La Poseurs discussion

Alright, we all know that La Poseurs includes several topics where we can discuss our problems, and help others feel better. Well, Chey Chey has the idea that in this case, you'd be doing just that, but it's specifically addressing yours truly. Like a Dear Abbey letter, you write, and I answer in full detail. Example:

Dear Autumn,

[ Insert question or problem here ]

[ your name, nickname, sign off, whatever you prefer]


Dear [ so-and-so]

[insert brilliant advice here ]

Sincerely,
Autumn


Remember, this is a question-answer sort of thing, so please do not write if you do not expect a reply. Thank you, and happy-writings!

~Autumn

Dear Jamie,

It's up to you what you do with your body, but my suggestion to you would be to wait. I know I shouldn't be biased, but it had always been my ideals to wait until you found someone you really loved, because that sort of thing is special, and shouldn't be given away to just anyone. Besides, you have to ask yourself- do I really feel for this guy, or is it just want and hormones? Now I know you're probably sick of the "hormone" argument by now, because I am too, but it's true. It's only natural to want that sort of thing at this age, but it's better if you save it for someone you really love.
But remember, if you do decide to go on about with it anyways, be very safe. There's always a risk for pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, which can take over your whole life, so whatever you you do, be protected darling.

Yours Truly,
Autumn

:) great advice Autumn. I couldn't agree more

Dear Autumn,

I seem to be lacking focus in school lately. I have usually very good focus, but something seems to be distracting me...lately. Any ideas how to fix this? I really must study for my huge EOC and cannot afford to lost focus.

As always,

The Girl Behind The Scrawled Letters, Nemphisi

Dear Nemphisi,

I know what you're going through, I too have had these phases where I just couldn't pay attention to anything. Never to fear, it passes! But if you want to get through it more quickly, there are a few things I'd suggest to help you.

1.) Whenever you have free time, make sure to get all your doodles, stories, and energy out! Let your mind do all its wandering during a time when you don't need to be paying attention- wear that part of your brain out!

2.) Get good rest, and stay full! Grogginess and an empty stomach is only more distracting, and your mind needs sleep and food to keep functioning properly.

3.) Do NOT let your thoughts wander anymore in class, or any other time you need focus. Now you may be thinking, "Well no-duh, but that's my problem in the first place." What I mean is that whenever you start to drift off, or "zone out", catch yourself! Pinch your hand, or shake your head, and throw yourself back into your work. Make sure you constantly remind yourself to stay on task, be strict!

4.) Last, but not least, try and enjoy what you do! Find something a little positive or interesting in your work, and thrive off it. Make yourself want to learn, or do more about it!

I hope that helped! Good luck, and keep up with the techniques! It won't work if you just practice the ideas a few times and then drop it. It takes work, but I know you can do it!

Yours Truly,
Autumn

Dear Jamie,

I know what it's like being in a position like that, and I remember getting nauseous about it myself just thinking about it. All I can say is that getting in trouble sucks, but if somebody is going to get you into it, there really isn't much you can do. Blackmailing and threatening is wrong, so if pleading nicely doesn't work, then I'm sorry.

If you really think she will rat you guys out, you should come clean to your parents first. It may seem bad, but trust me, it'll be much worse if they have to find out from somebody else. Sure, punishment is never fun, but at least you'd be telling the truth at some point or another. Your parent probably won't go easy on you, but it'll be a lot harder the angrier they are.

Once again, I'm really sorry about the mess that you've found yourself in, and although it may sound silly or naive to say "cheer up", I'm going to say it anyways. There's no undoing things that have already happened, so whatever comes as a result, face it with your head held up high. And remember, you always have all of us to talk to about it, and as things progress I'm still always open for advice.

Your humble servant,
Autumn

Dear Autumn,

-.- I hate Humanity -.-

Sincerely,
LeStrange

Dear LeStrange,

Despite how stupid, moronic, or just plain idiotic humanity itself may be, you must not forget about the individual. Yes, humanity in its whole is a terrible thing, but the individual is something that can change. The individual is human, but that does not necessarily make it part of humanity. The individual has the chose to either become part of humanity, or to stand separate against it. It is okay to hate humanity, but you must never underestimate the value of the individual.

