One Of Us discussion

Discuss anything INFJ-related here:

What's It Like Being An INFJ? Things You Love? Hate?
If You Could Change Anything About Your INFJ Personality, What Would It Be?
Something You Didn't Know About Them?
What's Your Interpretation of Being Dubbed "The Protectors"?

If you aren't an INFJ, feel free to give your opinion of them below. Afterall, you don't have to answer the questions above. They're merely guidelines.

Haha we differ there. :P I despise my sisters, one more so than the other. XD

I understand completely. I'm introverted as well, and sometimes I just don't know what to say to people. That is, unless I know them fairly well. Which sucks for me, because a lot of the time I do just want to joke around and have fun with people. >.<

Oh, you're lucky. I only have a few select things I like doing. :P And Jesus, yes, I completely understand with the taking advantage thing. Except, I kinda covered up my personality with all these barriers, so that I seem more standoff-ish and less shy and easy to take advantage of. I regret it. XD Same with the emotional thing. But that's all to do with my personality, so I won't go overly into it. ;)

Agreed. I have nothing more to say than that. With pretty much everything you just said. Apart from my personality only takes up 3-4% or something like that.

When I said I have alot of activities I got it mixed up with doing them alot. It made it seem like I do alot of activities. But now that I think of it I just have 2 I do everyday. I wish there were more. ;.; lol
Maybe we used 2 different sites. My site said 1% not 3-4%. I'm really clingy with my sister. She's disabled so I get so overly protective or her.

Lol, all goods :P And I'm an INFP though :3 So you probably are 1%. I was just saying that personally mine is 3-4%. ;)

okay :)

Thanks for the heads up :D I'll edit the headings to include those titles as well then.

I find it difficult to be an INFJ sometimes because I think I am being entirely clear in my communication and behaviors and everyone seems in one way or another to misinterpret what I am trying to communicate.

Rebekah wrote: "I find it difficult to be an INFJ sometimes because I think I am being entirely clear in my communication and behaviors and everyone seems in one way or another to misinterpret what I am trying to ..."

Examples?

I enjoy being an INFJ because of how well I can tap into and understand other people's feelings and perspectives, however it dose have it's limitations. When I want to say something, there is so much that I want to say but I only end up saying a small portion of it.
I can understand other people's emotions without them saying anything, but I wish other people could understand my feelings without me saying anything.

I'm not sure if I am an INFJ or an INTJ. The last time I took the test I was one point into the T; the time before that I was 4 points into the F. Seems I am right on the cusp of those two and I fluctuate.

Miky wrote: "I enjoy being an INFJ because of how well I can tap into and understand other people's feelings and perspectives, however it dose have it's limitations. When I want to say something, there is so mu..."

Me to a T.

Oh yes. I love being an INFJ. INFJ's are said to be the most outgoing of all introverts and I am one of those more outgoing ones. Although I am introverted because I tend to not open up about my biggest ideas and values...and problems. Sometimes it can be rather lonely. Especially when you understand everyone else but they can't understand you!

Hannah wrote: " Sometimes it can be rather lonely. Especially when you understand everyone else but they can't understand you! "

I can only speak for me, but I don't fully understand myself even. I think most INTJs/INFJs struggle with fully grasping everything that's going on within them. I'm not totally surprised if other people don't understand me when I can't understand myself. Lol.

Erick wrote: "Hannah wrote: " Sometimes it can be rather lonely. Especially when you understand everyone else but they can't understand you! "

I can only speak for me, but I don't fully understand myself even. ..."

Oh yeah, definitely. I barely understand myself too.

i would agree with Hannah,lonely and you seem to understand more about what a feeling even is,like sometimes i can just look at people and i know if there having a bad day,and i can,t say i like being infj or not but i wouldt want to change i dont think

What's It Like Being An INFJ?
This is like asking what's it like being yourself. I have been INFJ my whole life. I am a typical introvert who is confident about choice making. I'm compassionate and love to give more than receive. I value being organised and likes to plan things out before starting a task. I need a lot of time alone to recharge. I make observations about people subconsciously. At times it feels like standing on the peak of the mountain over-looking everything. Although I appear to be there physically but I spend most of the time in my head.

Things You Love? Hate?
-I absolutely adore time alone
-I value deep connections with people
-I love making improvements towards myself
-I hate being in a crowded room
-I hate being around a pessimistic individual
-I hate being the only one who is not conversing in a social setting

If You Could Change Anything About Your INFJ Personality, What Would It Be?
I wish to be less sensitive. Less of an emotional sponge. Just be me at any given moment and not put so much pressure on myself.

What's Your Interpretation of Being Dubbed "The Protectors"?
While I do like being the protector I also expect a trusted individual to do the same.

