it comes to somethin' like THIS, why not? So long as the couple is loving and willing to share their household with that child, let 'em raise whatever.

Are they American? Then they DEFINITELY have the right to raise whatever the hell they want: Chia pets, kids, cows, whatever.

For me, it's always a matter of individual rights and personal freedoms first. Everything else is, literally, that - everythin' else.

POP QUIZ TIEM!!!

So. Guess the races of my parents. :D I have a biological mother, the biological father who raised me, and a stepmother.

SO! What do YOU think their races are?

~Thomas "I Really Like Being The Puzzlemaster" Duder

Edit: ALWAYS, I SWEAR TO GOD I ALWAYS FORGET A WORD well, this time a letter, but still...D:<

Thomas wrote: "but the issue of race never came up though since he himself was raised in a mostly-Mexican neighborhood back in California and speaks horribly slangy street-Spanish with a New York accent.

I don't even know how the hell he got that since he's never been to New York.

POP QUIZ TIEM!!!

So. Guess the races of my parents. :D I have a biological mother, the biological father who raised me, and a stepmother.

SO! What do YOU think their races are?..."

There are many latino's that move from Cali to NYC and vice versa so I'm not puzzled/surprised by a new york spanglish accent from someone raised in a hispanic neighborhood in California.

I'm guessing both you're parents were bi-racial.

I know it's not 'PC' to say so, I'm sorry but the football player black couple adopting a hispanic baby bothers me a little bit. Was the baby puerto rican? dominican? afro-cuban?? Some sort of biracial latino/latina? Because if not yes it bothers me when there are tons of black & bi-racial kids out there looking to be adopted smh