Sincerely,
Myself

Dear LeStrange,

First of all, let me apologize for how rude I've been in the way that I had not replied to your message! I had absolutely no idea that you even posted here, I am so completely and utterly sorry!

In regards to your letter and your response, I would have to agree with you. There's a whole lot of ugly things in this world, but there is also a lot of beauty too. An individual in itself can basically do whatever they want, but the truth is that as long as you are a human, you are a part of humanity, whether you love it or hate it. It's like being invited to a party full of strangers; you can either choose to go with the flow and smile and mingle, or you can scowl and wonder why you were invited in the first place. Think of it what you will, but you are part of it, and as an individual you can try to do with it what you will.

Sincerely,
Autumn

Dear Autumm,

Thinking back to it, I think when I said humanity I thought something else. Like in the bible it tells Christians this, that you are In the World, but you must not become Of the World. Its not exactly physically meaning the World or Humanity, but more symbolically meaning the sin and corruption that became the World after the fall. More or less tells you this, that though you are in a fallen world you must not fall yourself. Though today I do think that more and more of humanity has indeed "fallen", which is indeed a sad thing.

Humanity itself may not be perfect, heck it can't really gain perfection, but never the less one must strive for the impossible goal.

Sincerely,
LeStrange

Dear LeStrange,

You make a very good point, and, once again, I do agree with you. Nothing is perfect, one must just choose to look past the imperfections, or work to make it better. Just because there is a goal unlikely to ever be achieved, doesn't mean that working towards it won't make a difference. And you have to remember, while humanity may be thought as an ugly thing as a whole, it's the smaller, more beautiful things in it that make participating in it worthwhile.

I'm glad we can both agree on these views, and it's little reminders like these that are refreshing to me to think about! Thank you, and once again I apologize for not answering to your original letter!

Sincerely,
Autumn

the sound of Autumn wrote: "Dear Nemphisi,

I know what you're going through, I too have had these phases where I just couldn't pay attention to anything. Never to fear, it passes! But if you want to get through it more quic..."

((Thank you! It worked rather well in other things.))

No problem, I'm just glad I could help! It's absolutely my pleasure :)

Dear Autumn,

I feel really alone, and lately I've just taken to music as my refuge. The person I used to be so close to morphed completely. My parents seem to think I'm good-turned-bad. And I just want to be far, far away... But there's no where to really go. I'm really only writing this because I don't really have anyone else to talk about it with.
I just don't feel good. I feel sad.

Cheyla

Dear Cheyla,

I read your letter, and I immediately wanted to tell you that I understood what you were going through, but I was reminded of this quote from Pandemonium, "I have the urge to lay my hand on his shoulder and say, I understand. But the words seem stupid. We can never understand. We can only try, fumbling our way through tunneled places, reaching for light."

I can understand some of what you're going through though. I myself have been in pretty dark places, sometimes for almost no reason at all. The one thing I can say though, is that it will get better.

Yeah, such a cliche, the whole, "It always gets better" speech, but it's true. Life goes on, whether you want it to or not, and it does get better. You have to deal with the bad days, or even bad months, or even bad years, because then the better times wouldn't feel so special.

Life is kind of crappy in the way that it works like that, but that's the way it is. My advice to you would be to just hang in there, and keep using that escape. Music, writing, or maybe even just going on a walk by yourself. And mostly, talk to yourself about things, figure out how you feel about everything. Are you good-turned-bad? If not, don't believe your parents! Just think: Is this really going to matter a couple years from now?

And about the person you used to be close to, I'm very sorry. I've gone through the exact same thing with one of my closest friends, and now we hardly ever look at each other, for no reason whatsoever. That's another crappy thing about life; people change. You can't change them, they can only change themselves, and you may not like what happens afterward. The advice is still the same though- hang in there. It really does get better, I promise you. After all, you are an intelligent, kind, beautiful young woman with great grammar, humor, and a whole life waiting ahead of you.

Always here to talk to,
Autumn

Thank you so much autumn. Really, just thanks. You have no idea how nice that is. :) it's nice to know I'm not alone on this big rock.

I have actually received some messages on here from supporting people, and I thank everyone. You're all amazing, beautiful people.

