Nothing is Taboo discussion

I saw Will Smith on a interview with Barbra Walters and he said that Divorce is not an option because if it is, you are going to get one. What do you think?

I think that if you're not treating your mate the way that they want and deserve to be treated, at some point, divorce is going to become an option. Just my thoughts. What are yours?

I'm with you Red.
Divorce is always possible. People change so much. You marry one person and years later they somebody else.

My husband and I have been married 22 years now and though we have both changed somewhat, we are still us, the same people we were when we married. I have picked up some of his tendencies over the years, he has picked u bits and pieces of mine.
I think that divorce should never be an option. If you go into a marriage with the attitude "oh, well I can always get divorced later" you're dooming your marriage from the start.
I will amend that to say there are some cases where divorce is an option, abuse, physical or mental by either partner would be one of those.

Lil

You shouldn't go into a marriage looking for a divorce. Make sure you are with someone you can build a future with before you say I do. That being said, every couple should do whatever it takes to make the marriage work. Marriage/love takes time, energy and patience. You get out of it what you put into it. Mistakes, frustration or errors in judgements occur at times. Keep the lines of communication open. If after you have done everything you can to make the partnership work, divorce may be the only alternative left.

I heard Will Smith say some whack stuff to...Like putting other women up like Holly berry and Beyonce...He said those his imaginary girlfriends...If my husband had said something like that when he was living...I would have strangled him yo...I think he just know know how to play Jada.

I agree with him. Marriage should be forever and if you go in with divorce as a solution to your problemd then youshouldn't get married. I don't see a problem with my husband thinking other women are attractive. You have to be pretty insecure to even worry about that.

Hello Jiaka. You said you don't have a problem with your husband thinking other woman are attractive and that's all find.
I wanna tell you from a mans point of view. If a man is telling his wife/girlfriend other woman are atrractive, 100% the man will sleep with them if he gets a chance. It's a man thing. Listen to what a man says because trust me he will do what he tells you or follow up on his fanticies if he gets a chance. I wouldn't lie to you. Some men will not be truthful but I'll tell you the truth.

How sad for you Redman, I had developed so much respect for you in other comments. Do you really believe taht if you were in love you would risk everything you had just to touch another woman with a pretty face? I don't believe it, not 100% a lot of men will but not all. I would like to add to my list of "good man" qualities .. self control.

Jadia if I fanticied about other women while I was married yes I would cheat if I got the chance. But I'm not the type of man who would fanticze about about a woman if I had a wife like Will Smith does. But what you need to understand is a lot of men love their wives and the women they with but they still will cheat. It's not about self control.They don't wanna have self control.I didn't say 100% of men will cheat I said that 100% if a man is fanticiing about a woman if he get a oppurtunity to cheat with that woman he would cheat.Listen I have traveled all over the world. When I speak I speak on stuff I have seen and know about. I never met a man who was 100% faithful. I know a lot of cats who have beautiful wives who they love who don't have to work and they take care of their wives but they will cheat. Why Because they don't think they will get caught. What you are getting a misconception about is love and cheating. Just because a man love a woman doesn't mean they want cheat. Of course no one would risk it if they knew their mate was gonna find out about it. But that is the problem a lot of mates do find out and thats what ends the relationship.You said you don't have a problem with your man thinking other women are attractive. But what if that was your friend who he thought was attractive, your security level would fall then if he keep saying how attractive your friends are. And I bet you wouldn't tell him how attractive his friends are either.Just saying it as an example All I have to say is experence is the best teacher. It takes some women having there heart crust a few times before they learn about the nature of a man. My sister used to preach to my nieces all the time about how men were and they didn't believe. And now years later they expert on the nature of men. You can't put your 100 percent trust in no man. If you do it's foolish. I'm only talking about the men who say they fanticize about other women. Will Smith said he fanticize about Beyonce and Hallie and if he got a chance he would do it. Jadie Pickett is nutty if she think otherwise.

that's annoying, men suck. I'm going to be a lesbian for the rest of the night.

Holla Redman... I agree with you.... Men do cheat even if they love they wifey...And as for the ones who don't have a wifey & just shacking up with some chick you know they out there creeping... It's just in they nature... Maybe not all men but so many do it seems like they all do... Anywho who would want they man fanticizing & complmenting another woman... I want my man to fanticize & compliment ONLY me... And it's not about low self esteem cause I get complimnts daily...Compliments that I hate and that don't flatter me...Like they be spitting... I gots a good future behind me & can they pay my rent or take me out...Shit like that that is just lame...So I feel you Red...Holla at ya girl