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Jan 22, 2012 10:25AM
How much experience should your heroine have or not have in the bedroom? Besides the level of detail you crave for intimate moments, this is another break it or make it point for a lot of romance readers. So what do you think?
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Anna wrote: "How much experience should your heroine have or not have in the bedroom? Besides the level of detail you crave for intimate moments, this is another break it or make it point for a lot of romance r..."
I'm a lot more accepting than I was as a teen reading romance novels. If my herione used to have experience in the bedroom other than a dead husband or a meaningless fling, I would put it down. I think it goes to the definition of the "ultimate love." Even in romance novels where the heroine is very, very, very experienced (think Anita Blake, my friends), the realization I want my heroine to come to is that what she has with the hero surpasses anything she ever had before.
I know it's a double-standard, but I'm a lot more forgiving of the male characters than the females. A hero who has experience is seen as virile and able to instruct his lady into the pleasures of lovemaking, especially if said lady just happens to be a virgin. When the lady is not a virgin this seems less important and then to emphasize his experience can make him look like a floosy.
It's just a balance for me. I really believe that the author should focus on the relationship and minimally reference any of the other naughty bits.
I'm a lot more accepting than I was as a teen reading romance novels. If my herione used to have experience in the bedroom other than a dead husband or a meaningless fling, I would put it down. I think it goes to the definition of the "ultimate love." Even in romance novels where the heroine is very, very, very experienced (think Anita Blake, my friends), the realization I want my heroine to come to is that what she has with the hero surpasses anything she ever had before.
I know it's a double-standard, but I'm a lot more forgiving of the male characters than the females. A hero who has experience is seen as virile and able to instruct his lady into the pleasures of lovemaking, especially if said lady just happens to be a virgin. When the lady is not a virgin this seems less important and then to emphasize his experience can make him look like a floosy.
It's just a balance for me. I really believe that the author should focus on the relationship and minimally reference any of the other naughty bits.
Anna wrote: "How much experience should your heroine have or not have in the bedroom? Besides the level of detail you crave for intimate moments, this is another break it or make it point for a lot of romance r..."I don't think I'm bothered by heroines with experience, although I don't necessarily want to hear about their history. Ironically enough, I won't invest in a character without getting background on them, but I don't want THAT kind of background.
There's a double standard though. I don't like books with inexperienced male heroes. I don't mind naieve heroines, but I'll give up on a naieve man.