It is no problem at all Chey Chey, we all love you, and hope things get better! It's a pleasure to be able to talk to you at any time, but it's even better when I have a chance at making a difference :3

Haha yeh, I low I've been absentee here for a while. I have been, how you say, bat-shit-crazy. Running around like a chicken with its head cut off. My family is so insanely busy. I have two brothers getting married right now.

Oh really? Wow, congratulations! I understand, nobody's blaming you for being busy, we've all been in that state before! Just make sure to take a couple deep breaths every now and then ;)

Good thinking! I also have Driver's Ed every morning, and my parents have been pressuring me to get a job, which would be much easier if I only had a license -.-

Ahhhhh, I see. I'm not old enough to begin learning to drive yet, though I'm the one pressuring my mom and dad to teach me. They let me steer every now and then from the front seat though, I guess that's a start.

Dear Nour,

I'm sorry about the situation with your parents, my own mother is pretty protective of me too.

First of all, you may want to just plain out ask them why they have the sudden need to be protective. Make sure to be polite when you say this, as you don't want to come off as being rude, parents usually don't respond well to this. Just ask them if you did anything wrong or if anything has happened lately that made them a little more precise when it comes to what you're doing. Remember to keep an open mind to their response, and although it is easy to get defensive, it won't be helping either side in this situation.

If they insist that you did nothing wrong, then there isn't a whole lot that you can do. They are your parents after all, they can do as they please. I'd suggest not fighting against these acts, but calmly going along with them. Maybe if they see that you can be responsible and mature, they'll give you more privileges. In this case, I think it is better not to argue against your parents, because it may make it look to them like you have something to hide, even though you may not at all.

I hope things get better, and just remember to be patient!

Sincerely,
Autumn

Dear Autumn,
Thank you, I will try!

Do any of you know eachother?

I know Natalie, aka KissMeTwice, and I also know Opossum, but other than that, I don't really know anyone else here.

Cool!!!

Dear Autumn,

I don't even have a reason, let along a good reason... but I hate my life, this world, humanity, and everything. That, and I am likely depressed, maybe. Plus, I probably have a complex, or some other mental condition... cause I am totally mentally unstable.

Sincerely,
The boy who most likely needs professional help

Dear Matthew,

I understand what you mean, I've been in the same place. For what seemed like the longest time, I felt depressed and angry, and I had no idea why! But you know what? I got through it, and I have no doubt you will, because just like I was telling Cheyla, life always get's better, no matter how much of a cliche it seems. Here are a few tips that might make you feel better though:

Use a journal! Even if you're not using it daily, just writing down some stuff that's happened lately, how you feel about it, and maybe spit balling a few random ideas can make you feel a whole lot better. It may seem silly, but I would recommend giving it a try, it really helped me.

Talk to a friend, or adult. Yeah, I know, nobody really wants to do that, but close friends will listen to you, and may even make you feel better about it. They could be going through, or have gone through the exact same thing.

Make a list of all the small, little things you like in the world. It can be something as simple as the sound of rain, or the smell of a new book. Just write or type out a list, and every time you think of something new, add it on. It's a good little reminder about what good there is in this world.

I hope that helped a little! Remember, you are never alone, and all of us here you are feeling better soon Matthew! Just give it some time, and try to appreciate some of the little things every now and then.

Always here to help,
Autumn

Dear Autumn,

This is for my friend who is messaging me...right now...on facebook...

My friend messaged me:

First
I fell for the "perfect guy" and now hes bein a butt head...just...nothing...
Do you think I'm depressed...?

Second
Nathan = amazing (to me) garrett told me nathan doesn't like how much i text nathan...so when igot home from church i told nate id stoptexting him n so he and i had this small fight of if i should leave or stay, eventually he got me to stay, then we had this mini fight of who wants what and i eventually told him I wanted him to be the one guy i didn't regret...n now after another small argument of whatthat meant and how i see him n now he's saying that maybe not all the other girls are blind but that I am...that hes not the perfect guy n I'm tellin him that i haven't yet found fault in him...I'M SO CONFUSED AND FRUSTRATED AND JUST UUUGGGGHHHHAAAAHHH...