Maybe we should function under the assumption that introversion isn't psychopathy... just a thought.

I'm borderline INTJ; INTJs often get stuck with the label of sociopath or psychopath. I can't speak for other introverts that share the same propensities, but I don't think most introverts harbor any misanthropy.

Misanthropy is usually a sign of psychopathy. "Wishing to eradicate humanity" is not a healthy POV. It's a sign of unresolved personal issues I would guess. I think it might be a sign of personal self-loathing and projection.

Vergilius wrote: "Sigh, wouldn't you condone it even if were just venting thoughts?"

Destructive thoughts aren't healthy. I mean primarily for you personally. So I must say no I don't condone such. I have my share of negative and destructive thoughts, but I don't give them unnecessary attention. That usually means I don't dwell on those kinds of thoughts and I don't express them. Try replacing those kinds of thoughts with something more constructive. We are creatures of habit. Taking control of thoughts will yield more positive results over time than just allowing them to run wild. I strongly suggest that you don't give those thoughts your undue attention.

Vergilius wrote: "I said I recognized the things I'd said were horrid, and that's exactly why I didn't appreciate being praised for it."

That's good. Someone suffering from psychopathy wouldn't recognize that those thoughts aren't healthy.

Can't say I am following you precisely. Expressing hatred of humanity is no way to weed out potential friends.

Like anything else, it's habit that feeds destructive thoughts. The more you dwell on and express them, the more of those kinds of thoughts you will have. Telling yourself that these thoughts have power over you is the lie someone tells themselves when they've allowed those thoughts to have control for too long.

I am only make suggestions, brother. I'm twice your age and I have experienced quite a bit. It doesn't hurt to at least consider what I have suggested.

About that "They're merely guidelines." Statement is their anybody with the studies or occupations in game development role i liked to brainstorm with

Also there are 6 different counselor(role variants)infjs based on theodore millons subtype look down the bottom of idrlabs.com(celebritytypes) and you see a personality disorder, ours is "dependant personality disorder" with other ones small

Dependent personality disorder
Epidemiology
Millon's subtypes
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depen...

Subtype Personality Traits
Disquieted dependent (Including avoidant features) Restlessly perturbed; disconcerted and fretful; feels dread and foreboding; apprehensively vulnerable to abandonment; lonely unless near supportive figures.

Selfless dependent (Including masochistic features) Merges with and immersed into another; is engulfed, enshrouded, absorbed, incorporated, willingly giving up own identity; becomes one with or an extension of another.

Immature dependent (Variant of "pure" pattern) Unsophisticated, half-grown, unversed, childlike; undeveloped, inexperienced, gullible, and unformed; incapable of assuming adult responsibilities.

Accommodating dependent (Including histrionic features) Gracious, neighborly, eager, benevolent, compliant, obliging, agreeable; denies disturbing feelings; adopts submissive and inferior role well.

Ineffectual dependent (Including schizoid features) Unproductive, gainless, incompetent, meritless; seeks untroubled life; refuses to deal with difficulties; untroubled by shortcomings.

What's It Like Being An INFJ?
-didnt know that topic then was as an individual myself without the voodoo mbti: i set my based building block philosophy of vain, in vain. All i did was focus too much care on my friends familys and conserve power from pricks or abominations. Got the mbti topic from my sister as she find it in ,in trying to build her art character archetype and found this i think and i thought we all think alike in infjs but i scare the crap out of other infjs one based on assumption and unmastery of the unconcious one who do not and fear will not partake in reality dangers. ...

Things You Love?
-ultimately?... I viewed myself as the overseer or better yet allthe way back behind the cinema chairs rather then the front dangerous spots without the mbti in mind, i needed control

Hate?
- i pricks in my life i studied them instead of school terrible marks an atar of 30 and unsw requires atar score of 99.9 which looking at it now its crazy number out of a hundred

If You Could Change Anything About Your INFJ Personality, What Would It Be?
-i think thats a silly argument. Everybody likes to everybody except themselves. Im not to concerned

Something You Didn't Know About Them?
-they were estranged with how i phrase sentence and stating/ments other mbtis got it immediately but infj shocked fear and thought i was evil(actually i looking at evil studies)(or demonic taste in art - it was redjuice999 deviantart ). one block headed another needing to safe, and then the dependant personality disorder theodore millon subtypes clarified another distinctions of usthem and cs josephs expansion on it...>

What's Your Interpretation of Being Dubbed "The Protectors"?
-i never looked at myself its this is confusing the termname has different variations so ill skip that.? Dunbars number is enough

If you aren't an INFJ, feel free to give your opinion of them below. Afterall, you don't have to answer the questions above. They're merely guidelines.
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