Third
(thats the short version)
See...not even you know what to say to my problem...but yeah...whatever...I'll get over him, i told him I would...all it is, is another silly crush where I'll be broken hearted...might as well get that sooner rather than later...

Fourth
But i have another sorta story/problem...

Fifth
Sooo...theres this guy from church who may have developed a crush on me...you know how I'm all huggy n all...yeah, well hes like that, but to me every chance he gets, n he like follows me wherever until he can get to like a semi-private area and hugs me for like longer than one should...and today he hugged me and i could feel is boner and it was sooo awkwarddddd...

sixth Post
(Nathan)He and i were never dating...JUST FRIENDS - though i wanted more...and i didnt say perfect guy, i said i wanted him to be the guy i wouldnt ever regret falling for and he just so happened to be perfect in my eyes...
Sooooooo...theres this other guy, his name is Reese, and apparently he really likes me, i mean last night he and i were jokin around and aparently he's my silly ninja husband and I'm his sexy vampireic wife...and so today when i was telling him about Nathan, he called me perfect and so he and i had this sorta lil fight about how Nathan isnt a douche n how I'm not perfect...and all and so I'm confused with him if he feels that he and i are datin or if we're still just friends...i asked him if in all seriousness if he would ever really want to marry me and he said it was a strong possibility and now he's saying I love you to me...sooooo...yeah

Seventh post

I'm not dating anyone Matt...i recently had a bf yes - for the past 3.5 months but i dumped him like a week ago...

From,
A Guy

Dear Matthew,

Well, it seems as though your friend has a lot going on in their life right now! My advice for them would be to not bite off more than they could chew. I'm not sure if you're friend feels the same way, but I've always thought that the less drama there is, the better. As young adults, sometimes it seems as though we're prone to get dragged into at least a little drama, but there are are a few things that you can do to figure out how to get rid of it.

The first thing your friend should do is figure out where the drama is coming from. Not to point fingers at anyone, or cause offense at all, but usually these kind of things only continue if one allows them to. If I'm getting this right, there are about four different guys that they are having "issues" with. Yikes, how did it get there? They should ask themselves if they like this sort of thing; it could be the attention, the ego boost, or anything like that. I'm not trying to be offensive in any way, shape, or form, because let's admit it, sometimes we allow these kind of things to happen. If they decide that they do, in fact, not want this sort of thing being around them, then there's the first step taken.

Secondly, I would say it's now time for them to further clear up their minds. How do they feel about each individual? Do they want some of them to stay around? Do they want others to leave? How important are they, and do they want to be just friends, or maybe more? The quicker they find out exactly what they want, the easier it will be to act off of that.

Once that is done, it's time to actually act on feelings. The number one thing you have to do when expressing your feelings to somebody else is to be honest. I suggest you tell this to your friend. If there is somebody they want to just be friends with, they should make it clear to the other person. Same with somebody they want have a little something more with. It's a frightening thought, but things just can't go unresolved.

I know, I know, the common fear is, "What if I hurt somebody's feelings?" The sad truth is that in matters like these, some people are going to be unhappy with the decisions made, but sometimes you have to think about your own happiness before others'. I would tell your friend that it's their life, and they are responsible for what happens in it.

And for you, Matthew, as the one helping out your friend, just make sure to be patient with them. Give them support, let them know that you're there for them, that you care. Most of all though, try not to let yourself get too wrapped up in their drama. It's alright to help from the side, but you don't want to throw yourself in too deeply. It's like helping somebody out of sticky mud, you want to help them, but you yourself don't want to get stuck in it.

It was a little difficult without much background information, but I hope this helped! Please let me know if there's anything else I can do, I would love to continue giving advice to you and your friend!

Yours humbly,
Autumn

Extending explanation:

ME
I don't think all this drama is healthy *sigh* I will try to help, but be warned, I am a guy, and I have zero experience in Drama.

Her
Hahaha i have plenty, i just wanna know what you THINK i should do...

Still say what you were gunno...

Me
*psh* I don't trust any of these guys, first of all.

At the moment you are a very vulnerable young lady, and a lot of guys are out there who can easily hurt you.

Her
I've already been hurt a lot Matt...you don't know half my relationships...

Me

I have a good imagination...

At the moment, well you have a lot of troubles in your life.
* Parents getting a Divore.
* Self Insecurities
* Peers and Bad Relationships

By all rights, you are a feel emotionally unstable and delicate person at the moment, most likley even depressed.

With all these problems you wish you could, well, wish them away. Unfortunately, you can't. Instead this is what you do to mask yourself...

You feel the need to be in a relationship with a guy, to have someone's protective arms wrapped around you. Someone to whisper that they love you, to let you forget everything else? That makes you end up falling for the wrong guys...

This is bad because you are telling yourself lies. You do not need to be in a relationship, dating or married.

You also try as hard as you can to act as if you are stronger then you are. Believe me, nobody is that strong, they just pretend to be.

The outcome only makes you feel more insecure, and the world just seems to be all against you.

Atleast this is what it seems like to me...

Dear Autumn,

I need some great advice, I feel sometimes like I'm not good enough at anything. Goodreads and in real life. It's hard to explain, and seems very foolish.

Goodreads Problem: Everyone seems to write better than I, they seem to get noticed more. I don't even know if my writing is good anymore. I often question myself, do I even roleplay good? I want a true answer, a real one. One that might hurt my feelings, but I don't care. I just want to know, and if I do, what are my faults??

Real Life Problem: Everyone seems to be high and mighty, they have friends and lives that scream their better than mine. I get picked on occasionally and don't even know why. I sometimes bring it upon myself, but now its only eating me from the inside out. Some people go downtown, have fun and talk to each other all the time while I'm cooped up in my room watching television, reading, or writing. I mean, I love Goodreads and all but sometimes I feel I can do more. Is this even normal?x.x

Sincerely, Kept Locked Behind Closed Doors.

Angel... I have the same exact feelings...

мαттнєω ℓє ωєανєя σƒ ℓιєѕ wrote: "Extending explanation:

ME
I don't think all this drama is healthy *sigh* I will try to help, but be warned, I am a guy, and I have zero experience in Drama.

Her
Hahaha i have plenty, i just wanna..."

I actually think that's a really good thing to say to her Matthew, well done! It seems that you know her well, and you have a good idea of how she's working, so for what it's worth, you are definitely handling this well! Keep doing what you're doing, you're definitely being a good friend. :)

My romantic advice:

What you need is not a boyfriend, or a romantic relationship.

What you are in need of are strong friends, and you need to make that clear to a guy that if they want a relationship... first they need to have a real bond.

Here is a saying I like very much:
"If you can't break up as friends, then they weren't worth dating in the first place"

Or, to say it even further.
Before they even think about having a romantic relationship with you they should be that friend.

You need to make sure that their intentions are good, and if they truly did love you they would do just that. Become your best friend first, without any of that romantic or sexual nonsense.That is the best way to find a boy friend.

You must understand though, there is no "prefect" one. The truth to a real relationship is that despite both your faults, you love each other.

If they can't handle all of you, problems included, then they aren't worthy enough to date.

♥Angel♥ ~Dylan O'Brien Is Mine Forever, AND EVER♥ wrote: "Dear Autumn,

I need some great advice, I feel sometimes like I'm not good enough at anything. Goodreads and in real life. It's hard to explain, and seems very foolish.

Goodreads Problem: Everyo..."

Dear Angel,

I, too, know how you feel, both with Goodreads problems and real life problems.

Goodreads Problem: I've felt this way to. How come I can't right as long posts as these people? Is my roleplaying as good? Does this mean I'm a bad author? What I've always done is if I'm not happy with some aspect in my writing, I think about what I'm doing wrong, and how I can improve it. Whether it's going over some of my words and upgrading the vocabulary, or just including more about what the character's thinking. Honestly though, I think you are a great writer and roleplayer, and it pleases me whenever I get a notification seeing that you posted!

Real life Problem: I have also been in this situation. Actually, I'm in this situation right with you. I was just put into a completely new school with nobody I know. Everyone around me has friends, booming social lives and what not. But you know what? That does mean that anything about them is better than me, and the same goes for you Angel. If you want to go out and have fun with people, you have to make it happen for yourself. Throw yourself out there, say hello to some new people, start conversations, make friends. It may feel unnatural at first, but that's how you grow. If you want to stay home and read, that's fine too, it's your decision!

About getting picked on, I'm sorry to hear that. Just keep your head up high, and don't let them get to you. Sometimes, people just get petty and bored with their own lives, so they try to create drama to stir up excitement. Don't buy into it. If you let them upset you, you're just giving them what they want. If you simply ignore them with a smile on your face, you won't be giving them the drama that they want, and they'll leave you alone.

My mother always told me that whenever somebody was trying to bring me down, to kill them with kindness. Don't scream at them, or snap back at them. Just smile and tell them that that's nice. That way, if it get's to the point where adult intervention is needed, you can say that you were honestly doing nothing wrong. You don't want to stoop to their level and then get in trouble for it later, just stay in the safe zone, and remember that what they say or think doesn't matter.

And remember, there's no such thing as normal sweetie, everybody is weird in their own ways, and that's perfectly okay.

Yours honestly,
Autumn

мαттнєω ℓє ωєανєя σƒ ℓιєѕ wrote: "My romantic advice:

What you need is not a boyfriend, or a romantic relationship.

What you are in need of are strong friends, and you need to make that clear to a guy that if they want a relatio..."

I couldn't agree with you more.

Dear Ri,

I'm going into eighth grade in a week, and I know I have some of the hardest teachers lined up for me. Since they took away advisory, I'll have to do all my homework at home. And my history teacher is none for giving more than four quizzes in one period. Now I know my GF is going into high school, and she'll have tons of work to do as well. So what I'm afraid of is that I won't have any time just to talk to her. What should I do?

Waiting for reply-
A Completely Honest AJ.

the sound of Autumn wrote: " ♥Angel♥ ~Dylan O'Brien Is Mine Forever, AND EVER♥ wrote: "Dear Autumn,

I need some great advice, I feel sometimes like I'm not good enough at anything. Goodreads and in real life. It's hard to e..."

Thank you, I really needed this. c: Also same with you, when I see a notification from you I get all happy^-^

It is a great pleasure for me to be able to help you Angel, and thank you very much!

Kanra wrote: "Dear Ri,

I'm going into eighth grade in a week, and I know I have some of the hardest teachers lined up for me. Since they took away advisory, I'll have to do all my homework at home. And my histo..."

Dear Tay Tay,

Yikes, sounds like a bit of a situation you're in! Have no fear though, I have no doubt that you can handle it. I'm not going to lie, it sounds like eighth grade is probably going to be a little rough for you, but keep your chin up! One way to more easily adjust to a bigger amount of homework is to get a routine down. If you want to have more time at home for going online or doing other fun activities, you could try doing what I did, and get some of your homework done at school! It's not always the most interesting thing to do with your time at school, but when I did it, I found that it was incredibly worth it.

And about your girlfriend, you should just tell her straight out that you may not have as much time online as you used to. Since you said that she too has a good chunky amount of homework, I'm sure that she'll understand the position you're in. It might be a little disappointing to get to talk less, but if she really cares about you ahead of herself, then she'll want you to get good grades first. Trust me.

Make sure not to get overwhelmed. Set up a routine for yourself, and it'll be easier to get used to. I hope this helped!

Love,
Autumn

Dear Ri,

I feel like we need more things to do on La Poseurs so we can revive this group.

What should I do?

Chey Chey

Dear Chey Chey,

Well, there are a few things you can do to revive the group:

You and I can go up the list of activities and post in them, relevant to the thread (eg; in the Lyrics thread, we post lyrics) so, hopefully, a few notifications will be sent in the direction of other members, reminding them of this group.

There's always the idea of, of course, inviting more members to the group, which I shall be doing very shortly!

If/ when we get a few more members, or at least more active members, we can PM our members that we will be holding a writing contest and a "best character" contest, in which you and I would be the judges! We can discuss the option in PM, since it will require a little more planning.

I hope this helps, and if I have any more ideas, I'll be sure to message you as soon as possible!

Your dedicated,
Autumn

Dear Ri,

I hate feeling like this, unwanted, unloved, and invisible. I want to take the easy way out, but I somehow don't take it. I feel like I'm not good enough- again.

I feel like I should have friends or someone to at least talk to.. where are the friends when you need them the most?

Sincerely, Ange

Dear Angel,

Oh dear. Well, Angel, I can tell you that I know exactly how you feel. I too have felt like I faded into the shadows, and had no power to change that. But you know what? You'll find that you're powerful enough to do just about anything. Yeah, I know, "But Ri, you make it sound so much easier than it really is, and that's not fair." Well, the thing is, life really isn't fair, and if you want change, you're going to have to work for it.

Keep you chin up though my dear. All you friends here at La Poseurs love and care about you! And if there are any people out there who don't want to talk with you and be your friend, well, they're simply missing out. You are a smart, beautiful, and talented young woman Angel. I can't think of any reason anybody wouldn't want to talk to you. Well, I on the other hand would love to talk to you! Please, if you ever need to talk, don't hesitate to message me, alright?

You are most definitely good enough. You know why? Because there's no such thing as "good enough". As long as you're being you, then there's no way you can get wrong. Your family loves you, have you tried talking to them about it? It may seem scary, but if you open up to maybe your mom or your dad, they could try understanding and make you feel a little better. Like, I talked to my mom about how I felt like she and my sister picked on me too much, and she listened to me and said that it'd stop.

I hope things get better for you Angel, and I hope this helped! Remember, we all love and support you over here at La Poseurs! Plus, if you feel like the friends you have aren't really for-filling their duties as friends, maybe you should open up to some new people. It's something as easy as sitting next to somebody who's by themselves at lunch, or introducing yourself to someone in your classroom. Whatever you do though- stay positive! Things will get better, I promise.

Yours truly,
Autumn

Thanks Ri! I needed that!:)

No problem Ange, I'm always here to help when you need it! <3

Dear Autumn,

I am having mega writer's block, and it's literally killing me on the inside. What should I do?

-Whitnee

Dear Whitnee,

Ugh, writer's block! All of us budding authors have experienced it. Not only is it incredibly frustrating, but it makes you feel as though you've lost your touch. Am I just not creative enough anymore? Have I just run out of ideas? Can I even continue doing this?

Well, I can honestly tell you that there is nothing to worry about. Writer's block is an unwanted, but common occurrence among all those trying to write a story. There are several solutions for you that I could suggest:

Taking a small break. Maybe you're pressing yourself for too much, and in response, your mind is just shutting down. Closing you out. I would suggest doing something that takes your mind off writing, but can still inspire you. This can include something as simple as taking a walk in the park, or watching a marathon of your favorite TV show. It's almost embarrassing how many different ideas I've gotten from some of the shows I watch. The whole point is not to pressure your brain though, and instead give it a small break until something can come to you naturally.

Reading. We're on Goodreads, so it shouldn't be too hard to find a new book that sounds interesting, and maybe find it in your local library, or on an e-reader. Sometimes, you don't even have to begin reading a book! Just doing something as simple as going through book summaries can give you interesting ideas that you can use. Seeing other people's successful creativity can often prompt your own!

Just pushing through it. This one is harder, but it at least keeps things going. You can force yourself to keep writing, and just push through it. Honestly, if you don't let writer's block get a firm grip on you, then you can shake it off. Try to pretend like it's not even there- because really, it's kind of just a small wrinkle in your creative process anyway. It doesn't have any more power than you give it. Just go back to your story, get in the perspective of your character, and think about what should happen to them. Where would they go? How would they react in different situations? Just get yourself to write something.

Writer's block doesn't control you. You have much more power over your creative writing abilities than anything else, and if you believe that writer's block can defeat someone, including you... well, it will. It's like a monster of your own imagination. The more you think about it, the stronger it grows. Whatever technique(s) I listed above that you choose to follow, just make sure that you get writing again soon. That means probably within the week. You had a flow with writing before, if your break is too long, it's going to be a bit harder getting back into it again. Trust me, I know.

I hope this helped, and I hope your writer's block clears away soon! Just remember, have confidence in yourself! You're a capable writer, you're creative, you can do this! :)

Dear Autumn,

Sometimes i feel like i need to do a lot to feel acomplished.But sometimes i don't know who i am anymore.I want to write too,but i never started it.Advice?

Em